Do you think hook-up culture is truly popular or only made popular by the media?

[Anonymous]

[Turrorrr]

i think it is happening more than before, but still far less than it is actually talked about.

you should really ask yourself first - can you just hookup with someone you see and like just like that? you would most probably say: "no, but others are better looking / in better position so they can."

chances are that you are not below average or anything, and that majority of people just does not do that. guys being guys like to talk and exaggarate things, and there is media, movies, and dating apps on the internet. and forums of course.

the problem is that everyone gets stuck into thinking that they should do hookups, rather than have a meaningful relationships because this is more cool. at the end people have neither hookups, neither relationships, only frustrations. and some people who have hookups juts get emotionally damaged.

[Anonymous]

I think the media has REALLY done a lot to push bad cultural norms and perpetuate them for years, if not decades at this point. Society moral values have been in the gutter for as long as I can remember, and the standards continued to drop over time, and it’s all disguised as being more loving, accepting, and tolerant. Liberating and pro-freedom, no matter the consequences.

It’s political, it’s disgusting, and we should really question the motives behind the seeming intent and mission of those in power, why they continue to push such trash culture into our mainstream media and out into the world.

Enough is enough. Put some more positive and inspiring figures using their talents for good in the limelight, that have something a bit more profound to say than Nicki Minaj twerking her silicon ass cheeks. Come on people. It’s horrible. Sends so many wrong messages.

[Azura_88]

It's REAL and only made real by pervert people who have zero self control and values.
These emotionless perverts criticize the concept of marriage, love and commitment by using words like "restricting, no freedom, burden, etc."
Just because it's boring for them doesn't mean they have to FORCE AND PROMOTE their opinions on others. Deep down they also know they're incapable of sustaining long term love so they get jealous of those who can love each other forever. That's why they criticize and promote the idea of hookups to ignore the incapacity inside them and to satisfy their greed.

[SnowyOwl]

I think that the media helps promote it, as its a cool/exciting life to be living.
Its so sad, because it crushes so many hearts and souls.
And it helps those who are lost loose themselves even more.
I wish we could just build genuine loving relationships with people, and live with intention rather than just messing around to "see where it goes", maybe something happens maybe nothing does... Its a sick game. Its not what we need

[DWornock]

It is true that the media promotes it. When in almost every movie not made for grade school children, the main characters hop into bed almost even before they have dinner, it is has to affect the psyche of young viewers.

[SnowyOwl]

@DWornock yea.. That's pretty sad

[Jamie05rhs]

Well-deserved MHO.

[USMC-Crossroads]

Unfortunately, I think it is a pretty common practice. At least, more so than traditional relationships - which is a very bad thing. Now, hooking up itself isn't a bad thing to do, not at all, but the prevalence of it in society leads nowhere good. It skips the work of a relationship, which makes sense meaningless. And sex is NOT just a physical act - if it was, than rape wouldn't be worse than being punched, etc.
True, it is being blown up to a something more common, but it is happening more and more. I'm just waiting for the pendulum to swing back the other way. Because for me, a woman who demands of me traditional values, make the relationship infinitely more meaningful. And that is the best ancillary benefit of a loving relationship - finding meaning in life - and only a woman can bring that particular feeling to a man.

[exitseven]

I don't know if you can ever put the genie back in the bottle.

[romeo_and_cats]

In Europe is pretty popular with all feminists now putting this as the normal way. Anything ordinary and they would call you a creepy.

HOWERVER that is a big lie. Most of those people can be with no one. They desire a relationship but because they fail many times. They adapt to "only fuck/fuck buddies".

For me that's bad. But because I have experience I can convince a girl who don't want a relationship to naturally want it.

If the guy is centered that is easy.

In the same way I don't want a relationship with many of those girls. Because they're unprepared.

They're actually the creepy ones👆👍

[chrissykerdock]

it's really here there's a ton of websites for people who want to hook up... i've hooked up and gave guys blowjobs... somehow that makes me feel good to give someone that kind of love... and i'm addicted to that kind of love sucking a penis then getting it's cum... i like the aspect of putting on a short dress and getting on my knees to give a man a blowjob simple as that... i don't think it's a sin obviously the guy is happy and i'm happy... and if your not happy i'm doing this then it's too bad.

[Anonymous]

It’s a combination of the following:

- digitization making sex more available. For some people getting laid takes only 5 minutes of swiping on tinder, a few messages, quick convo and plans. Then done and done
- feminism encouraging sexual “liberation” in women. Females feels less ashamed for promiscuity.
- constant imagery (movies, TV, music, social media, etc) encouraging this.

Overall it’s bad for society in my opinion. But not I’m not going to be the kettle calling the pot black. I was guilty of some of this in the past.

[AmandaYVR]

No Tinder is real. And the most popular 'dating' app.

(But to be fair, a lot of people are hooking up but are open/ideally wanting to meet someone they really want to be with.
Too bad some peoples' expectations are unrealistic; others won't commit; others continually cheat so their relationships don't last; and many others are addicted to scanning through dating apps to level up.)

[CasaNorba]

not saying I disagree with you but a lot of the women who use that app or at least the ones I matched with back when I used to use it (over 5 years ago) claim that app is not for "hooking up."

and boy do they got a chip on their shoulder whenever you told it like it is

[romeo_and_cats]

Tinder it's a much more hook up and even worst. Kind of "explore the guy" type of app. What job you have and you need to put the salary number sometimes which seem very much unrealistic for a real relationship "unrealistic expectations" can be applied to that where the girl wants money not the guy. A lot time girls say that it is related to that, not commitment.

Now you try to foolish a guy who is 29🖕good luck with that

[AmandaYVR]

I've known a couple of people (one guy, one girl, both around 30) who checked out Tinder for a while, looking for marriage. I thought they were both nuts. They did not find a partner on it.

