I would argue that personality, and everything involved in that such as values, is THE most important aspect, especially for a long term relationship and marriage.
Looks are important for attraction, especially at younger ages. I guess to some extent race may play into this. I personally do not find wirey or super curly hair very attractive, which would by extension put some ethnic groups or sub-groups at a disadvantage.
But even so, someone who is only mildly attractive but shares similar values and a likeable personality is infinitely more likely to make a great companion than someone you just don't see eye to eye with or like being around.
Of course not. 1. Every race can be beautiful no one is better than anyone else because of their features. I’m sure you’ll talk about dating site statistics just remember the US and UK are overwhelming majority white so obviously white people are most preferred they’re seen the most. But interracial marriages are on the rise due to dating apps so keep that in mind 2. Learning new cultures is fun seeing how other people live. 3. Thinking certain people are superior is racist. 4. I just can’t see how you’ll choose a certain race over another without even thinking about personality.
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It's like some other user said. Choose a race and then try personality compatibility
If you don’t hate any other features then why would that matter. There’s no hard stops for you so why is race the first thing you look at? If you hated black peoples hair texture or our noses or lips or something then okay you’d look for someone not black. But since you don’t hate any features why would it matter. A preference doesn’t dictate it’s just preferred. If I say I love sprinkles on my ice cream it’s mandatory and say I prefer vanilla ice cream over chocolate but the vanilla doesn’t have sprinkles while the chocolate does, I’m getting the chocolate. You see what I’m saying?
It shouldn't. Personality should always outweigh race.
Unfortunately this is the real world and we know that's not always the case. There will always be people that prefer certain ethnicities over others, regardless of personality. Is that fair? No. Is it they're choice? Yes.
And no, I'm not justifying it or saying it's right. I'm speaking from a realistic perspective of how some races seem to have an easier time with dating compared to others.
Race doesn't matter, in a person personality is most important. A person can be a bitch or a good person, that doesn't depend on race.
To have a preference on race rather than personality make me think that there are still a lot of superficial person.
Every race in beautiful, but I choose the people I trust for their personality not race, because race is only a exterior feature, while personality tell you who a person really is.
Race is important, but I think it's important because of the cultural associations that being a certain race has. I find Indian women jaw-droppingly attractive, but after dating 2 of them; I learned that even though the women themselves were nice people, the friends and family were horrible. I don't want to date another Indian woman, not because I have anything against Indian women, but because I just don't want to deal with the social and cultural elements that go along with dating an Indian woman.
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For me race is usually more important than personality... because race tends to involve physical characteristics, culture, and speech patterns, all of which are usually more important to me than personality. I'm without question more attracted to women of certain races than other races, on average, and I don't like having to learn new cultural norms, so being of a different culture is a turn off, and culture is often part of race.
That said, personality would be more important if I had some way of immediately knowing what the person's personality is like. I can't know that until I've known them for awhile... so I've got to pay more attention to more shallow stuff early on.
I figure that's fine. It's just kind of the way people work. It's shallow but that's okay... like being more attracted to tall people.
I think I'd disagree with the view that some races are more beautiful than others. I think people just have their personal preferences.
Speech patterns? People can change how they talk. I do it all the time. And I think learning other cultures is fun. I never eaten candy from an Asian market until I dated an Asian girl, I’ve never gone fishing until I dated a white girl that’s what makes meeting new people fun.
@Birdlegs Really... this question just about doesn't apply to me anyway. You seem like a socialite. I'm not. With me it's like... okay... so I'm probably going to want to avoid being around all human beings in general. Might there be some people who I wouldn't want to avoid? Maybe so... I suppose if they are similar enough to me there is a chance I won't want to avoid them...
That makes sense it’s the path of least resistance. And you’re right I would love to be in the most diverse place possible just so I can see different cultures and things and meet new people but yea if everyone is already like you from the start it would be easy to make connections
@Birdlegs I'm sure you'll benefit from that, more than you probably already have, assuming you have. My former boss (who was great) was born in Iran, went to school in Germany, married a Mexican American woman, and now lives in Columbia, South America. He gets along with everyone. He can live anywhere. He can do business with anyone. He seems to understand different perspectives from about everybody.
Race has no bearing on personality whatsoever. I don't even know what personality people of different "races" are supposed to have. From my observation, many people of my race have a very different personality from me (and each other).
That some races are "more beautiful" than others is also a very subjective opinion. As subjective as me making the (false) claim that there is only one beautiful eye colour.
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Some people have preferences of which races or mixed races they are most physically attracted to as well as other physical preferences. They're not gonna date somebody they're not sexually attracted to. Once they start dating a person who fits their physical type they will start digging deeper and figuring out if they like their personality.
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Yes exactly. So race matters more than personality.
Only to people who have racial preferences and only initially. It's basically a physical attraction thing for me. I'm white, but I have a physical attraction and preference towards certain other races of women. When I'm on a dating app, I'm gonna naturally refine my search to only show the type of women I'm most attracted to. Then I will start reading their bios or talking to them to see which ones I could get along with and potentially fall in love with.
Possibly. The good news is that not everyone has racial preferences like me. I've always liked different races of girls since I was a little boy playing with the brown girls next door. Maybe that's why I love Asians, Latinas, Natives, Indians, Mixed race, black girls etc. The dating world can still be accepting to all races as long as you're attractive and have a good personality.
Asians Latinas and whites have the dating edge. But Indians blacks other predominantly dark skinned races would mostly never be first preferences regardless of whatever their personality is and that's the reality
Of course your location is a factor too. in other countries the race of majority is still going to mostly date within itself. In a very diverse and multicultural county you may see more mixing and preferences developing. In the western world it is true that certain races get more attention. The people within those "Popular" races also need to be hot for it to work though.
Gods Americans and your "race" aspect. You'd cry like little bitches for mama if traveling in Europe as race isn't that important culture, history, traditions, etc. are.
As for your question does race matter more? No.
What matters is personality. Then different cultural, religious, traditional aspects. Race. There's "rotten apples" in every so-called race only an idiot doesn't comprehend that.
Lmao a white guy with a Asian chick. I love it. Good troll man. Race doesn't affect personality culture does. At any rate race isn't real. Science has already proven it.
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WMAF make the most majority of interracial relations. Makes sense when both are most sought-after in dating apps
You have to keep both separate if you want to answer this question properly.
Race does not matter more than personality. We are all God’s children. That’s all their is to know. I wish more people saw this and not let others dictate how they act.
Personality wins for me. Race can affect attraction in some ways, but that's about it. If I find someone who I think is cute and I get along with but is of a different cultural background, I don't mind learning about it.
It's the other way around to me. I think a person's personality has a lot to do with the way they look. Their facial expressions, they way they hold their self, etc.
No, it doesn’t. I don’t care what race you are if you’re an awesome person chances are I’ll become your friend, if your attitude stinks I’ll avoid you. Race doesn’t even come into play.
I don't think race should affect you liking someone more than personallity does, if you truly love them race doesn't really matter!! Me and my boyfriend are both 2 different races but that does not in any way affect my feelings for him! I believe personality is the biggest thing in a relationship!!!
People fundamentally like people like themselves. Culture, politics, viewpoints. Race and sex are often not a thing although that's not too say that people don't use them as shortcuts to indicate who they think they'll like and not like.
It has impact but its only a part of who we are rather then what we are. it has influence but does not make you a good person or a bad person, we decide that.
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