It makes so much logical sense, and yet it's the most suprising and confusing thing when good looking people are often so insecure even if they act full of themselves. Let's explore this "phenomenon."
The Poor Hate Their Oppressors
I know a rich guy who was absolutely shocked that that the "ghetto" girls weren't attracted to him because he was so "preppy." Yet, this guy has gorgeous girls so wealthy they could be considered American Princesses super impressed with him because of his last name. But let's think about it, poor people are living in super crappy conditions while rich people are living in excess and laughing about it every step of the way. Similarly, good looking people so often seem to crave the respect of ugly people namely with the old "you have a crappy personality" so often thrown at them by the ugly. Good looking people need to get over this crazy belief that ugly people should want them or even want to be them on a conscious level. They're social equilibrium will of course create a narrative that favors themselves over you. Good looking people need to not care about negativity thrown at them because of their looks.
This is a lot more of the issue than much else. When you're accustomed to getting a lot of positive attention, when you aren't the center or even a passing thought it can mess with you. When you know you're hot and people treat you like you're not in messes with your reality and makes you internally question your value in ways it has no buisness questioning itself. Here's the secret--normal people don't have positive attention given to them just because of the way they look, so when people makes jokes about them or insult them harshly it doesn't really bother their reality that much and they can easily come back with something equally funny or cruel. The Egoistic pretty person says no--everyone has to think i'm amazing or something is wrong. That's just not anyway to be happy in the long run...
Why Didn't It Work?
Similarly, there's this question good looking people go through "why didn't it work?" Why didn't my looks impress these people? Why do they want something different? Why do I look the way 90% of the world would kill to look and I'm still not happy or socially that successful? The myth that looks equals social dominance is true somewhat in the larger sense that people will always always notice you and be attracted to you physically but it doesn't make you a popular person that people have fun being around. In fact, quite the opposite. Justin Timberlake had to spent four months on set explaining to his movie cast that he, in fact, wasn't an a*hole. This is a larger version of the apologizing many good looking people go through everyday and it is here that I say the onus is less on good looking people but society for being massively and collectively insecure in their presesnse. But for every disadvantage, there is an oppurtunity and I for one envision a world where good looking people are oblivious to their good looks--not arrogant nor paranoid about them...
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... can't say I agree with this take in any way. I could address each point individually, but I could basically sum up my entire stance in saying that you realize all of your points make it sound like just because someone happened to be born having won the genetic lottery, that by default makes them devoid of any emotion, or seeing other people, ugly or attractive, as undefined by their appearance?
Do you realize that the people who seem to judge others based almost entirely off of how attractive they are are the ones who fall furthest from society's ideal appearance? That lesser attractive people are the ones guilty of demonizing the more attractive either because of spite, it makes them feel more on level playing ground because they now feel like this belittling the more attractive individuals makes up for their own shortcomings, etc..
Quite ironic if you ask me.
Let's not forget that sure, beautiful people may receive more favorable attention. However, they will also be held to higher standards; more will be expected from them because of their appearance which is an insane idea. Whereas the lesser attractive will generally be given more lee-way. The only times I've seen attractive people benefit from their appearance in which that was the only possible factor was in receiving attention from creeps.
you make good points my point was not to demonized good looking people (I consider myself one) my point was to help good looking people stop being a victim to the jealousy of others and to the ego that comes along with being better looking than others
thank-you. &yeah I get what you're saying but I honestly think that's just fighting a losing battle. Like even if you say those kinds of things in the most neutral way, people who are super bitter about it will turn it against you still, saying that you're just capitalizing on the privilege your good looks give you and what not. That you don't 'actually' care, things like that. :/
but you agree that good looking people should stop getting angry at the meanness they receive?
Yea definitely. This whole idea that someone being 'attractive' in any way has a guaranteed affect on their disposition and opinion of others, by default being negative, is not true and counterproductive by creating more polarization between the lesser/more attractive. Almost as if the lesser attractive individuals want to emphasize this rift so that they can shift the blame for their own shortcomings to resulting from 'unfair treatment'. 🙄