People are allowed to have their own opinions and preferences, yes. I'm fine with people not liking some kinks. But sometimes people are just downright dickfucks about voicing their opinions towards certain kinks. It's possible to say you don't understand or get a kink without insulting the people who DO enjoy the said kink. Honestly, I promise, it's possible.
Lmfao the post. I think the kinks people shame are the ones that would be harmful out of context. People who enjoy hard core bdsm have a legit kink. People who "kink shame" it probably think that the aggressor is manipulating the sub, and that the sub has probably had traumatic experiences that make them want to be a sub and that they are being taken advantage because there must have been some psychological trauma that makes them accept being beaten.
Other shaming like pedo shaming I think is justified. People will literally say that being a pedo is another "sexuality" like gay bi or straight is. I don't think hats right, I think they just have a psychological issue where they don't know how to be attracted to sexually mature humans and even if they don't go out and actually molest children it is NOT somethig you should say out loud "I'm attracted to children but I'm a good person because I don't molest them" wtf?
But at the end of they day you can leave it at home in the bedroom and you don't have to identify and bee seen as (person with ______ kink) 24/7. So I hate when it's compared to homophobia and other forms of bullying. No matter what kink you have if you are straight you can leave all your kinky shit in the bedroom and walk around in public holding your significant other's hand and no one will judge you. Gay people have to deal with the bullying and the stares at all times. Whereas if you don't tell everyone you have a certain kind no one will know and you won't get shamed!
I am sick of being shamed for disliking something. I'm sick of people using the word Shaming to make everyone who has a less than positive opinion on something seem like a monster.
I do kink shame, I think it's really fucked up that some people pretend to be kids and have role play sex. I think they have some issues. I'm not actually shaming, I'm voicing my opinion.
There's a few things that I find personally repulsive, but I agree with you. Why do you have to be a dick about it? It's just as easy to say "no thanks. not my style" or something similar.
I don't judge anyone for their kinks, unless they are harming the innocent, i. e. children that don't know any better. That I would blast off about.
I agree with you totally. I believe deep down everybody has some kink in them. Whether they partake or not is up to them. I think if we apply basic rules to them once no one is being abused physically, intellectually or emotionally. It is safe, consensual, legal to participants and others who may be involved. I don't know if I have covered everything but it is a common sense thing - To me to criticise someone for having kinky sex would be the same as criticising two gay people for having sex which I totally support because I am not gay myself therefore to support gay sex and criticise kinky sex because I don't have that fetish would be hypocritical of me.
I honestly have never really even heard of people being shamed for that since most of the time that kind of stuff happens behind closed doors so it's between you and your partner. And you should obviously compromise and or respect what they do or do not want to do or find disgusting in their eyes.
If you are referring to other people though who you have no connection to and do not know then it's really none of my concern what they do, unless it's like something just morally screwed up and universally wrong, then I don't care what other people do behind closed doors that's their business.
Yes, and it's even worse if you have specific kinks that some would find disgusting. I can't remember how many times I've heard people shame those that do the Daddy Daughter thing. Like, if they enjoy it and it hurts no one, why call them weird or disgusting? It's just another subset of BDSM.
Well, I haven't seen a lot of kink-shaming nor have I gotten a lot myself (though in fairness I'm pretty vanilla). I think most people are aware that everyone has a bit of a kink here or there and are pretty tolerant to it.
People look at me weird, though, when I say I like muscular women. They obviously make a lot of assumptions to go with it which aren't accurate.
Sure some people do. I think it just comes down to finding someone with similar kinks though. I'm not kinky at all so I'll find someone without kinks. I don't judge or think less of people who aren't vanilla like me.
Some kinks are harmless and some taboos like pedophilia, incest, scat play, whatever eating people for sexual satisfaction is called are bad for society because they encourage and/or bring about harm to others, disease, genetic weakness, etc,
I agree. But I don't think people SHOULD try everything, some things just don't sound right for some people. That's fine. But yeah, don't talk shit about something or people because you don't understand where they're coming from.
Well totally, like there's some thing I would NEVER try, but I"m not going to say its disgusting or gross etc because some people are into it and I don't think it's fair to shame something I'm totally ignorant to right?
sometimes even trying it once or twice isn't enough... and in either case, you try it and don't like it but someone else does, still no reason to shame it.
my kink is anal, I won't date a gal not into it... most I've been with have been experienced, but a handful have had to "learn" and some took more than a few tries to get it, and like it..
It is something that requires a bit of patience and getting used to... that being said, some women are just not built for it... some are. Most I've been with love it, but all say it was a mountain climb to get over the initial discomfort after the first few times.. take that for what it's worth.
(Sarcasm) Who wants to get off their high horse, when it is sooo comfortable up there? 😑
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Anonymous
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I don't like how everyone is saying "consenting adults". What about 2 consenting teens? (Not "legally" consenting, really consenting. The law doesn't decide if you want something or not)
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Anonymous
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I don't give a fuck what people do really, but I think it's okay for me to find some things disgusting. lol
Part of BDSM is being humiliated, the desired effect is to bring out character, I think we do what we do to be better people, and of course get our kink on, lol
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