Any tips on writing to an ex that's in boot camp?

[DarkChains]

Almost 5 year relationship, was long distance for about a year till I moved into the same state, was planning on moving there since I lived there before and loved it, but meeting him made me move sooner then expected. We had our usual ups and downs mainly cause of my jealousy but I did get over it, but we both loved each other very very much. But he suddenly left on memorial day claiming he didn't love me anymore, I was shocked and hurt, the 2nd time he left but the 1st time was online and a day of silence got him back, this time it was in person and its been over 6 months now.

Since the breakup, I found out he liked my friend who doesn't like him like that, both are going to the air force but she decided a few months before the break up and he decided shortly after the break up but I knew he was considering it and was going to support him if he went through with it. Its like since I found out about him liking my friend, I've grown this hate towards him and became kind of mean towards him, not like REALLY mean but enough for my friend and his to notice something was up.

Saw him last sunday and while he took me home I cried and told him I still loved him, and I don't hate him, just hate what he did to me, he knew all that apparently. He looked like he was going to cry but instead kissed my forehead which he has done on one of our 1st dates, and said 'promise me something, write to me while I'm gone' I planned to but didn't think he wanted me to since I'm an ex that he claims to be completely over but still acts like he is still interested in like he doesn't want to admit it.

Just wondering what I should write to him, have no idea other then like 'hows it going' and stuff like that, I know I probably shouldn't bring up my feelings again unless he mentions it but I'm still unsure what to do.

[bnwsmile]

To be totally honest ANYONE in basic likes people to write to them because of just simply having some support and a distraction from their surroundings. Be supportive and let him come to you. I wouldn't beg to be back with anyone ESPECIALLY if they hurt me. I would make my feelings known then I would move on. If they wanted to make a move on it then so be it because the ball would now be in their court. Don't act like you're weak and that you need him. It will turn him onto you even more if he sees that you can be happy and carefree without him. Men LOVE stable women. Ask him how things are going and what it's like while letting him know that writing is somewhat awkward since you've expressed your feelings for him and await his letter in response to yours.

Basic is hard and emotions run rampant. If you're what he wants to think about trust me he has the time to do it and "get his head straight".

Best of Luck and Happy Holidays!

[DarkChains]

I did probably seemed needy when I told him my feelings, but I gotta change that. I am hopping he will think of me at least while there, and I'm gonna try to not tell him my feelings for him while writing unless he brings it up, but as of now I have no idea about his address, suppose to find out from his parents whom I'm VERY close with esspesially his mother. He also wants pictures of me, tho he told everyone else that so he will have a reminder or me other then thinkin and letters.

[bnwsmile]

He'll be at Lackland Air Force Base in Texas and when you do get his address it will be weird. (Unit Number, bldg number etc, lol.)

I would send a nice picture but nothing more than what I would give a family friend. Let him ask you for more of them. I think he should be the one to openly express his feelings to you now since you have already let yours be known. This way you know if you're going to be heartbroken again soon into the relationship. It's hard but it's much needed reassurance.

[shadwspeeder]

I would describe to him of your expierence. Ask him how things are going with the other girl, tell him how great your life and friendships are going. Tell him your point of view, but be happy about it. Then, ask him if that really was the end, and you'll know. Tell him how happy you were to have him, of the great expierences you two had, and if he really does want to end it, tell him also how you would look for another man, and find complete happiness. Ask him to be honest as you are, and that things in your life will only get better! Be happy. Ask him about his expieriences.

[Reeses-pieces777]

well ask yourself what makes you want to write to him. he is an ex bf, and if you're on good terms just be general about it. I mean, I don't have anything to do with ex bf's. I don't write them letters of sympathy or even say hi to them if I see them. everyone's different though but I'd just suggest something general

[Android]

You can share things going around you and ask the same from him. And better don't write to him. He is happy in his life with XYZ girl. If he really loves you and has any feeling, he will comeback. You should carry on your life. You surely get better guy than him. All the best.

[Standingpretty]

Yeah I agree with this guy, you don't need to do anything for this guy. He didn't give you an explaination so he doesn't need one either.

[jacquesvol]

You forgot to tell WHY he was sent to this boot camp? Is it standard procedure to get enlisted in the air force or is it because he's such a nice guy?