Guess how my boyfriend (he's an older man) has decided to prove his masculinity?

[Anonymous]

He's doing it by yelling and swearing at me talking loud when I am speaking so he can drown my voice (yet he accuses ME of yelling at him🙄. He is making stuff up and I can't believe my ears! I wish I had a built in video cam to video him doing that to me. So to prove his masculinity I have to suffer. What can I do to stop his emotional abuse?

[MzAsh]

Assert YOUR dominance by shutting him down and leaving. You’re the one in control here. Make sure he knows it by disposing of him. Figuratively of course.

[turnpost]

Leave. A man should lead with Love and warmth to those he takes under his care.

However reflect on your actions. I am thinking you may be the yelling type lol. a lot of women can't believe there wrong in a lot of arguments as well.

[Asker]

@turnpost I don't know how you drew your conclusion that I am "The yelling type". Actually I have an illness that doesn't allow me to tell. But that is beside the point.
He's 🐝 hanging out with hardcore people and he is learning things from them, then using it on me.
Believe me when I say I can admit when I am wrong about things. This isn't about who is right or wrong either. His whole personality has changed.

[Asker]

**correction**
allow me to tell should be yell

[turnpost]

Yeh tbh you need to go to the core of the issue as to why he is being rude to you.

If he is just being rude to be rude then leave him. Sone people want the world ti burn and you just dont need to waste your time with such bs.

[Anonymous]

Odd that you’re making this about “masculinity.” Why don’t you complain to him about the “gender pay gap.” 🙄

[MzAsh]

It’s easy to recognize when a man is obsessed with proving his own masculinity, but I am curious to know more specifics from the OP about what made her come to that conclusion.

[Opinion Owner]

@MzAsh He just sounds like an asshole to me who treats his girlfriend bad. 🤷‍♂️ Why does it have to be anything more than that? 🤷‍♂️

[MzAsh]

Maybe, but my question is why is he an asshole who treats his girlfriend like shit.

[Opinion Owner]

@MzAsh Eh, some people are just assholes. He may not even know why he treats his girlfriend like crap, and for all we know it’s some deep animus he has against women, or his ex treated him like whatever, or his first girlfriend broke his heart. Who cares. 🤷‍♂️ He’s being an asshole.

[MzAsh]

It could be because of any variety of reasons. Regardless, she needs to put her foot down and draw some boundaries. Assholes are only assholes when you allow them to be.

[Uannoyme]

You can't change someone else's behavior. If you aren't ok with the way he treats you, move on. Emotional abuse doesn't just get better.

[exitseven]

Dump this guy. He obviously has no respect for you.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it would be interesting to hear his side of this story, lol.

[noohair]

You can always record the audio.

[In_Trance]

Aren't you a little old for this?

[abc3643]

Leave him.

[KrakenAttackin]

Um, leave.