GUYS: if someone you know (family, friend, girlfriend) calls you weak jokingly would you be offended/hurt?

[thewanderingme]

yes, I take offense

no, I think it's funny

other

[Frost_Byt3]

I only have one friend that is noticeably stringer than me. If HE told me i was weak, i wouldn't take offense to it. If it was any of my other guy friends I'd just say "oh yeah? Arm wrestle me then" and whoop his ass. If it was a family member i honestly wouldn't care at all.

But if it was my girlfriend... I'd be horribly offended. It would be like a blow to the gut. It'd put a huuuge dent in my self esteem, and I'd feel useless to her, and that she doesn't need me, and that I've failed as her protector. I don't think there is anything worse a girl can say to her man than "wow you are so weak".

[thewanderingme]

what about a female friend, not a girlfriend, would that hurt your self esteem too?

[Frost_Byt3]

That depends. I have a crush on one of my female friends, and i try to impress her all the time. If she called me weak, I'd feel horrible- like i lost my chance to be with her. If it was any of the others, I'd just brush it off like i do with my guy friends

[thewanderingme]

ok. makes sense.

[Myselfplusrespect]

It really depends on how it's done. If it was around a bunch of other friends that laughed in my face then yes I would get offended. If it was just a couple of people all talking crap to each other and it was just another joke then no it wouldn't bother me.

It depends on the context. You can say it in one situation and it's not a big deal, or in another and that guy will never talk to you again.

[thewanderingme]

more like he's poking fun at you and you jokingly call him a weakling.

[Myselfplusrespect]

Ya under that situation it would not be a big deal at all. I would either laugh and take the joke or one up it but I would not get upset in that case. It was obviously not meant to hurt me.

[thewanderingme]

ok, cool but why does it matter if there are others around?

[Myselfplusrespect]

Well, in the context you put it, it wouldn't matter.

In the context where it is meant to be a little serious, then it becomes very embarrassing and if you are around all your friends and they start laughing and agreeing then that can hurt.

This actually happened to me once. My best friend and I were at a house party. Some girl that liked him was trying to show off by insulting me. Basically calling me weak with her words, my friend agreed with her and kept laughing. It hurt a lot, made me feel like I wasn't worth anything at the time.

Granted that is a much more extreme case than what you have presented but I think you get the idea that in certain contexts it changes everything.

[thewanderingme]

ok, yea. I can understand that

[xxbebosxx]

Why would I be offended if it was someone I know? If it's some random person, then I probably would.

[mattyice31]

follow?

[thewanderingme]

that's interesting. I never care what random people say to me. I consider them irrelevant.

[xxbebosxx]

If a random guy called me something inappropriate or made sexual remarks, I would slap them in their face

[thewanderingme]

I can understand you getting upset, but that doesn't really give you the right to slap them unless they touched you first.

[FallenRangerz]

No but I would consider it as a challenge proposal.

[thewanderingme]

what sort of challenge?

[FallenRangerz]

Whatever she called me weak for I would show her that I can do in a playful way.

[Dnk_honz]

If a friend or even a family member called me weak and they were joking that's fine. But if my girlfriend said something like that to me not only will I take it offensively I'd probably break up with her.

[thewanderingme]

even if she's just kidding?

[Dnk_honz]

She should know better than to joke like that, her so called joke is insulting and emasculating.

[thewanderingme]

ok, well why is it different coming from a girlfriend, why don't you feel emasculated when the others joke with you?

[Dnk_honz]

REALLY? Your question is common sense. The reason i wouldn't take it offensive if my friends or a stranger called me weak is caused at the end of the day "screw/fuck them" on how they feel about me. But my woman is my comfort, my safety net emotionally. Bottom line i want my girl/girlfriend/my woman/wife etc to look at me and thini the best of me. Even if i am small and weak my woman should think of me as the strongest man to protect her. When your girl calls you weak its her basically saying your not good enough. Its like if a man said to his girl your cute but I've seen better, NO WOMAN WANTS TO HEAR THAT, same principle. .

[thewanderingme]

ok, I get where you're coming from now. STOP SCREAMING AT ME THOUGH! ;p

[Theguyoverthere]

C- Other

All based on my mood. Sometimes a joke is great, but if you joke about something like that and I'm not in the right mood, I may not find it funny. A lot of "truth in humor" does actually take place these days.

[thewanderingme]

there's usually at least a small bit of truth in the jokes we make.

[Ulyss]

I wouldn't get offended if I know them personally but if a random guy said it he would get dropped

[thewanderingme]

what about a random female?

[Ulyss]

I would grab her and toss her to the moon nah jk I wouldn't mind that much I would just agree and jokingly said was she the girl who took my lunch money when I was a young child xD

[thewanderingme]

haha, cute ;)

[SurströmmingLover]

I cry uncontrollably and get under my bed covers and watch the movie: The Notebook.

[thewanderingme]

great movie! :p

[akadatank44]

I'd laugh. Show her my bicep and then look at hers and say" Look whose weaker now" :p

[thewanderingme]

haha, so you would feel the need to prove her wrong? ;)

[akadatank44]

Jokingly yes ;)

[Despondency]

I've no family. I believe I might be mildly perturbed but not offended.

[thewanderingme]

I don't believe you. you seem very sensitive.

[Despondency]

I am moody but not sensitive. The value of all lives is the same to me: Null.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Ex did that to me haha what a challenge and now she's my ex.

[thewanderingme]

what do you mean by challenge?

[thewanderingme]

that's not why you broke up with her though?

[OrdinaryGentleman]

No no but it was something that bothered me, it doesn't make you feel like a good boyfriend if she calls you weak or things like that all the time.

[thewanderingme]

wow, all the time is pretty bad.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Yeah I like to think of myself as helpful loving and protective but if calling me weak rather than strong is a thing someone does to me on the fly then i get offended

[Anonymous]

Really depends on the context. Sometimes would be amusing, other times a sign of disrespect.

[thewanderingme]

when would you consider it disrespectful?

[Opinion Owner]

Depending upon who is there, in front of other people is the biggest problem

[thewanderingme]

I don't see why it should matter if there are people around or not. it's still the same thing.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

No i would just laugh it off

[thewanderingme]

awesome! ::high 5:: ;)

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Thank You :) high 5 back :-D

[JCT666]

Jokingly? No.

[thewanderingme]

ok, cool. (:

[sagari]

I would only that you're no better than me.

[thewanderingme]

only what?

[sagari]

Say*

[emerald77]

No. Because I know I'm not so I would just laugh.

[gobsmacked3]

It takes a lot to offend me, so no

[thewanderingme]

cool cool cool.

[BigbuttLvr]

No one would say that to me.

[thewanderingme]

ok, that's not much of an answer...

[Anonymous]

If it was a joke, then probably not

[YazanAA]

No not at all

[thewanderingme]

cool.