Why are japanese so judgmental?

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I've worked with Japanese people and they tend to be very judgmental people. Also reading their history they are clearly judgmental towards other Asian people.
Why does everyone think they're so polite when really they're just a bunch of judgmental condescending people?
This is a conversation I also read from Quora that illustrates perfectly how I think Japanese can be very judgmental condescending people sometimes:

"I was eating an ice cream to cool down.
Me: This is good!
Student: Is it sweet enough?
Me: Yeah, it's fine. Why, is this diet ice cream or something?
Student: (he laughs) No, but American ice cream is sweeter than Japanese ice cream, so I thought—
Me: Is that a fact? I hadn't noticed. Tastes the same to me.
Student: I see. And it's much smaller than American ice cream, too, I think.
Me: Have you gone to America recently, or something?
Student: Not recently. I went to Hawaii five years ago. But, everybody knows—
Me: Ok. How about rice? Back in the States my family ate rice all the time. And Japanese people eat a lot of rice too, right? That is one clear cut—
Student: American rice is dry, and a little hard, I remember. Japanese rice is moist and delicious—-
Me: Ok, Starbucks! Starbucks is essentially the same in both cities; I think we can agree on that. Coffee is coffee. So that would be an example—
Student: The cup size is different. Japanese large size is a small size in America. I think
Me: I don't think so.
Student: I could not drink the whole cup of coffee. It was too big!
Me: —
Student: Americans like everything too big deshou?
Me: I think you're missing the…ok, ok, I have a nose and you have a nose, right? Both our noses serve the same purpose, right? This would be an example of a similarity.
Student: (Studying my nose) —
"
https://www.quora.com/What-is-something-that-bothers-you-about-Japanese-people

Japanese are overly judgmental and condescending and unfriendly

Japanese culture is terrible and overrated. Anime showcases their weird messed up culture.

Japanese should apologize for what they did to Chinese, Koreans, Filipinos, and others in ww2.

Japanese should stop worshipping war criminals and covering it up as their religion

Japanese are immoral and not a good example for the modern interconnected world. Their own society is aging and deteriorating.

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This is an example of racism against blacks in Japan. Even for me reading this I find it sad. www.yahoo.com/.../...-half-japanese-140000973.html

[KhmerFighter]

The Japanese are at best polite, and have a very complicated culture. My sister has lived in Japan for almost 5 years. she's educated, an intelligent woman, she speaks the language, but has not mastered hiragana for which she is often ridiculed. She passes for a Japanese, as we have it in our ancestry. But once she opens her mouth and they detect an accent, she is treated poorly even by cab drivers because she's not Japanese. The Japanese are highly ethnocentric and harsh culture, to put it mildly. They are harsh even to their own, much less to foreigners. She's married to a Japanese and have a son. Even her son is terribly treated in school for not being purely Japanese. I have often asked her to return to Cambodia and live here though its a much poorer undeveloped country. What makes them “better" than anyone else is beyond me. Even the Japanese find their own culture difficult to navigate. And lest we forget history…WWII they mercilessly slaughtered peoples all over Asia. So this question is highly misleading. I would rephrase the question the other way around. “Are the Japanese as ethnocentric and harsh as they really say?” And I for one would say yes.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I wholeheartedly agree. On the surface very civilized but it seems extremely hard for most people to live in I feel like.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Yeah @Nachowedgie see you don’t know the true evil of Japanese people yeah.

[Savvyymarie]

Japan is very independent not even 200 years ago they didn't want any foreigners in their country. They still don't like Americans that much. I know they're judgmental. (This doesn't include all.) But they didn't like anyone then and they still don't. They hopped on the Great Britain train after Great Britiain was trying to colonize them, they allowed it deceived them then began colonizing other places. With the technology Britain gave them haha. They're pretty smart. Love anime too and I think their culture is beautiful. You can go to a big city like Tokyo which is a way better New York. Or go to less crowded cities and see some beautiful nature or parks with cherry blossoms. Those are some of the main reasons I want to go tbh.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I think it's not that good too much judgmental mean behavior I think it's overrated culture.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I don't think it's a beautiful culture to be conniving and abusive and colonizing other people while judging them. And also anime is filled with so many sick and weird things I don't think it's good either. Also many japanese cities look flat and dull I don't see how they're that beautiful. Even traditional japanese architecture is small and boring while traditional Chinese architecture is grandiose and awe inspiring in comparison. I think japanese culture is vastly overrated.

