What gender do you trust more?

[humanearth]

It's just that simple. No hidden agenda or anything

Male

Female

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please look at the poll results

SHOCKING NUMBERS

[zeitgeist057]

Not an easy question, and I did some serious consideration. Ultimately, I trust women more than men. I also don't really like to generalize either gender, since there are great people (and terrible ones as well) in both demographics.

Some of the factors I considered:

Men: Generally, more direct and therefore easier to trust. They don't tend to hide their motivations or issues. But, they are also more strategic and better at deception if they truly are trying to hide their intentions, much more dangerous. More ruthless and set in their ways, imho. Once an enemy, much more difficult to convert or even identify.

Women: To generalize, more adept at backstabbing, gossip, two-faced bad behavior. But, I also think ultimately they are more vulnerable and want to be close and can turn from enemies to friends with proper communication. I have plenty of male friends, but I tend to be the most intimate and feel the greater connection with women.

Again, these are generalizations, and I don't usually think to myself "ah, this person is a _______, that means I can ('t) trust them.". I think that would be a dumb way to gauge a person's trustworthiness.

[humanearth]

Love the reply

[JDavid25]

This is good!

[globetrotter22]

No man will ever know what it’s truly like to be a woman and no woman will ever know what is like to be a man. And no being “trans” doesn’t count however that might give someone more insights.

So obviously we are going to be biased in our feedback with this. We trust our own gender more because they think the same way we do.

I will say this though. When I am dealing with a girl who is “playing games” or being difficult with me I do trust another (trusted) woman’s advice after I give her all the details of what happened.

They understand the bs feminine nuances better than men do. 90% of the time their predictions of what the girl is really doing is correct. Often it’s not the the answer I want to hear but it’s unfortunately accurate.

[Emiliamazing]

This is an interesting question that could help point individuals towards a different way of thinking of their relationships.

I picked female. These are the factors that I considered while pondering this question: work relationships, obviously my marriage, relationships with other mothers and fathers and friends, and issues/stressors that each gender have created in my life, or in other’s lives.

I am 110% confident in my husband, so there need not be any remarks concerning my marriage.

I am confident that I can trust all those, regardless of gender within my own personal circle. Those outside the circle are not privy to the details of my life where ultimate trust is required (marital happiness/happenings, child rearing, financial status).

In the end, after a quick evaluation, it seems that men have caused more stress (due to trust issues) within circles of my life and those close to me than women.

[MemeSupreme]

if you mean out somewhere in public like some stranger, then women initially, but for friendships probably guys. i feel like it's dumb to generalize either though with trust lol

[petitedollbabee]

In public, I guess women. If a woman approached me I’m less likely to be creeped out than if a man approached me.


But friendship wise, men. I’ve been hurt by women more than men when it comes to friendship.


And relationship wise, it’s equal. I’ve been hurt by both men and women.


I don’t base trust on gender unless it’s in a public setting. Anyone can be untrustworthy regardless of gender.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Neither.

I trust non-binary people the most. If you know enough about yourself to explore your own gender identity and expression, you're already ahead of most cis people who just go along with whatever they were told to do.

Enbies are more trustworthy to me.

[JDavid25]

It's the exact opposite with NB people... They don't know enough about themselves.. So they have to go beyond the two biological realities and make a new "gender" for themselves.. Most "CIS" people don't need to question their biology..

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lol, you're stupid and you should say so more often.

Gender identity and expression is a complex matter unique to each person, and combines their experience and expression of gender in both the physical and social realms.

That you lack the ability to understand what gender really is, is no poor reflection on non-binary people. It is rather a reflection of your inability to understand the depth of human experience and your homophobia.

Miss me with your homophobia and limited mind, white cishet boy. You're too uneducated to have an intelligent conversation with.

[BlueScorpio]

Mon binary people are either biological male or female. That's just tge truth and the truth isn't trans or homophobic. But we are seeing a lot people suffering from Veritaphobia.

[BlueScorpio]

Well I trust on a individual level regardless of gender. For medical purposes, I preferred a female doctor cause it's easier to relate with another woman about female health. However I do have a great male doctor but I tend to go a women's health clinic most of the time. Other than that, it really depends on the person, situation, and how well I know them.

[BlueScorpio]

I'm not really surprised by the results, I think it's quite normal and common for men and women to feel more comfortable with their own gender. When in friend groups, most men tend to hang out with other men and vise versa. It's just we tend to relate more on certain things with our own gender.

