Why do white people think there feelings matter in racial discussions?

[girlybuttlove]

Im not a liberal. But in terms of the black struggle, why is how a white person feels relevant? We keep telling minorities to not be so sensitive, but white people have become increasingly entiteld, which is ironicall, y the fault of liberals. white people whine about every little thing, from haircut not getting it and say its the worst thing ever, then when a black person complains about some real shit, they get told to stop whining. White girls complain about things and get spoiled by there daddies and black girls are being adultified and treated like adults before there adults because "there more morally responsible" or "Should be more mature" and if there in the ghetto and getg in a fight or something cuz they have to defend themself they may be judged by white people so how do you know what that is liek to live iwth every day so why am i a white person told to stop talking about race just because it makes white people feel uncomfortable stop being a special snowflake the world doesn't revolve around white people but youd like to think it does wouldn't you people who say this

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WHITE PEOPLES FEELINGS DO MATTER, but not at the expsense of black peoples humanity.

[Anonymous]

I am honestly so tired of being told that because I'm white I have no room to complain, all while you're screaming and complaining every day that you want to be treated "equally". Quite hypocritical, yes? Do NOT tell me to stop doing something and then tell me that you have the right to because you "had it harder". Your skin color has NOTHING to do with the life you chose. You live in the ghetto? Find a way out. People do it every single fucking day. Dont tell me you can't get a job. Diversity is in everything now and chances are you'll be hired on spot if you're presentable, just like white people. Dont tell me you can't go to school because there are African American ONLY scholarships that give out hundreds upon hundreds of scholarships to the underprivileged.

I grew up with no running water, no heat, eating cans of peas and cranberry sauce from the food pantry that I had to split with my 3 younger siblings. I was raising them by myself from age 10 on because my mom left for work at 4am and wouldn't come home until past 9pm everynight after she left the bar. I was raped 4 times between age 7 and 14. I was beaten, I was neglected and not a single social worker gave a damn. But I'm privileged because I'm white? No, I'm privileged because I didn't sit on my fucking ass and complain about it. I made it out. If I can, you can to. Look past your fucking skin color man. This is NOT a black vs white issue.

[girlybuttlove]

You are poor. This quesiton did not mean you.

and yes it isbecause black people need to have a sense of identity. and so do white people. we are lost right now.

you are poor. you struggle. that is similar to black struggle. i should have raised this question differently. and I am aware that this is a very complex issue. but my point is that why do white people get to complain in the situations i listed. bor instance, valid police brutality and unfair treatment, stereotypes, black girls being seen as ugly, dark skin girls. and old white people shut it out as "im tired of hearing about this!!! all they do is whine too much"

[girlybuttlove]

the historically privileged class cannot complain about being told how the other one struggles just because they dont wanna hear about it and because it makes them feel guilty. its not an attack on them. percieving it as an attack is the problem.

[Opinion Owner]

I can agree with you there. Your whole question seemed very targeting against the white community and I think that's what a lot of people (not just you) need to work on. Myself included. Old white folk literally always complain, always. No doubt about it. Even I have been told by my white elder family members that I "have it easy". Weird, coming from people who spent.06 cents on a loaf of bread. I never listen to old white folk because they are literal toxic and quite ignorant, to be honest.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

What black struggles, there's more young black students getting scholarships free schooling, that I as a priveledged white snowflake didn't receive... The issue I have is that people are using struggles that were way in the past to still cry racism... If a white person gets a job that a black person didn't it's racism, but if that black person gets the job I didn't, then what is it? If I get pulled over for speeding, it's cuz I broke the law, if a black person gets pulled over it's called racism... The only way for racism to ever truly go away, is to stop playing the race card, stop reverse racism as well as racism..
Black people don't want to be lumped as the same but then turn around and do the same to white people... How bout stop the black/white race, we all the HUMAN race... And to think all white people live more privileged than all black people isn't just racist, it's stupid with it racist... Stop seeing people as a color, and just see em as people already!!!

[girlybuttlove]

true but you gota think about it more complex.

your right technically, but not fully.

[girlybuttlove]

black people dont get pulled over they dont always play the race card. if they do there hurting there community.

[girlybuttlove]

I do see them as people. But black people need there identity. I see people as people first. and then there race has components with there community. If you actually tlak to blakc people you'll see a surprising number identify with there culture, there mom and dads values. its very important. very important things in black American culture are important to them.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If I talk to black people. See there you go with that racist shit. The woman I was friends/family with for 20 years and died 5 years ago and miss every day. You'd see her as a black woman. I just saw her as Terry, my best friend/like a second mom to me
Why would you assume cuz I'm white I don't talk to black people 🤔 And black isn't a real race, African, or African American is ones ethnicity just like white shouldn't be considered a race. There's really ONE race, the HUMAN race.

