Do you believe that men have the right to hit women in self defense?

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So let's me explain if a women start acting aggressively maybe gets to the point of hitting do you think a man should be legally able to fight back.

I see a lot of you shouldn't hit any women under any circumstance which I think is bullshit. Even my mum who has been hit by men even says to me if your in an abusive relationship knock fuck out of her.

My opinion is pretty much the same, if you use violence against me I will use violence back just much better since am trained in fighting (MMA)

I also believe that men should be more open about being in abusive relationship with women but unfortunately society tends to label them as weak if they try and get help and abusers when they do fight back.

So women do you agree that if a women is being abusive or aggressive, men have the right to fight back and men would you hit a women if they started a fight with you?

Angie221994 · Accepted Answer

So. Here’s the thing. You basically just said you do MMA. I’ll get back to this but let me just start off with this.

If this girl is just slapping or her hits don’t really hurt, just push her. Push her enough to get AWAY from her. That way you’re keeping her at an arms length if you’re pushing her. I’m giving you this advice because if she’s not really doing a lot of damage, why would you respond with your highest amount of damage possible? It’s excessive force (something cops have gotten in trouble with themselves).

NOW, let’s say the girl is doing damage. Let’s say she knows how to fight too and you’re getting bruised up, then yes. It’s okay to fight back, but don’t pass that limit of the point where you’ll leave her with irreversible damage or kill her. I once saw a guy sit on a girl and pin her down, since she was hitting him. Like really hitting him. Then he was able to call the cops. He had witness so lucky him or else that girl might have been petty and say he started it.

And lastly, the only time you should really use FULL force is if she has a blunt object and is using it as a weapon (only if you can’t talk her down. Try talking her down first. If you can’t. Try disarming her) OR if she really has a weapon, like a gun, or knife.

All I’m really saying is, to match force with force. If she’s slapping your arm and back, and it doesn’t hurt. Use the same amount of force that she’s using. Like pushing her away. Don’t get excessive. Because if you do, the cops will end up siding with her. Even if she started it. Because they ALWAYS look at the damage. And it’s gonna look bad if you have some tiny scratch on you and her entire face is swollen and bruised.

So. If you match force with force. You’re good.

Amy_Theo · Accepted Answer

As much as possible, I'd like to reduce the different attitudes for different genders. My take is simply this: if you are in an abusive relationship of any form, get out of there. Seek help if you must. Please, never think "oh, I can change him/her/them or whatever else". That's not your job. When people say love brings out the best in us, it's not because as the person's partner it's our duty to change our partner for the better. It's because we want to be better people for our partners and vice versa. There's no reason you should take it on yourself to change someone. That starts from within. It's something we should want to do for ourselves.
I agree with the bit about men being more open about abuse. That IS an issue. Women should be as well (and so should trans and etc) but gender norms do make it harder for men to come out about it. If any of you men or anyone of the men you love is a victim of abuse, please do let them know how none of it is their fault and how what society in general thinks of them for talking about their pains is absolutely irrelevant. Any person who loves themselves should seek help. You're doing it for yourself. That's not being selfish in any way. That's called self-love and is incredibly important.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Seems females want things lopsided. I saw a few talking about restrain them. Some said just hit them hard enough to push them away. I put it simple. You try n act like a man then Im gonna treat you like a man. Y'all want equality, thats it baby. Im not gonna get a bloody nose or bloody lip or any other kind of injury all because your a girl who wants to fight? Thats where I take a police officer mentally. What is that? They carry a gun for that last resort. For the fool who talkin about "restrain them" how many time have you see police officer trying to restrain people? Its not always something easy. The gun is as a last resort (which is fighting in my mind). First im gonna try and defuse the situation. If that doesn't work I'll try and remove myself from the situation. But as soon as you throw that first punch. Im gonna defend my self. Whether thats using a weapon or my fists, Im gonna defend myself to the best of my abilities. Then people are saying only hit her if she has a weapon. Im not gonna let it get to that point or Im not going to hold back in that kind of situation. Its all fair game. You gonna throw punches with the best of your abilities, you bet your ass Im gonna do that same exact thing. Thats equality.