[jshmoe]

On average I trust women more. A lot of guys look up to me but I can’t stand being in a group of guys and talk about women or sports or whatever. To me that sounds boring. I’ve been in a couple relationships where my girlfriend thought it was weird how many friends I had were girls but they didn’t think anything of it after a while since I don’t hit on them.

[CalmMind]

Honestly, I'm not surprised by the results. We're highly tribal as a species. We gravitate to those we have commonalities with. Men and women, in my opinion, view each other from a predatory perspective in today's world. What can I get from them? What can I trick/convince them to do? Broken homes tend to make broken people and it presents in the walls we build around ourselves to shield us from the world.

[RosieMelts]

Equally the same because I know they’re ups and downs. If it were that simple it’d have a both option or neither but it’s already complex forcing me to choose one. I don’t like that also because now I needed to write up a whole opinion when I would’ve rather just voted. 😂

[RosieMelts]

Their*

[JamesDiaz11]

The only person you can really trust in this life is your mother, but I would say that guys are more trustworthy, because they have honor to consider. Women are purely contextual, nuanced creatures, that can only be counted on when the situation is to their benefit. Guys will die for their beliefs; women will not only change theirs, they will become the loudest spoke people of the prevailing zeitgeist.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don't trust people based off their gender... I trust people based off their character 🤷🏼‍♀️

[TonyMetal___86]

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[Alexalex92]

Hey you @Brainsbeforebeauty
I trust you 😁😊

[Lovesick40]

Men are blunt but usually honest... girls beat around the bush too much. I prefer direct answer no matter how harsh it may be then decoding someone's answer

[redbeardsley91]

Female. I find it's easier to relate to them, especially after you've gone through something that's the male equivalent of childbirth WITHOUT anaesthesia (passing a kidney stone: I had one when I was 24 and I will NEVER forget it. It's #2 on the pain scale and I coughed and dry-heaved so much, I gave myself testicular torsion. If you've never had testicular torsion, count your lucky stars!). It's like passing a boulder through the eye of a needle!

[humanearth]

No, but camera go though my penis to look at veins in legs.

That's up there in pain scale as well.

[awwazraa]

It’s difficult to decide. Both men and women can be manipulate and fake to you. So it should more depend on their vibe and their way of communication and personality. In general terms I fear trusting a man a lot cause it ends up with catching feelings and then telling me which ruins everything.

[Silver158]

Neither, both are just as untrustworthy as each other although to be fair most men these days act like women in terms of shittalking behind each others backs and being catty. No balls tbh (even seen them go to the bathroom in groups in bars ffs)

[humanearth]

Man it has been a long time since I have been to one of those big city bars. I never seen men go to the men's room together

[Silver158]

@humanearth It's a very weird thing to see, I also saw some adjust their hair before they went to pee.

[humanearth]

Do they get up and clear their dress when they sand up to

[Silver158]

@humanearth nah lol

[sage2021]

Well, since I am a woman and was in the dating field for many many years, I got lied to a lot by guys/men. Therefore, a trust women more, even though a few have tried to snatch my guys away from me. That's not cool either.

[MelvinGeek]

I can't answer this because it depends on the profession.

If I'm calling a plumber to fix my sink, I would trust them more if they were male.
If I'm hiring a babysitter... well... I don't think I need say anything else.

[Chazmatazz269]

Neither, i just distrust them for different reasons and at different times. Women have definitely hurt me worse and in more ways, but that’s partly on me for making myself vulnerable to them. Now that my guard is always up, it’s pretty much 50/50.

[Pinay_ako]

Heck I don’t even trust myself sometimes! Trust is to be earned!!! So nobody!

[Blackcosmo]

Not gonna lie but I do trust women more since I'm more comfortable with them but it depends on the person.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Good choice. I could barely trust myself.

[Blackcosmo]

@HippieVeganJewslim Oh wow

[Shy_Steve]

It comes down to who ignores me more and that's usually Women so odviously I'm going to trust the person who pays more Attention to me.

[Subarugirl]

It entirely depends on what I would be trusting them with..

[Gopnik]

I trust none to be quite honest, but my experience has shown be that guys are more likely to be upfront with things and women will act like snakes behind your back if they are untrust worthy.