[girlybuttlove]

I do see her as Terry. I do not disrespect her at all. I never said you dont talk to black people but I am saying that when they want to explain there experience or they identity to you, whetehr they identify as American, black, or African American, or wahtever they want to identify as, you have to listen to them. I am not attackingyou Brains. I worded this question wrong cuz of my massive anxietey and dperssion please forgive

[girlybuttlove]

when i think about my black friends i think about there name and who they are as people, and the values they have, and whats important to them, and there community. and how they wish to identify themselves. and there good and bad traits. and i love all of it

[Avicenna]

It seems to me that if everything can be solved “in-house”, you might be able to say “butt out”. But that isn’t what happens, and when resources and other things are demanded of whites, you can’t expect them not to comment and simply hand over a blank check for race-based outcomes.

Everyone has struggles. Those with the greatest need, regardless of race, should get assistance.

[girlybuttlove]

I agree man and you see the thing here is that you are focusing on certain things and missing the bigger point of my question.

Black people will talk about there experience and white people shut them out instantly often.

Both races can do wrong things but think about the complex picture here. Look at the examples i mentioned. Racism is getting worse. Black people have been depressed this year. This is serious shit dude. I Know white poepel get depressed too.

[JDavid25]

Well we they are being blamed for the reason things are the way they are, and told to shut up cause they are well... "White".. Then of course their feelings matter.. It's silly really.. People put themselves in a situation and then whine and cry and blame other people when they didn't decide to make good choices..

[Anonymous]

You're asking 2 different questions here. The first is about racial discussions. Then you go on to say something about black struggles. Which are we talking about here? I've got nothing to say about black struggles other than I didn't cause them. As far as racial discussions, your attitude is why things don't get better. It's being laid at the feet of white people to fix everything, yet we're told to shut up and listen in these matters. You can't have it both ways.

You are also comparing regular black folks to well off white girls. Most white girls don't get spoiled by daddy just because they complain about something.

[Brokenheartedx]

Wow, just wow!
You have lumped all white people into this dream you dreamt up where we all have perfect lives and worry about our hair and shit... Jesus fucking wept...
You are delusional and a tad unhinged...

As a white woman who was once a white girl... The only thing my *daddy* gave me was a black eye and hair ripped out at 6 years old... But to you that makes me entitled because of what exactly.. Being white?

[girlybuttlove]

I am sorry abotu your experience the point of this question was mainly black kids tryna make theere struggles known and be open about it or get mad about certain things and they are told to stop whining or white people are like there being mean and attacking me personally when there not.

[Brokenheartedx]

I've never ever told anyone to stop whining, I'm not stupid to realise that there is others who had a shytey childhood of poverty, abuse and bullying. I'm told that mine couldn't have been bad because I'm white... A scared kid is a scared kid, no matter colour or creed... I don't believe in white privilage, I believe in rich privilage and the shit stirring they do from the safety of their gated communities.. While we turn on ourselves some rich cunt is rubbing their grubby greedy hands together watching the *plebs* fight amongst ourselves

[Brokenheartedx]

And why you apologising for my past childhood, you didn't do it, so no need for sorry..

[girlybuttlove]

this question wasn't about you personally dude i shouljd have phrased it better. I've been under immesne anxiety and depression. im not black. of course our feelings matter

[girlybuttlove]

This wasn't an attack on you specifially. read my question agian. and readm y updates. i kinda messed up I've been anxious and depressed lately i got psychosis my minds all f*cked up. please forgive. im trying.

[Brokenheartedx]

Don't focus your energy on people turning on each other becos of skin colour it will consume you, your first action should care about yourself, psychosis is a terrible mental health illness esp on someone so young, my niece has it and been in mental health hospital since she 10.. You need to focus on you, don't let others inferiority complexes get to you, you have more to worry about than them. Concentrate on finding your mental balance even if it's neutral

[Anonymous]

White people don't care about black people because they are not attracted to them and also because blacks don't resemble them so whites mute out anything blacks have to say. If another white person was complaining about something minor than every white person would come to there emotional rescue because they are white. White people can never be trusted as they all about other white people. I going to tell it as it is white people should go back to Europe than you can be around your own white race and leave America to us minorties. It was the native Americans land anyways and y'all stole it from them if the Native Americans ran America still they will welcome every race as they are nice and peaceful people unlike you inbreeding whites who are Racist and want America and everyone to involve around y'all.

[Celtero]

Frankly, the only takeaway I get from this is you believe that white people don't have real problems of their own, and black people's are so much worse.

[girlybuttlove]

Nope, not at all.

Just that white people often dont listen to black people when they try to descirbe the experience, and paint it as whining, and take it personal.

[girlybuttlove]

This wasn't a screw white people question. But the more you do that to a historically oppressed group, the more some of them hate you. Its edgy and complex.

[girlybuttlove]

But yes, black people have statistically worse problems. when u get pulled over for a tail light, you dont gota worry about going to jail or dying as much. I know the media overplays this and its not all cops. but its still a valid fear.

[Celtero]

Sorry to break it to you, but more white people are killed by police.

