Who's worse: The bully or the bystander? (Page 2)

[HereIbe]

The bully. Have YOU ever rushed someone in a fight, not knowing if that psycho asshole is packing a gun or not?

When did you do it?

[Reddwolf]

I was bullied until I got so tired of it he even bullied me away from school then I just snapped and punched him three times

[stormbreaker06]

Bully. Victim if physically able should fight for themselves

[Anonymous]

The bystander is never responsible for the bully’s actions against them. It is, however, up to the bystander to make sure the bully doesn’t rear their ugly head again.

[TheCloud2]

Yes i have been bullied and due to that i have been pantsed, pm me if you want to hear the story i was pantsed infront of the whole class

[Anonymous]

I was bullied in my childhood, i dont find anything wrong there. Sometimes critics and hatred make you better not usually insecure.

[Anonymous]

Unpopular (but true and correct) opinion: the one being bullied is the worst.

[dropkicknj13]

Where is my "The victim" option? Lol

[sarahbear1750]

Woah that’s interesting! How can the victim be just as bad?

[dropkicknj13]

Because bullies select targets based off their characteristics like being fat, weak, socially awkward, etc. Things that are generally looked down upon by everyone which is part of why nobody stops the bully. If you are the victim of bullying it means these problems are being directly pointed out to you, and if you continue to be the victim it means that you have chosen to not address that problem or the problem of being bullied.

If it is bad not to help others (like the bystanders) it must be worse not to help yourself.

[sarahbear1750]

Agree! Though there are some thugs that can’t be helped. What if someone got bullied for being down-syndromed? Or got bullied for a facial deformity? You don’t bully these people-you have to learn to get along with them and be kind to them☺️

[sarahbear1750]

*things

[dropkicknj13]

They have to learn to deal with it. If it's something were you can't address the problem then you have to address the problem of being bullied.
We might want everyone to get along and be kind to them but that isn't how life works and they have to learn to handle negative interactions. For people who are actually incapable though like the mentally retarded or people with downs it is pretty rare that nobody intervenes.

[sarahbear1750]

I definently agree there are a lot of a-holes in the world. And I do agree victims should be able to know how to handle negative interactions. I just don’t see how it’s their fault or how they’re worse than the bully or the bystander simply because what? They’re overweight or socially inept? 🤷‍♀️

[dropkicknj13]

It's not really their fault initially, only if they stay the victim. Refusing to take action is the same thing we blame the bystander for.

[Selena98]

The bystander cause they watched and did nothing.

[hellacray]

A bystander fuels a bully's rage?

How?

[sarahbear1750]

I think that by being a bystander and not doing anything to help the victim, it enables the bully to further torture the victim since no one steps in

[hellacray]

Ok... If the bully was already beating up the victim what difference would it make if there was someone watching or not?

If no one was there the bully probably would have done the same amount of damage if not more.

[sarahbear1750]

True! But if someone was there, they probably could’ve present further damage and make the victim feel like they have someone that cares about them☺️that’s just my opinion though

[sarahbear1750]

*prevent further damage

[hellacray]

It's possible but think about it like this.

If someone asked me for directions to a place I've never been to, wouldn't it be wrong for me to direct him?

Bystanders might not be fit to help. Sometimes the best thing to do is to call the cops and document what you can.

But if you know you can take the bully on or if you have some sort of foreign weapon then by all means.

[sarahbear1750]

Defiantly agree! My definition of a bystander is someone who doesn’t do anything when something is clearly wrong. Calling the police is not being a bystander at all! And if you can actually attack them, thats okay too but I wouldn’t go to that extreme

[HereIbe]

@sarahbear1750, Have YOU ever rushed someone in a fight, not knowing if that psycho asshole is packing a gun or not?

When did you do it?

[sarahbear1750]

I never said I did it. I wouldn’t! I would call the police if someone would use physical harm on someone else. I wouldn’t stand there and do nothing. But this question is more related to school bullies

[Anonymous]

Bystander, and the bully is innocent! Lol

[sarahbear1750]

True logic😂

[JerryReed]

The bully. I don't owe you shit. Good luck. lol

[Stripes99]

The bully. It’s not the bystander’s fault.

[Keoov]

The parents of the bully

[Leafpool2]

Both suck

[Anonymous]

The bully. Nobody owes you shit in this world.

[LuvAsh]

The bully duh..

[Iron_Man]

The Bully

[Joker_]

The bully, obviously

[_乃尺OЩ刀_TITI]

The bully.

[Anonymous]

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