So my brother had his friends over and they were talking about the girls that rejected them.
It seemed like they really enjoyed the fact that especially the "stuck up", popular and/or really attractive ones gained weight. Smug satisfaction.
Literally, they'd be like "Remember _____, when you asked her out? Guess what, she's fat af now." And they'd all laugh and be like "ha! Serves her right for being conceited".
Or another one was having multiple babydaddies, or being a single mother. However, there seemed to be a consensus that a single mother is more dateable than a large woman. That sounds so degrading to say, but it's their standards and how they feel.
Also, if you've ever disagreedwith someone online, if you're female, you've probably been called "fat" as a generic insult. I know I have, especially when I don't have my pic up, people throw that "oh you must be a bitter fat chick" line. I'm bitter lol but not fat.
So my question is, why is being "fat" such an insult for women?
And I guess poll question, would you rather date a big woman or single mother?
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If you hate someone and something bad happens to them many people feel joy cause they might feel like the person they hate "deserves it" or that it's "karma". I don't think it's any deeper than that, and some people just love seeing successful people fail, probably because of their own feelings of being inadequate.
I don't think anyone likes being rejected but in this scenario the guy obviously felt bitter about her rejecting him, so now he feels happy knowing that she's considered unattractive, as if that was some karma she deserved, even though there's obviously no logic behind that.
"if you're female, you've probably been called "fat" as a generic insult."
I'm a guy and I've been called fat multiple times online as well, even tho I have abs lol. It's not as much of a gendered insult as you seem to believe it is. The reason women take it harder cause girls are taught since their childhood to take care of their looks where as boys are focused on other things. So being considered unattractive is a bigger blow to girls than it is for guys, at least on average.
Fat is an insult cause it's caused by a combination of your own laziness/gluttony/ignorance. It's no one's fault but yourself. It's also exclusively a first world problem, there are people starving all around the world and then you stuff yourself so full of food that you become much fatter than a healthy human is supposed to be.
And honestly I wouldn't date either, maybe if I was single after like turning 35 I'd consider dating someone who had a child.