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This is a hard one because some men don’t care about what a woman is wearing. It’s a case of them leaving their home with the sole purpose of finding a female to do that too and it’s a case of being in the wrong place at the wrong time regardless of your clothes. But there are also guys who go out and do not intend to rape a woman. Say he meets her she’s being flirty and saying yes to start with then changes her mind and says no, some men ignore that change of mind and feel because she said yes before, that still stands. It’s not always about what a girl is wearing but more about the male. I’ve had a guy I said no to and he still tried. I was drunk and he tried to use that to his advantage. He wanted me and me saying no was not what he wanted to hear!! Luckily I had good friends who intervened! I’ve also had guys who I said no to and they respected that and walked away.
I mean if people have no issues raping babies then I don’t really see how clothing plays a part in it
It’s a sad world
I do not think that any one (despite what keeps being stated) thinks that the clothes increase the chance of rape. What is believed (and rightly so) is that behavior can increase your chances of rape. If you are flirty and drinking you can give the wrong impression and with impaired judgment and others having impaired judgment your chances increase. If your drinking and you don't watch your drink this opens you up to exploitation by bad people (no different then walking down a dark alley in a bad neighborhood at night. You may not be asking for it, you may not deserve it, but your actions are putting you in a situation where its far more likely to occur and your trusting in bad people to just choose not to be bad (which is foolish)).
Yes, bad people do bad things but they generally do so if they think they can get away with it. If your drunk that makes you an easy target. Men go through the same kinds of things (not, generally anyway, being taken advantage of when drinking but other ways), we are just taught that we need to avoid those situations (like not walking down dark alleys in bad neighborhoods) because the likelihood of a bad person just not being bad is well 0%. I think a lot of women seem to mix up these two notions, of men talking about ways to avoid the problem and women assuming that they are some how "blaming" the victim (they are not. We just understand that a rapist isn't a rapist because they don't know its wrong, they absolutely do they just don't care).
As for your situation, I hope the situation was averted before it got bad, bad people tend to prey on those they think they can victimize (they tend to be cowards that way).
Wow, did you get help? That seems rather extreme/bold to do that in a public setting like that.
It was at a house party and he pushed me into the restroom. I really believe that my tight skinny jeans saved me that night even I had trouble taking them off.
I just left with my friend.
This happened years ago and I think there is a greater understanding of what is right, wrong and what to do about.
Did you call him out on it? I mean call the cops or tell some friends? Not exactly something you want him to get away with.
It won't make the slightest bit of difference, because I don't think rape is as much about lust, as in the exercise of power by one person over another.
"Its about power" I feel like that is just something people repeat without questioning it. I think rape is about wanting sex and getting it by force. But for sake of argument what would power have to do with it? quillette.com/.../
@JimRSmith I think it’s motivated by both lust and a desire to exercise power, personally. There’s gotta be a reason some power hungry people choose to rape someone rather than other means of exerting their will over them, like mugging them, beating them up, or whatever else.
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In my personal experience you have been harassed sexually for the clothes that I wore. Don't wear something that you would not be proud of. If you are ready sexually appealing just by your physical looks alone, nine out of 10 times no matter what you wear you will still attract their attention. It's best you don't wear clothes that is to form fitting to your body. The reveals too much of your cleavage, and does not exposed too much of how your curves are. These are the things what gets men to lust after you, especially if you already got the body that they desire. They will still try to go after you anyway, but you will have far less of an issue if you just do it right for yourself. An example is that you have a girl that is big chested like me, but you wear a low v-neck cut shirt. That is not a good thing because we are already got the bust. We don't need guys to get the idea that we want the attention. At the same time, even if you are dressing modestly, remember that how you choose to interact with these men will determine whether or not they're going to attempt to do these things. If they stopped calling and whistling at you, ignore them. Do not give them the time nor the attention of the day. I had a lot of guys tell me that the only reason why they do these things is because Other Woman allow them to do it. So that means even if someone like me trying to tell him that all women are not the same, they still going to think that it's okay to do because other woman who allow it will still do it.
