Is it okay to ask a girl how much she weighs?

[Koldhearted]

say you meet a girl on a dating site or app. You start talking, don't have many pics of each other, or the ones you have all hide her body.

So you ask how much she weighs

is this okay?

and if not, what if she asks how tall you are just before you ask

[existing_not_living]

You NEVER, I repeat NEVER ask a girls weight. NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER. Usually on dating sites they tell you the body type of a person i. e. thin, athletic, etc... If you don't see that, then just muster up the courage to ask for a picture. I would never ask a guys weight and if a guy ever asked my weight I wouldn't be answering his messages anymore. Why are you comparing height to weight? It's like comparing a vagina to a penis. Those are two totally different things. There's a lot of damage you can cause after asking someone their weight. I've never heard of people getting offended about being asked their height. If I ask a guy their height, whatever their answer is, I most likely won't stop being attracted to them, but if I found out their weight, my attraction levels might go way down. Weight is a very sensitive topic. Just look at how the media portrays girls and their weight. Either they are seen as beautiful for being skinny, too thin and called anorexic (even if they are not at all) or ugly/gross/unsanitary for being fat OR for being a bigger girl they are praised by saying "Real women have curves," which skinny shames smaller girls. Asking someone's weight is more likely to make a girl or guy feel terrible about themselves and have their self-esteem plummet while asking about height won't bother anyone in the least.

[Koldhearted]

You act as if nobody cares how tall someone is. Fact is, a lot, if not most women, prefer someone taller

How is that ANY different than wanting someone thinner?

[existing_not_living]

Women are not that picky about height! The guy doesn't have to be super tall for us to date him. Guys usually want a girl that's shorter than him. There's nothing wrong with preferring someone taller, shorter or thinner. Preference has nothing to do with the asking of the specific question "What do you weigh?" That's a personal question. It's a taboo question. It doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl, it's not something that you ask someone. You can't compare weight and height. They are two very different things.

[Koldhearted]

You don't think heights a personal question when someone is abnormally tall or short?

If a guy was 5 ft or a girls like 6'5, you don't think it'd be a personal question?

[vmw2008]

I know this is more of a rant question since you threw in the question about her asking for your height, but I don't think asking how tall you are is equivalent to asking how much she weighs. Her asking how much you weigh is equivalent. If you don't trust that she's going to fit your weight requirement based on the pics she's sent, then ask her to send more, or don't go out with her.

[Koldhearted]

women obviously value height more than men, while men value weight more than women

How is this NOT on an even level?

[vmw2008]

I value weight more than height in men.

[Grosayfious255]

Height is uncontrollable, weight is. Therefore asking about a persons weight can be more offensive.

[vmw2008]

I agree.

[Whitestone1]

NEVER ask a girl how much she weighs. Just ask her for more pictures of if she wants to Skype sometime

[Koldhearted]

sooo, should girls NEVER ask how tall a guy is then?

[Whitestone1]

you can ask a girl how tall she is…. asking wight is much different than hight

[Koldhearted]

so let me get this straight

For women, men generally need to be above a certain height to be considered

for men, women generally need to be below a certain weight to be considered

it's okay to see if the man fits the womans criteria, but it's not okay to see if the women fits the mans criteria

Got it

[existing_not_living]

Okay once again, a double standard. Guys can like girls to be short or shorter than them for an ideal height, but if a girl wants a guy to be taller than her or at least taller in general then it's totally unacceptable and deserves to be criticized. Most girls don't care if a guy is super tall. It's not that big a deal. Sure, girls have this fantasy of our perfectly guy being way taller than us, but that's all it is. A fantasy. It doesn't mean it needs to come true. Your points make absolutely NO sense. You say "For women, men generally need to be above a certain height to be considered.
For men, women generally need to be below a certain weight to be considered." Thing is though, that a girl generally needs to be a certain height for a guy to date her, doesn't she? Most guys wouldn't preferably date a girl who is much taller than him or just taller than him. Most girls will usually prefer someone that isn't overweight to someone that is.

[existing_not_living]

Both genders have their faults in that aspect, but it is also fair to assume that a guy's criteria would definitely be met when it comes to height as would the girl's with height. Then you say "It's okay to see if the man fits the woman's criteria, but it's not okay to see if the women fits the man's criteria." It's okay for a guy to see if a woman meets his criteria, but that doesn't exactly deal with the question itself. For me, asking a guy's height is purely out of curiosity and not because I want to see if he "fits my criteria." It's just a fun and simple question and I'd reply by telling my height. Weight is something very personal. Just because you look at someone's exterior doesn't mean you can determine how much they weigh. With height, when you look at someone it is much easier to determine/guess their height. I can usually guess when someone is like 6ft or 5'3 or 5'7 or whatever. You might not even have to ask, but with weight you do.

[existing_not_living]

It's a personal question and it's something you just don't ask unless you're their doctor. I wouldn't ask a guy his weight and I would hope he wouldn't be rude and ask me mine.

[theblvckshvde]

@existing_not_living What one is supposed to do is ask for her weight when she asks for height instead of answering with your height. If she has a problem with it, you block her because she is clearly delusional and a man would deserve a better woman than someone who thinks her feelings are more important than logic. It takes feelings to start a relationship, but takes logic and principle to keep it; which a woman butthurt over "what's your weight" question lacks.

[AllWomenLie]

Yes its OK to ask. But be prepared when they lie or get upset because like my username says AllWomenLie.

[jacquesvol]

If there's a suspicion she might think she's overweight (justified or not!) do NOT ask!

[jacquesvol]

And nearly all girls think they have a weight problem (over or under), thus do NOT ask.

[jacquesvol]

Of course, se is NOT overweight, se's UNDERTALL!

[523206720]

maybe ask her her dress size

[caresless]

In that situation yeah it's ok

[bubbletrouble]

Just ask her for another picture.

[Koldhearted]

so should girls never ask how tall a guy is then? I mean you're implying never to ask how much she weighs

[bubbletrouble]

I couldn't care less if a guy asked me how much I weigh even if I didn't know him. But most girls do. I don't make the rules.

[Findesemana]

no, it's not...