You feel unlucky because in many ways you are unlucky. Your personality hurts your chances with girls because girls in most societies have a predetermined role as the ones being chased and courted, while guys have to not only pursue, but establish value and confidence in order to win her approval. Being shy and introverted cripples this equation, in that you are less likely to pursue and you might not come off as confident and complete.
Even if you had good value, like say a well-paying job and decent looks, you will still struggle with women. Pursuing and having confidence are THAT important. A girl will say yes to another guy that pursues her before ever approaching you and exploring what you have to offer under that shell. She assumes the role of the majority and therefore doesn't have to deviate. Same with the guy who approaches her. That's just the way the majority of relationships form. Outliers like shy guys and unapproachable girls will obviously suffer in their natural roles.
This is not a matter of effort. For many guys, appealing to girls is effortless. Sure, there may be some nervous moments in breaking the ice, but for the most part it wasn't simply effort that forged love. It was a natural meeting of minds and mutual desire. Right now, what's hurting you is your insecurity. You are insecure because you don't have a girlfriend. Insecurity is anti-confidence, and it inhibits your ability to pursue girls. If there is anything you need, it's confidence.
So where do you get that confidence? From you strengths. As cliché as it seems, you are dwelling too much on your weaknesses and consequently minimizing your strengths. You are good at something and somehow forgot because you allowed your weaknesses to make you feel inferior, or unlucky as you put it.
Getting girls is your weakness, so don't bother with it. Ironically, if you stop caring about that and do what you enjoy, you'll feel confident in yourself. That's what girls find attractive.
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dont worry im in the same boat but the weird thing is i never had a problem getting girls until now. it makes me feel like there is a big sign somewhere saying dont date this guy. because i went from dates galore to never being single and always wanted to not being able to even get a fat ugly chick
Feeling unlucky is normal. Love is hard to find, true love is anyway. Many of us think we find it, only for that person to walk out of our lives for one reason or another. Or we may find ourselves falling out of love with them for whatever reason.
I don't think there's something your friends have that you don't. I think they were just able to find people whow want to date them.
Maybe try to be a little less intimidating and more approachable. That could be the real issue here. Approachable people are usually more well liked. Not saying you have to completely change, but just find out how to be more approachable.
You're a guy, and I've noticed guys tend to "single shame" themselves meaning make fun of each other for not having a girlfriend and say their crushes are "way out of your leauge!" But being single is nothing to be ashamed of. I think you just haven't found the right one yet ;)
Finding the right girl is definitely destiny, but feeling bad for having bad luck is foolish. Luck is just chance. You can do nothing about it. Nada. Zilch.
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Don't worry too much about it. Focus on building your career and cultivating your interests. Girls are ultimately attracted to success. If you work on yourself and become good at what you do, you can attract women that way. Play the long game.
Life isn't girlfriend or boyfriend life is more then that you are not unlucky but your time still didn't come yet be patient and wait you will someday find someone who really deserve you.
It all lies in the attitude. Girls just don't like serious that much. It's just much easier to relax and enjoy time when there's no pressure. Seriousness is like a pressure buildup like soda and relaxedness is like water. Be like water.
My tit fondling bro. XD What's up man?
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Hmmm. I don't know bro.Because you still think getting a girl friend is a matter of LUCK and not EFFORT.
What is lacking in you, is the effort.What are you doing to try to find a girlfriend, JustinX? How are you making yourself and your life attractive to women?
Trust me man, you're not alone. I feel the same way. It just might not be meant to be yet. I question myself constantly. All we can do is wait if out but being desperate won't make things better. Sorry dude, it sucks :/
Have you ever tried having a staring contest with yourself?
Notice the reflection won't blink until you do.
Your greatest opponent is yourself.dude consinder yourself lucky... i'm single never have a gf, and i enjoy my freedom
Dude, consider yourself lucky for not having a girlfriend!
Everyone feels that way every once in a while its completely normal.
because it eases tension to blame your lack of success on a lack of luck
it's a natural normal feeling
Suck it up and live life. Ur girl will come along
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