You also have to have an understanding of how the men think. Men think about sex every 5 minutes all day everyday. Especially if they are already sexually active. So why would you be stupid enough to entice for the problems to you. You got to be mindful of the culture you have. Because our culture is most sexually revealing, that's all it really takes to entice a man want to have sex with you. And I know because my own father was like that when he was younger. He felt that if women was not going to give him sex he felt like becoming a rapist. So is less to do about power, and more about motivation sexually. As long as women continue to give men power to allow them to have free sexual choices before marriage especially, this is what gets them to desire it more. They feel they are entitled to get what they want, no matter who the victim is. The thing is is that a person especially a woman who holds the stuff around it's not as sexually exciting to rapist as those that are unwilling. Which means you don't always try to wear a low-cut skirt just to attract a man. If you're already got Curves in the thighs in the hips and you're wearing a skinny jeans, remember you are showing him the shape of your body. It doesn't take much for a man to imagine what you'll be like naked.
And I'm not the only one who almost been a victim of rape, besides been a victim of sexual harassment and unwanted touching. I know people personally who has been molested and rape grown up as children, as well as those that I have met online years ago who had been raped by people they personally knew. Two girls I meant was raped by their so-called boyfriend, and one was raped by male friend that was lusting after her since elementary school. All these scenarios had one or more things in common. All of them believe that it was okay to have premarital sex outside of marriage, and every guy was lusting after these girls and these girls knew it prior to the rapes. Remember, it's not so much of just power, yes it is lust, but it's also about entitlement. You can't tell men not to rape, but you giving them easier access to do so. That's why back in ancient times when premarital sex was more of a pagan thing to do, there are not a lot of rapes as it is today. The only problem is is that a lot of women would be shamed solely just because she's a woman. Just by being born a woman was considered a cursed, because you are not allowed to have your own job, or take care of yourself if you would not given in marriage or was already virgin.
No, women in general do not ask to be rape verbally speaking. But it's through their body language, through that actions, do meaning and symbolism of what they wear is it represents what it's truly in their heart, what they allow and and what they believe speak that language for rapist. includes for female rapist as well. That's another reason why I stay away from a lot of girls to find that behavior acceptable, because those are the same ones who may God forbid seek to get you raped. I don't always blame the men, I blame women too. No one should ever generalize and look at this from a case-by-case basis.
What she is wearing has absolutely nothing to do with her risk of being raped.
Rape is about power over someone else, weaker, smaller. A person who rapes won't go after you because of your clothing, or lack there of, they will go after you because they can, because they want to.
The only counter to it is to learn self defense. Even that might not work..
And no I'm not an advocate for things like "teach men not to rape" because that kind of thing is only perpetrated by a very small portion of the population.. and also because women rape, molest, and sexual assault too.
While I DO think that wearing revealing clothing can play a part in a rapest selecting a target of opportunity, there is still some additional context. It's also about WHERE you wear such clothes and the situation.
Going to places where people are drinking (a bar, a house party) and where there is little to no sober security puts you at higher risk, and in those situations, clothing can make it more likely to be targeted - especially if you (the girl) are also drinking. You may have a guy who is a criminal, but can keep himself out of trouble when he is sober, but as soon as he is drunk or high, he reverts back to being a criminal rapest on the hunt for a victim, and THAT guy can be drawn in by revealing clothing.
I'm in no way justifying the rape no matter what the girl is wearing, but you can't be naive enough to believe that clothes play no role ever.
Unlike some others, I do believe that what a woman wears can increase her chances of being raped. Simply by wearing clothes that are more noticeable, and make the girls stand out more, can make her noticed more easily, including by a rapist. Even if the clothes are modest. it's logical that being noticed is necessary in order to be raped. Of course I'm way over simplifying this. I do not believe that the majority of women who are raped, are raped because a rapist saw something in their clothing that made them take notice of them above anyone other women. Just sometimes. I also believe that this is absolutely no excuse for rape. A woman should be able to walk down the street naked, and not be raped.
The answer, of course, is that her choice of clothing won't make a lick of difference.
But, in the spirit of your post, I shall offer an alternative:
Wearing revealing clothing does not get a woman raped. That's the stupidest thing I ever heard.
People do not rape because they are turned on.
People rate for power, authority, and control. It is more common for more reserved people to get raped in the world.
"revealing clothing increases a woman's chance of being raped."
Well they very well could. That doesn't mean it's okay. But scumbags who do these things could be more likely target a woman who's wearing very revealing/sexy outfits. No, that doesn't mean it's okay, no that does not mean it's the woman's fault. But you can't be anti-factual about it.
I do think modest dress plays a part in rape. I only wear skirts cause in the Bible it says a woman shall not dress like a man and a man shall not dress like a woman (I’m paraphrasing, and I’m Jewish btw). You don’t have to cover from head to toe. I think if you cover your waist, stomach, bum, thighs, and chest with normal clothes (not super tight ones) then that’s modest. And wear shorts under skirts always or leggings. I think wearing revealing clothing just makes people think about sex even subconsciously and there’s no need to be thinking about that all the time.