Badballie · Accepted Answer

I do not believe in hitting women in any way. I have always been a mans man, played rugby etc. So twice in my previous marriage, my x wife used to attack me with her long finger nails, scratches on my face. these attacks were started when she could beat me in an an abate over silly issues. I grabbed her wrist both times and laughed in her face at her feeble attempts to hurt me.
I can PROUDLY say that I have never hit a women as a young man to the end of my life.
When I was 11 years old there was this 17 year old girl who used to slap me at the back of my head every day. We were close neighbours, so one day I had had enough, (she was bigger and much heavier than I) I ran home dropped my bag grabbed the broom rushed to her house and knocked as she came out I beat over the head a few times, her older brother rushed out, he asked me what is going on. I just told his sister was bullying me every day. His sister was expecting her brother to beat me up. He just said to me if she does it again I must hit her a lot more. I never needed as the bully now realized I was not afraid anymore.

MlleCake · Answer

Only to the extent necessary, but yes, of course. I still recommend getting the fuck outa there.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

With respect to the law in the US, your right to use force in self-defense does not depend on the gender of the aggressor or the gender of the victim.

CoffeeWC · Answer

Women are more open about being victims which is where the whole idea of not hitting women comes from. Men should have the right to defend themselves. I've never been one to use violence for anything so I usually wouldn't fight back unless it gets serious. I can tolerate a lot of pain.

MzAsh · Answer

A man has the right to defend himself against a woman if he needs to. Yes.

Izumiblu · Answer

This just seems like a ridiculously silly question. I mean if you actually need to defend yourself then you defend yourself of course it doesn’t matter who or what sex the person is

It always makes me wonder when I hear this question what the person is actually asking. I don’t trust the question because the answer seems inherently obvious to me.

Most of the time, and this question gets asked often enough, most of the time it has more to do with how aggressive a man can be to give payback and nothing to do with self defense. But I’ll take you at your word

God_of_Thunder · Answer

I believe in defense by reasonable force.

If a woman assaults me, or attempts to assault me, with the intention of inflicting bodily harm, then I will do what's necessary to protect myself, and end the threat. Whether that means disarming her, restraining her, pinning her, etc, would depend on the situation.

I would not suplex her, or break her jaw/arms/legs/whatever, if it was unnecessary. If she punches me in the stomach, it's not reasonable to send her to the hospital, or leave her faceplanted into the sidewalk. That would be excessive, and unjustified.

AbleLearner · Answer

I'm a second degree Brown Belt. I think I can defend myself against a woman without hitting back. I actually eat First Dan Black Belts for lunch in sparring, I just couldn't remember the damned Kata to get promoted to black belt myself.

If you are afraid of a woman hitting you, I think you need to take some self defense classes and learn how to defend yourself without hurting your attacker. You can circle block and put a hammer lock on her and talk her down or something, instead of punching back. That's just stupid.

SuperManiac · Answer

Yes. I'd even go so far as to say you have the right to err on the side of using more than the absolute "minimal force". People who aren't trained aren't necessarily going to understand what exactly is the "minimal force" necessary to get an aggressor to stop attacking, so I think it's okay, within some level of reason, to err on the side of more force than minimally required.

Here I often get the impression that people underestimate the danger even a much smaller and weaker aggressor can pose if they are willing to use lethal force, reach for weapons, etc, when the other person is reluctant to harm them. So it's better safe than sorry as I see it. Of course I'm not suggesting to kick someone when they're down, but I don't find it worth debating about the absolute "minimal force" required in the presence of a violent aggressor.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes it has to be done to protect yourself some women out there are over 200 pounds and pack a pretty good punch and why allow yourself to get a broken nose swollen up eyes or even a concussion? What if she picks up a baseball bat and comes at you hard? What about a knife things can happen.
No women shouldn't get a free pass the same thing goes with young male teens as well. Many of those guys are huge and can kick an adult man's ass

jgokgotit · Answer

To an extent yes. Everyone has the right to defend themselves from ANYBODY. As for the level of force, use only the minimum needed to get away. If she is military or trained in martial arts then odds are you will HAVE TO use a decent amount of force to defend yourself, if you even can. The average American would struggle against most Army or Marine females and are about in equal shape to females of the other branches. Training makes a huge difference. If she has greater training the do what you must. If you have equal or greater training than the female then you should have tactics ready to avoid full force because odds are you will have a physical advantage that can kill her if you are not careful. Now, if a weapon is involved, all bets are off regardless.

Rocky_Jocky57 · Answer

Yes. But, I think certain things call. Like, if she has a weapon, honestly punch the bitch. But if she just smacks you or something, don't go full hulk. That's overkill and you'll get in more trouble for going overboard over her slapping you, its not worth it.

Hal2002 · Answer

I was raised never to raise my hand against a women, but as aggressive and the women are today. I have had to rethink this issue.