[AlexanderAnttila]

You're already getting it wrong from the get go. Feelings are irrelevant for any objective discussion. If I debate any racial issue I do so based on facts and logic, and I couldn't care less what others think about me speaking up.

[JuliaStyles]

At least white people know the difference between "Their" and "there" (they went over there). Why so many racial questions lately on G@G?

[girlybuttlove]

im not even black bro... why did you make a statement about race and intelligence? and because its something im passionate about. and i can't talk about it at my day program or with my mom.

[JuliaStyles]

I own my answers. You have no idea on English but you moan about racism and yet you are white? You didn't answer my question. Why so many questions on racism, and especially when there is none shone? I just chalk it up to another troll.

[girlybuttlove]

Because i see it as important to me. It is one the big issues in the modern world that im passionate about. Thats not wrong!! I am worried about people including yourself being killed by the illuminati plans.

[Sweetener_]

Wow the ignorance in this question is just too much. White people go through racism too, it's just overlooked because of what their ancestors did.

[girlybuttlove]

I know we do but its different.

If a black person calls a white person a cracker and bullies them, I am not justifying that or saying that its okay. If you think I am, you are misunderstanding the entire pretext of my question.

[Anonymous]

I keep looking for the white entertainment television channel, but I can't find it. I wonder why?

[OddBeMe]

No feelings should matter. Just facts. Like blacks kill twice as much as their population %. Don’t get me wrong, it’s institutional poverty and very segregated neighborhoods. But blacks aren’t angels.

[girlybuttlove]

No ones an angel.

[girlybuttlove]

the good guy fighting the thug is a problem. self defense is seen as a crime. we dont have accurate statistics and we probably never will. the idiot who disenfranchised them inthe 60s created this mess.

[girlybuttlove]

the good guy fighting the thug isn't the problem*

[girlybuttlove]

Not an idiot, it was planned.

[MCheetah]

As a black guy, I disavow you. I'm pulling a Biden on your racist, bitter, loser ass.

[Aurora1010]

Black people, white people, and everyone worldwide should have a right to express their feelings

[Snakeyes7]

Because white is a skin color and that color is often blamed for the struggles of other skin colors, even if the perpetrators of said struggles aren't always white.

[JamesRandiDebates]

When the boogies scream accusations at us and demand free shit, we have been dragged into the discussion whether we wanted to be or not.

[girlybuttlove]

Yeah it sucks dude but we dont have to shut out a black person for humblely explaing there experience.. There not attacking us. I complain about this sometiems too man. Itp isses me off that we have to work harder. But I mean, there ancestors work harder. Its kinda natures revenge. Not a moral right that this is happening, but it is. Democrats and republicans and illuminati made them struggle and then forced them to do it. so there the ones who got to get free shit. I got over it and just accept is part of life. now white people gotta struggle a little bit. i am not saying its right, but come on man. we can't take our anger out on anyone who talks about the black struggle. thats not the correct way to deal with this.

[JamesRandiDebates]

They can whine and bitch about their imaginary struggles all they want. I don't care. But when the government takes my hard earn money away from me and gives it to them for their made up grievances, than I have a problem.

[Anonymous]

You think that disregarding white people's feelings will lead to a successful outcome? Should we just force them to feel how you think that they should feel?

[Anonymous]

black people are racist towards anyone else so no wonder they have issues.

[anylolone]

No one's feelings should matter in question of policy, but everyone feelings matter in questions of policy.

[Anonymous]

gotta love these racist questions and attacks on white people (major sarcasm implied here for those who are to stupid to understand it)

[girlybuttlove]

Nope not an attack. White peoples feelings matter, but you dont get to attack people for them. Same goes for both races

[girlybuttlove]

If someone humbly explains there experience u listen. especially if ur the color of the person who the elites were apart of sending them into the ghetto. family matters. there not blaming us. assumign there blaming us is also a problem. why is the burden of responsiblity always on black people.

[Opinion Owner]

really? what about how the elites sent white people to the gutter and hispanic people to the ghetto. and yes contrary to your prejudice and racist beliefs against white people there are a lot of white people in the ghetto. and i've seen black people act racist against whites and against chinese and experienced it first hand by them. and i've also seen fucking paki and indian bastards sexually harrass women first hand until they were about to get the shit beat out of them by me. So to put things into perspective since you're so narrow minded and biggotted against white people EVERY RACE is capable and has RACIST PEOPLE in it. There are NO exceptions to that. It's ironic how nothing ever gets said when black people call chinese people "chink" which i've had black people come up to me and refer to them as that. and i've saw and heard black people say racist shit about white people. EVERY RACE has racist people in it not just whites. And there have been hundreds and thousands of cases of latinos hispanic people acting racist against whites and white women and against black people. And i'm not even going to get started on those filthy fucking paki and indian bastards because the more i think about them the more i just want to bust their perverted filthy fucking heads wide open

[joeldalton]

Why are you being such a racist?

[karaspara]

Our opinion still matters we’re all human

[MemeSupreme]

okay amy

[Anonymous]

How so?