Of course some people say rape is to show dominance and power and in that case I don’t know if clothing plays a part.
Just because you dress modestly doesn’t mean you can’t have style! I get so many compliments on all my outfits and I got
to a public high school.
@JimRSmith hit the nail on the head.
But I don't know, maybe they could wear an entirely carpeted morph suit, so if anyone tries to stick it in em, the static electricity'll shock em in the eurethra.
Urethra*
I don't know why I spelled it that way.
http://imgur.com/j8VGI
Or there's this 👆
I don't have a vagina...
But the fact that people would want a shark pussy to protect themselves from getting raped is pretty metal.
I'd probably do it
1. Stop being paranoid. Your beliefs help dictate your reality. If you believe you're gonna get raped, you will unconsciously take actions that will lead you into those kinds of dangerous positions
2. Surround yourself with good people.
3. Stop listening to feminist media. Links to point number 1. Your paranoia of guys will make it more difficult for you to have a legitimately decent relationship with decent people. Not to mention feminism does more harm to actual victims of sexual assault by purporting false allegations.
4. Exercise emotional and social intelligence to weed out anyone with negative habits and attract those with positive ones.
5. Learn self defense.
Option D will probably do, C for certain cultural backgrounds. But in general its only the fault of the clothes if it has text on it like "I love forced sex, fuck me rough i want you to". Other then that people need to keep there hands at home.
As for a nice balance between sexy and modest for a day out?
First and last one are funny 😂
Non of them would make any difference when it comes to it most times.
Just like other perpetrators they are looking for a certain prey that fits in to what they are after.
Many times is it how we behave, what kind of signals we project.
Saying you have herpes or HIV won't stop a rapist. Most of the time the rapists already have those diseases and they are just giving the finger to the world.
Covering up or saying you are a man won't work either. If you look pretty to them they will find a hole to use.
Full armor will work if you also carry a knife or weapon.
My best advice would be to carry pepper spray, or a gun. Pepper spray doesn't need much practice. If you choose taking a gun , get properly trained. Confrontations go so quick and you can't be fumbling around.
This is by far one of the most ridiculous things I've seen on this site.
Exactly. None of these outfits would 'reduce' the risks of being raped.
@Unit1 bikini is typically a women's two-piece swimsuit featuring two triangles of fabric on top, similar to a bra and covering the woman's breasts, and two triangles of fabric on the bottom, the front covering the pelvis but exposing the navel, and the back covering the buttocks.[1][2] The size of the top and bottom can vary from full coverage of the breasts, pelvis, and buttocks, to very skimpy designs like a thong or G-string that cover only the areolae and mons pubis, but expose the buttocks.
Us Women should NOT have to dress according to anyone or anything, it is NOT OUR FAULT that some men in this disgusting world loose control easily, that is their fault. They should be able to control themselves despite what they see or do !
Your clothing is not important... Children in light up shoes are getting raped. I really wish people would stop policing women's bodies. Rapists are what women shouldn't wear. Fuck them.
Dress like the clown from It. They will be too confused or scared if they have a phobia of clowns.
They can wear anything they like, all they have to learn how to kick the balls out! that would best way to deal with rapist!
No, hit on the ball hardest possible so they won't be remain men anymore!
I think your being a bit stupid here - but perhaps that's your point.
Here's what women could do:
Wear a fake bomb vest.
Or:
1. Splash in the water for a long time
2. Through evolution, become a dolphin.
You could say that, but you'd be better of being a big ass dolphin. The size of a dolphin would already deter rapists
Rape is not determined by clothes. Women who wear burqas get raped, and so do babies that can’t even talk yet. It has nothing to do with clothes and everything to do with a desire for power.
Rape is unfortunate but there's no way to eliminate yourself from becoming a potential victim, solely by the way you dress.
You'd more likely be robbed for your clothes than actually raped.
Dress in a military outfit.
If your rapist is gonna try to rape, he’ll think twice if you’ve been in the military.
Either that, or wear what I’d call a porcupine suit. It’s a suit covers in spikes, He wouldn’t get near to you.
A suit of armor would work.
What about a body suit of a man. A guy wouldn’t rape you if he thinks you’re a guy.
And you know, do the guilt trip. A little makeup and shaving your head to make it look like you survived cancer.