I don't know what's going on with these girls who claim it is for serious relationships too. Like, I really don't know what's going on in their head. But them getting their back up over it - that alone is reason enough to walk away from them, in my opinion. Their judgement is off and they are too defensive/reactive.
I'm guessing they want to check out their own 'SMV' and see how many guys want them. But that's just a guess.

Is tinder mostly known for hookups? ↗

[Asker]

I agree with Amanda. Tinder is mostly for hook-ups. If the women want something serious they should try another app

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

I have not met a sine person that engaged into that without feeling damaged by it.
You could perhaps say short lived intense romance (which is not hooking up) - but even then if it is romance/genuine - you feel like staying together, that is just mammal nature (quite contrary to 'nothing but mammals so let's do it like on the Discovery channel' - almost all mammals at least raise the young ones together/no one actually leaves. (Discovery finds the bizzare cases and feeds them to people like the norm - they typically look for fighting for the shock value, otherwise no one would watch a female tiger get acquainted with a male, have offspring and feed them together - to baby boomers this was too boring, they craved drama and murders (or at least devastating separations) - to escape their boring suburban lives and feel unique.

[ZackBan]

It's far older than the media itself. Ever since there was humans there was sex and many civilizations were pretty loose about it not always requiring marriage. If you see the world as more than just the present you'll have no problem accepting hookup as an activity more than a romantic encounter

[EmbraceThePain]

It’s not as popular as people may believe it to be.
I believe it is exaggerated quite a bit in media to be something that most young people participate in, but data actually showcases that is not quite true.


There is a sizable minority, relative to the population that engage in hookup culture but it’s not the majority.


Also, hookup culture being popular within those online (Tinder for example) can appear to be common, but dropping back down to reality appears less so.

[kidvid80]

yes especially when the movie friends with benefits came out back in the day. thats all the term people were using i wanna friends with benefits, so lame. i will continue to be handy before hooking up with all these random d-bags.
God knows how many diseases or kids most have my one neighbor is 23 with 4 kids by different men, WTF? is that?

[RingOfFire]

I think the myth of "hook up culture" is pushed by the same people who push critical race theory. The goal of the people who push this is to make people behave immorally, hate themselves and think there is something wrong with them because they want moral, meaningful relationships and not just hook ups. Ultimately, their goal is to destroy American values, culture and ability to thrive.

[PLUMMETT]

I think hook-ups (in my opinion) are more popular nowadays because of today's society. You have toxic feminists teaching women that men are bad and toxic MGTOW people advising their men to stay away from women cuz they're overrated and not healthy. The younger males and females then join the movements because that's what their people (as in gender) are saying so they kinda look up to them. So what ends up happening is these young men and women go "Hmm I know the other gender is supposed to be bad and I don't want to commit... but they are just sexy and I feel attracted to them." Boys start to go they're beautiful and smart and fun to hang out with. Girls start to go they're caring, funny and fun to hang out with. And what ends up is the sexual tension gets the best of them and they hookup a lot. Of course this is what I think happens but I am not a researcher or anything so I don't have the ultimate answer haha good idea for a research though!

[molonski2]

Think its extremely popular because of the non commital nature of it , everyone knows where they stand , you dont have to go to a bar ( was never good for females ) and take things by chance , it was a culture that always existed , the execution was always the issue , so easy now with apps.
Very popular , always would have been , different cultures read it different ways.

[CourtneyJane]

I think hook-up culture is the end result of the sexual revolution of the 1970s. Prior to that, people were conditioned to repress their sexuality but by the time 1972 rolled around, the shackles were off and the biggest grossing film of that year was Deep Throat.

[SweetRomeo]

Made famous by media. 90% of the time culture is changed through T. V and celebrities. Making things normal and natural. Back in when good old days men used to have to come to the father of the daughter to ask permission to date his daughter. When girls respected their father's wishes and mothers weren't feminists this issue didn't exist.

[JDavid25]

It's more widely accepted as a part of life now, probably with some help from the media glamourizing it, but it's always been around in some way. Like many people here already said. I don't think it's as prevalent today. As more people are just watching porn, masturbating, and buying and making onlyfans content to go out and hook up.

[JoeyG_7048]

Hook up sex has been around for years they just changed the name they used to be called one night stands and sometimes people call them excuse my language fuck them and Chuck them, or if I was the one being dumped I was fucked and chucked. As long as I can remember it's been around I will never go away

[shouldnobetter]

But I think it is just more open and easily available today than years ago. It was just back seat sex back in my time on any secluded side road. But then I grew up in a rural area, where any road was a side road. But I know we use to have a lot of fun up at our summer cabin on the lake as a teenager.

[tallcuck]

It is popular with insecure people who are affraid of attachment and commitment. Those same people often watch mainstream media, follow Kim Kardashian or listen to autotune singers... If they fake it till they make it, staying would only make them to be found out...

[Ellie-V]

I personally think it’s completely hyperbolic
I just haven’t seen it as rampant as others claim. Maybe it’s more popular with the online dating crowd but even that’s not most of the American population

[EmbraceThePain]

Agree

[natured]

Media ruined every culture in general, and people are so dumb to follow these cultures, not just the hook-up culture but everything else that comes with the MEDIA trends...
I think hooking up should be a personal choice not based on SOME CULTURE

[crazy8000]

Huckup have been around for as long humans have existed.

Right now are western society in a phase there it is popular and are exaggerated how good and natural it is. due to self destructive generation of people that has attitude problems and people should bend to their immatur impulses from a brain that haven't fully developed yet. ( entitlement )

More people get more mental problems due to doing hoockups instead of dealing with their health problems.