[ashkyl]

We are? hahah I didn't know. I'd say we're judgmental because we're overall concerned about what we think of each other so if someone is doing something that isn't seen as social acceptable we're gonna be a bit confused and lost. Like someone having a loud phone call on the train or something.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

you don't look that japanese to me. Also all those japanese rules are just an excuse to be abusive to people they deem "uncivilized" this includes themselves and other Asians and has led to atrocities in human history. I think it's a terrible habit of your people.

[ashkyl]

Um... I'm half Japanese and half Filipina. And I don't agree with you, every culture has their way of living and doing things. Not everyone is going to agree with certain customs.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Well then you see you're not full Japanese anyway and also Japanese did atrocities in the Philippines too. Japan right now is too close minded and barely allowing any immigrants at all. And they play favoritism towards whites and abuse other Asians. Plus their own society is aging and deterioriating. For 40 years their economy has not changed at all. This to me is a sign that Japanese society is all narrow minded and not forward thinking and empty. But it' still at least better than philippines I guess which has never really been a strong unified region anyway and just a stomping ground for other imperialists

[ashkyl]

Why do you hate Japan so much like chill damn 😂😂😂

[Tea-Spaghetti]

ok sorry.

[ashkyl]

Like I'm actually curious, why do you had Japan so much?

[ashkyl]

*hate

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Because they massacred my people in ww2 and consider them inferior and even today their government doesn’t apologize and honors war criminals as part of their Shinto whatever. And even in my personal life experience I work with Japanese people and they look down on my Chinese shirt when I wear it and think everything civilized is Japan and everything dirty and disgusting and China. They constantly insult my people and never apologize. Yet everyone thinks they’re the most polite people when I think it’s all fake and they’re really just judgmental condescending people. And also everyone thinks Asian culture is just japan which is just stereotype as there is also Korea, China, Hong Kong, Vietnam, and everything else. Asia is not properly represented and is white washed to be just Japan which I find white washing and disrespectful to Asia’s diversity.

[ashkyl]

So, I assume, you also hate America, Germany, Spain, Belgium and France and what not. I'm literally half Filipina, half Japanese, I've lived in many South East Asian countries, I'm from Hawaii and my boyfriend is Korean. I assume you also hate Koreans too cause their relations with China also sucks ass, Korean people talk crap about China all the time and so do Americans. There has also been a lot of time when Japanese figures have apologised for the atrocities of the war. And why are you blaming Japan when the ignorant people are the ones thinking Japan is only Asia?

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I like Koreans even though they don't usually like us as much.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Relations between Koreas and China is generally better than Japan and China. Even Japan and Korea relationship is not always that good.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I like America, Germany, France, Belgium, not UK as much.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

UK I think is similar to Japan just judgmental island culture.

[ashkyl]

I love how you just focused on that one statement. Even now more Koreans are starting to disfavor the Chinese people especially after they tried to claim the Hanbok was there's, Anti Chinese relations was even trending on Korean Twitter for like three days.

[ashkyl]

Hm well, Germans had the Nazis and the Holocaust, Americans had the Vietnam war, France the Algerian war, Belgium and their atrocities in DRC and Spain with the colonization... I don’t see any of these people constantly hating on each other and what not, because that was history and times have changed many of these nations citizens dont believe in the ideologies and what that country represented which is exactly the same for Japan.