If a female hits me I will walk away, if I can. But let her keep coming at me, I will defend myself. My wife picked up a knife one time we where having an argument, I looked her in the eyes and told her I am leaving. As I walked to the door, she took a step as if to follow. I told her if she came another step with the knife, I would knock her into the middle of next week.

I never really felt comfortable with her when we argued after that, I really don't know why I stayed with her. But love can make you do, some really stupid things.

TheAceholeSupreme666 · Answer

I agree.
I've been in abusive relationships where
my girlfriend and her bff at the time attacked me.
I have 2 sisters.
My older sister beat me up a lot when we were kids.
She bullied me mercilessly. My little sister was too little to even remember me much.
By the time I was 7, I snapped and went off on my big sister. She's been terrified of me ever since.
My father was abusive. I fought back.
He disowned me for it, put me in the system at 7 and a half, signed me over to the state, and said "Don't ever come back".
That was January 19, 1985.
I haven't been home since. I've been on my own.
I don't have a problem defending myself against a female if she attacks me first.
But only in self-defense.

Texaskid1 · Answer

In theory yes. If you need to hit a women as a last resort.

But in practice. it may not always be the best idea as many on-lookers will usually take the side of the female ( especially white knights) even if she is the aggressor. Also , if law enforcement gets involved , the police - who are paid and trained white knights - will usually jump to the defense of the female. And you - even if you were defending yourself from a women with a knife - will find your self in a heap of legal trouble.

If you are in the midst of some bat shit crazy women who is yelling at you and threatening you it is best to walk away ASAP - preferable to a place where there are lot of security cameras that can serve as your protection in court. When women assault men they will often lie and say that the man attacked them first. Many women - especially low brow women - are very aware that they can accuse a man of anything and people will automatically jump to her side.

SkipStop · Answer

100% agree. If your life is in danger, you have the right to defend yourself. Unless it's police. Then it's best to follow orders. But if some random person (man or woman) or an animal attacks you then you are the victim by law and full right to defend yourself by blocking the attack and fighting back until they are no longer a threat. I've done this. Being a woman does not give her the right to attack anyone she wants and get away with it. And being a man does not mean you should allow a woman to hurt or kill you. The safest thing to do by society's standards in a man vs woman situation is move out of the way and trip her. And try to catch evidence of her attack on you by using your phone or a friend or some stranger.

BeMuse · Answer

I agree that if someone physically attacks you, that you should physically attack them back until they stop (unless it’s a small child or someone that is mentally incompetent)... Once you have disabled them/knocked them out and can walk away without worrying about someone hitting you or throwing something at you from behind then you get the hell out of there. As far as “men should be more open about being in abusive relationship with women”, nope I can’t sign on for that. If she’s physically violent or likes to break shit in anger then she needs to get lost. I won’t put up with that.

Nexovous · Answer

Depends, women are physically weaker then men when you break down the genetics. Now, that isn't to say that women can't work out and then easily overtake a man. That's just to say that at a base level men have a distinct genetic advantage. They always say that with power comes responsibility. Hitting a women who is really doing no dmg to you solves nothing aside from a potential lawsuit. I was raised to never hit a woman unless she posed a threat to my life. My personal opinion is sure to differ from the vast majority so bring on the hate.

pepper1993 · Answer

I mean sure, but the problem is how do you define that line where it's acceptable vs unacceptable. If a girl jokingly pushes you and you deck her in the face then that's obviously not right. If she kicks your balls or something then I have at her (assuming you can get up lol). I know that seems obvious to most people but trust me there's guys out there who would not understand such distinctions.

nerms123 · Answer

Yasss beat those crazy hos! Well usually guys can just restrain the woman but hitting is understandable in actual self defense like if she’s bigger or really buff or armed etc. but guys should be a little careful not to wail on some woman because he can probably easily kill her. But of course self defense is understandable and even legally permissible.

hsKenway · Answer

Depends on the situation...
Women get emotional easily and they might try to hit you , I see it as a normal thing , (just like crying and shouting)
But if that's not the case and there is no reason I think you should first try to block the attack. If you have the power and strength to hit her, you definitely have the strength to block her blows. So do it and try to calm her down

(But of course) I didn't mean to say that you must never hit a women no matter what...
If she is attacking you for no reason , or you don't even know the girl (happens sometimes.. Lol ) you have the right to fight back. but remember, in most cases you are physically stronger than the women. So your blows can be powerful than you think

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