So I've been with my boyfriend for almost two weeks (I know it's not a long time). but after a little over a week I noticed he'd become distant and less affectionate. So I asked him about it. He is a cop and recently had to switch his schedule to 3rd shift. He said that he was stressed out because of things going on and just had a lot on his mind, as well as just not feeling well. We have also spent A LOT of time together since becoming official (I'd say about 6 days a week, and I'd spent most of those nights at his place).
The other morning he could tell something was on my mind, so he asked. And I told him I felt he was being distant and I also felt it was something to do with me. He assured me it had nothing to do with me and didn't ever want me to feel that way. Then today I said to him how he seems to be less affectionate and only kisses me really when we say goodbye. But he still cuddles with me at night, pays for my meals (but I've also paid for some of his) when we eat out, and he still opens doors for me. He just seems to be feeling "down" and not his usual joking, smiling self. It seemed the first week we were together he couldn't keep his hands off me.
He sent me a text earlier tonight after I had left his house and basically said thanks for coming over and for dinner and everything. He said he really enjoyed it. Also said he was sorry for being distance and what not and promises it's not me. He said he just has a lot going on right now and on his mind and just needs to sort things out. He asked that I please bare with him, but he will understand if I can't. and there may be some days where he needs to be alone, but not to take it personal. Which I told him in the beginning that I would be okay with seeing him like 3 days a week. He just didn't object to see me often and I didn't object either. So I asked him if he was having doubts being in a relationship. I told him I'm willing to work through things but if it feels like a chore, then to let me know. He said he is not having doubts about that. He just has a lot going on that he needs to get through, and that he doesn't want to hurt me or make me feel otherwise. I basically just let him know if he needed to talk or needed anything, I would be there for him. Would a guy admit if they really didn't want a relationship right now? Would they get out if they saw an opportunity to leave if it was what they truly wanted? I do know he's not happy where he is at in life. He is only working part time right now and wants a full time job, and is living with his mom again cause his roommate screwed him over.
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The other morning he could tell something was on my mind, so he asked. And I told him I felt he was being distant and I also felt it was something to do with me. He assured me it had nothing to do with me and didn't ever want me to feel that way. Then today I said to him how he seems to be less affectionate and only kisses me really when we say goodbye. But he still cuddles with me at night, pays for my meals (but I've also paid for some of his) when we eat out, and he still opens doors for me. He just seems to be feeling "down" and not his usual joking, smiling self. It seemed the first week we were together he couldn't keep his hands off me.
He sent me a text earlier tonight after I had left his house and basically said thanks for coming over and for dinner and everything. He said he really enjoyed it. Also said he was sorry for being distance and what not and promises it's not me. He said he just has a lot going on right now and on his mind and just needs to sort things out. He asked that I please bare with him, but he will understand if I can't. and there may be some days where he needs to be alone, but not to take it personal. Which I told him in the beginning that I would be okay with seeing him like 3 days a week. He just didn't object to see me often and I didn't object either. So I asked him if he was having doubts being in a relationship. I told him I'm willing to work through things but if it feels like a chore, then to let me know. He said he is not having doubts about that. He just has a lot going on that he needs to get through, and that he doesn't want to hurt me or make me feel otherwise. I basically just let him know if he needed to talk or needed anything, I would be there for him. Would a guy admit if they really didn't want a relationship right now? Would they get out if they saw an opportunity to leave if it was what they truly wanted? I do know he's not happy where he is at in life. He is only working part time right now and wants a full time job, and is living with his mom again cause his roommate screwed him over.
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