[ashkyl]

Also, I literally just read your description for your question and how was the judgmental? What your student was saying wasn't even condescending in anyway, he/she was simply making comparisons which he/she is right about. Sweets/junk food in America is much sweeter than in other countries, drink sizes are also much huger and this is not only in Japan and of course if your country excels in a dish you're going to think yours is the best, just like Switzerland and Belgium with their chocolate, West Africa with their Jollof Rice. And the Quora post, the person was literally complaining about Japanese customs which isn't going to fit well with certain people, just as I stated before.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I couldn't paste the whole conversation cause of space limits but basically the point of the American writer is that the Japanese try to find every reason to make themselves seem special instead of trying to find reasons of commonality between other people to break the ice and create friendship across borders.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

And think you're over simplifying things if you think there is no one with a beef against US, Germany, France, Italy... A lot of the countries that they terrorized the past still have grievances against them. Same with China and Korea against Japan. Of course China Korea relations sometimes are not the best but me personally I don't focus on them as much because I see Japan as the more problem overall.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

But I agree with you that blaming Japan for stereotypes that other people do is not right and I don't blame Japan for stereotyping all Asians from Westerners.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Of course individual Japanese people are not the problem and I know many of them are nice. But there are definitely some of them that are very judgy too and I experienced this first hand. I worked with a japanese woman and a chinese girl. The japanese woman constantly rude to the chinese girl saying she wasn't doing a good job and barking at her but she was nice to me just because I'm a guy? Like WTF and I thought the Chinese girl was doing a good job! She wasn't even mean to Mexican girl or Ukrainian girl just Chinese girl because she was Asian and a woman she was as mean as possible. And whenever she meet someone who talked loudly she look down on them instead of just accepting that all people are different. Not all Japanese of course but some are just too judgmental and condescending I think.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

As for Spain I’m just neutral I like them fine I think?

[Anonymous]

You are just Jealous of Japanese People, I'm Not from Japan But I'm impressed By Great Japanese People, They are Honest, Punchual, Hard Working & Humble ! 💯

Chinese ( ****I mean Not The Common Chinese People*** ) are Just Cunning, Wicked and Opportunist... All they Can do is to Make Duplicate & Cheap Copy of Any thing ! 🤷

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Wow you’re just living in stupid stereotypes. Look at a few Chinese cities like Shanghai, Shenzhen, Chongqing. They’re far more impressive than Japan now. Even South Korea is more advanced than Japan. You’re just a silly uneducated weeb. Even white people say that Japanese society is judgmental and un inviting.

[Opinion Owner]

Chinese thing are just Garbage ! I have been to Many Countries So You Moron ! Don't Preach me !
Can you Get me a " Single Man" from the World who says "Chinese are Good " ?🖕

[Tea-Spaghetti]

ha what are you Indian? Even the way you talk sounds stupid haha dumb.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I'm sure Chinese are still better and smarter and harder working than you at least ha ha.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

See here is upcoming construction project in Chongqing just an unknown city in China

By comparison Japanese cities look dull and flat!

China has done way more advanced architecture and development in the last forty years while Japan has stayed the same! Stupid Japanese are now lazy and cannot come up with anything new anymore haha

[Opinion Owner]

I'm from Thailand and Japanese did well in WW2 When the killed thousands of Chinese People like Dogs ! 🤷

[Tea-Spaghetti]

wow haha you are from even worse dirtier country then. People go to Thailand just to have sex with your cheap women ha ha.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

At least China is developed. Thailand is for men who want to be women ha ha!

[Tea-Spaghetti]

All the rich people in Thailand are Chinese too! You are even more jealous than me I bet! ha ha Thais were never originally famous for anything ha ha.

[Opinion Owner]

Thai People are far far better than Chinese💯

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Well at least Thailand is very beautiful I’ll admit and actually HDI is not too bad for Asian country. And culture is interesting expression of Buddhism. So I am sorry for my insults earlier Thailand is a good country. Japanese are clearly impressive people but in my experience not friendly to other Asian people. But you probably don’t care so whatever sorry.

[Opinion Owner]

Thànk you 😊

[nerdybutlazy]

Most of the nicest Asian people I've meet are Japanese I think that's a bit bored but hypothetical are you Korean?

