My boyfriend goes skiing every weekend and I resent it.

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend is really into skiing; he goes every weekend pretty much, and sometimes he's gone the whole weekend. I will go once in a while, but I'm really not as into it, plus I can't afford it right now because I'm a student.

We're both pretty busy during the week, so the weekend is really the best opportunity for us to spend time together. However, since he's often pretty busy on the weekends as well that doesn't leave a lot of options for us. We spend some nights together during the week and occasionally on the weekend, but I feel like it's not enough and I get resentful.

He knows that I want him to spend more time with me, but he's also very adamant about continuing to do the things he loves and pursue his own interests. He likes to be active a lot and doesn't want to stay home and just hang out, so if he's not skiing he wants to go running or cycling or something, and those aren't really interests of mine. He's not sure how to resolve this, and neither am I.

I don't know what to do. Are we just incompatible? Do I expect too much? Is he being unrealistic and unwilling to compromise?

[Anonymous]

Wow, I feel like you just described my situation. I know it's been over a year since you posted, but do you have an update? I would be really interested in knowing how you guys ended up sorting out the situation and if the relationship was salvageable. I'm in a very similar situation, and feel as if it's becoming too emotionally taxing. He's gone every weekend skiing (not just most weekends), and during the week I get whatever time is leftover, when he's not busy with other plans. I'm starting to wonder if it's worth it...

[jesshkah]

i wouldn't say that you're incompatible exactly, but its hard being with someone who has such different interests. I think it could work though as long as you respect his hobbies and you find some of your own to take up when he's not around.