Not sure but, the lady in the armour, I would take her out on a date.
Yeah I will woo her with my charms, and a bottle of champagne and some flowers.
No I will pop the cork, like a normal person.
here you go
Sadly I think not because from what I understand it doesn't have a great deal to do with the sexual act it's more about power control and dominationperhaps you should wear a gun holster in certain shoot the bastards
The only thing that would make a difference is wearing a barrel around your legs
Sadly, none of these outfits would actually protect a woman from being raped.
I’d suggest something like this instead:
This girl won't get raped no matter what she is wearing.
There's no sure fire answer however, I think spreading a message that gives an assalient a reason to reconsider attacking is a good defense. That and the armadillo approach might just make you a friend in my book.
Make sure to stuff your pants so your potential attacker thinks you have a bigger penis than him and are therefore his superior.
People that rape, rape regardless. So I don't know what would detur them except for maybe someting that indicates you have a gun or somethimg
Nothing. A rapist will rape you even if you're dressed like a ninja from head to toe.
Armor, can't go wrong with body armor and a crapton of weapons.
(That was sarcasm for the record, the victims clothing doesn't matter. Though most rapists that I have met would probably avoid a woman like that)
A course in self-defense, and whatever the heck she WANTS to wear!
The only thing that would change shit would be filling your pussy with concrete
Dont shower and wear bubba teeth!
Sadly unless she has pepper spray. A knife, or a gun it makes no difference..
I don’t know if those would make a big difference, but they’re funny ideas. lol
I was going to rape her ut then I saw her t shirt. - said no rapsit ever
The suit of armour, with a chastity belt underneath.
The Sig Sauer P238 .380 in my Montana West seems to reduce my fear of rape or mugging.
I voted armadillo because she looks like she can fight. Assaulters look for victims. It’s not necessarily being turned on.
Clothes don't cause rape. Rapists do. We need to make sure we don't create situations that make people rapists.
A lot of rapists here in India didn't even know what consent meant. If we could teach them that.
Then also trying to understand what goes through a rapists mind and try to fix that.
Yes!
First, this isn't a real question. Second, any of them would probably work as you've defined the question. And lastly, it's not that simple.
Dont think it matters. If a person is considering rape nothing but a gun or knife will stop them.
Picture nber 3 is a muslim
I am like :
How about instead of wearing clothes with pointless shit on it, you go to a martial arts center and learn how to fight so you are able to defend yourself. or maybe if you have the option, get a weapon so you can effectively protect yourselves.
Choice E: Dress like a radical feminist. Do this and no man will come close.
Sit in fake blood so it looks like you have a period stain
Doesn't matter what you wear. Rape culture don't exist and society is still in in favor of women for being women.
Which is why they prevent that. There are laws for rape
Cover from Head to Toe.
Naturally a woman should cover up anyway.
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Everything else short of a walking fortress is going to get torn down.
She should dress like an armadillo, I don't know if it will decrease nothing, but I'm sure it will be fun.
Get a passport, wear it in your pocket. Use it to travel to countries not flooded with third world filth and you too can avoid the Islamic snuggle.
Carry pepper spray and maybe a concealed gun if you have a permit
Dress doesn't matter much. Being aware of your situation and avoiding potentially dangerous ones does.
Funny how 95% of women dress like their asking for it tho..
Where is the salami Guillotine for that comment?
butt: What do you mean "dress like they ask for it"? Do you mean to say, 95% of women deliberately dress in a certain way, because they want to be raped? That is what dressing like they are asking for it means. Yes, women dress in ways that are designed to get attention, and to get sexual attention. But both of these are not asking to be raped. You could say the same thing about someone wearing a good pair of shoes. They are asking to be robbed. Or someone wearing old clothes, they are asking to be run over in the crosswalk. Neither is true, and neither do women wear clothes asking to be raped. Whether or not it's a good thing or a moral thing to wear certain clothes is debatable, but no woman wears clothes to be raped.
@markscott in contrast with the outfits suggested here the average woman is asking for it
butt: That's pure garbage. The average women does not want to be raped, and does not dress to be raped. Though wearing something that gets a person's attention may lead to a rapist noticing them, by wearing the clothing, the person is certainly not asking to be raped. And certainly 95% of the women I know don't even dress in a way that you would think would attract a rapist, they just dress normally. Women can't walk around with boxes covering them from neck to toe. They have a shape that is appealing, and their faces look nice. Even if you cover their entire body in cloth, guys know what is underneath, and could still rape them.
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