[Tea-Spaghetti]

No but I think they are just superficially polite and very judgmental. You are not Asian so I don't think you'll understand but Japanese people have a long history of discriminating against other people even against themselves.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

what do you mean by "a bit bored but hypothetical"?

[nerdybutlazy]

One, I'm not Asain that is correct however, my cousin is Blasian and her dad is Japanese. Two, I did world history so I am aware of how historically they did things a lot similar to the USA, the thing I meant to say was "that seems a bit board but hypothetically are you Korean?" Mainly becuase the only people I've heard that really mad at the Japanese were the Koreans because I think they got the shorter end of the stick. I can get why you'd be upset be in general, unless a person is Asian or well versed in Asia's history they probably won't understand why you're so bad

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Well no my is Chinese from Northern Plains area but I have a lot of respect for Koreans in general. I think they are even more advanced than Japanese people who I think are just superficial.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Japanese people are super judgmental to other Asians they’re fake Asians and fake people screw them. They commit war crimes and then swipe it under the rug and hug at America’s leg for protection. Those sick island rapists criminals make me sick.

[nerdybutlazy]

I can understand that, also sorry if i got up upset before I just personally, don't have much against them or I guess maybe I never noticed it

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

The student was right about US portion sizes you know.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

That doesn't address the point I was making. Even when I work with Japanese who emigrate to America they are judgmental and abuse their coworkers who they deem "less civilized". In my experience they are too narrow minded and abusive.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

And a lot of countries have different portion sizes who cares? Is it important to find reasons for commonality or reasons for division and to feed your own superiority complex? That is the japanese problem they need to always put themselves in the better light of things no matter what, instead of trying to find commonality across borders.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Well you say "who cares", yet that was the prime example you gave to support your case. So, YOU care, evidently.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Anyway I just found that example bemusing, I don't have a horse in this race.

[Skankhunt]

I've never been to Japan, but I think they are nice people.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

You are not Asian so you don’t understand. Japanese are judgmental people. I guess Dutch need food that’s better than their food so they need Indonesian Chinese immigrant ha ha

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Are you Dutch?

[Tea-Spaghetti]

Wel I guess you re free to have your impression.

[Skankhunt]

Yes I do. When I read all your comments, I think you have negative feelings towards Japanese people. You talk about that they are superficial and killing people. You think you know Asian people for 100%, you don't. You are just generalizing Japanese people, which is bad. Not all Japanese people are bad. You said that Japanese people are discriminating, a lot of people discriminates it's doesn't matter if you live in Asia, Europe, or US. You should stop looking at the past and focus on the future.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

There is no future of peace between Japan and other Asian countries. They are too fundamentally different. Not all Japanese people of course but the society as a whole.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

I'm pretty sure I have more experience with Japanese people than you. Judging them by anime and stereotypes is also just as shallow as what you are accusing me.

[Skankhunt]

If you say so, weird to say that, you don't even know me. I just think you overreacting. Why do you even care how they act towards each other? Let it rest. It's getting an obsession for you. You are talking down about them. I don't want to spend anymore time on this, you're the one who is ignorent. Most Asian people are nice.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

They are nice to non-asians. They are not as nice to each other. but ok I'm sorry for bothering you about this.

[AmeerX]

Stop slendering them. They are mostly good people

[Tea-Spaghetti]

In history they slaughtered and massacred my people. I don’t consider that good. Even modern day i see them after judgmental to other Asian people. They are evil I think.

[Skankhunt]

You should stop looking at the past, let it rest, focus on the future. Asian people are well behaved people. Also, you should stop thinking, you said "they are evil I think". You are judgmental as well without having solid proof. You just look at the past. Japanese aren't evil. Evil people are everywhere and not just in Asia.

[Tea-Spaghetti]

@Skankhunt I have enough proof from personal experiences. I worked with Japanese people before and some of them are very strict to other Asians and constantly judging people silently. Maybe not all of them but definitely at least some. I wish I was making it up but it was my own personal experience.