Just wonder about the psychology on this. I remember reading a detailed case study about a social experiment done with teachers and grade school students.
A group of teachers was told that one of their classroom students was academically gifted. But the students were really just randomly chosen. As it turns out the randomly chosen students actually did perform better on test scores despite them most likely just being average to begin with. They were treated differently and the expectations made them perform better.
But I wonder how this plays into negative stereotypes as well. If people are assumed to be dishonest, violent, sexually deviant, etc. do they eventually become the negative stereotype despite not really being like that to begin with?
I know people will likely bring up race here. Yes that is widely discussed. But I am really going for positive and negative gender stereotypes. Truth is I think the often unfair “creep” label many men get nowadays can make eventually drive some men in a very bad direction. Not to say some guys don’t deserve that label. Some have definitely earned it. But it seems like that negative stereotype gets thrown out more on assumptions about somebody vs. actual facts.
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The bible says that all things are possible for those who believe, meaning if you believe your intelligent, you will become smarter and if you believe you are stupid, you will become dumber because you won't apply your mind and brain to intellectual tasks. I started out as the dumbest kid in the entire school but I believed I was the top student cause of a prophetic dream that I had and 6 years later, I was getting high 90s in my classes and had three professors who wanted to take me on as a grad student. The world is as complex as the cells in a human body and there are endless possibilities for those willing to cooperate with nature, by being kind, and sacrifice what they need to succeed. I believe I can generate more money than Obama with my business ideas and one major reason I can is that I value money as much as I value toilet paper, I think its a grain of dust when you compare it to the value of a human smile or hand shake. I am also making a list of everybody I know and how they treated me when I was poor, cause nobody who mocked me will get invited to my dinner party.
I had natural academic intelligence in school. Not the top kid but always in the top echelons. But I was also very weak physically and I later became a professional athlete in my 20s doing pro mma. I was stronger and had more mental toughness than most of my opponents. But I wasn’t born with that.
With that said how you treat people can have an impact on how they ultimately turn out. I’m just see that men are getting lots of negative stereotypes nowadays (especially when it comes to sexual deviance) and that is NOT helping them improve.
Yes this is true, you need to let people believe they are winners if you want them to act like winners. It's why I do not endorse corrective impulses that are communicated through a culture and lens of suspicion and pessimism.
It can be tough. Because we want to prevent and protect vulnerable people. For example most guys aren’t comfortable a man in their house when their not around interacting with their wife and kids even if it’s for fully legitimate reasons.
But how can we be avoid being judgmental vs. not being naive. I feel our society as a whole is leaning further and further to the latter. Especially when it comes to handling men who “might” be dangerous and creepy. That unfair judgment can actually screw some people up and actually make them worse.
People have to be their own cheer leader cause there will always be people who say bad things about you that are not true. It happened to Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. The trick is, if somebody says you're worthless, your mind has to shout over them silently "he's lying, he's lying, he's lying!" The only way to get the encouragement you need is to be your own cheer leader, cause you will never have perfect companions who never insult you or underestimate you.
That’s true. But that isn’t always enough. At least that’s the argument some racial minority communities have made. But again it’s complex.
I just see the societal ire being shifted to white men now and it’s not good.
what you're referring to is the Halo Effect/Devil Effect where positive traits are attached to other positive traits and negative traits are attached to other negative traits and this takes place upon first impressions, yes people do judge a book by its cover
one of the first ways to judge someone is unfortunately by their looks. once someone knows how another person looks, a bunch traits are assumed to be attached to them and suddenly there are expectations that are unfairly imposed on that person based on their actions
the general rule of thumb is as goes
handsome + confident = brave / ugly + confident = arrogant
handsome + flirting = charming / ugly + flirting = creepy
handsome + smart = genius / ugly + smart = insufferable
handsome + kind = gentleman / ugly + kind = grooming
handsome + boundaries = standing up for himself / ugly + boundaries = insecure
human beings are still animals at the end of the day with a lot of primitive thoughts still existing in their minds. for example, girls tend to be afraid of "scary" things and ugly guys are "scary" things thus an ugly guy is automatically a creep just by existing
Yes and no I suppose. Its important to keep in mind what is "inherent" and what is a product of our society. We as humans are not really different from the cavemen we started out as and we originated from a single cell organism. Our ability to adapt is truly frightening, which includes both physical and mental adaptations.
However, it is not as simple as that. Adaptation is not necessarily a straight forward process, such as having a social expectation like a racial stereotype change you into conforming into that racial stereotype. I guess its easier to simplify it as you being very likely to change but the direction of that change can be very unpredictable.
For example, if someone has a racial stereotype of being more likely to commit crime then they can either "rebel" against that and try to be lawful or lean into that and become more criminal but what is probably more likely is that they will go in a completely different direction such as becoming more insular to avoid outside judgement or whatever.
Trying to predict the outcome is somewhat of a lost cause and there is usually stronger driving factors for most behavior. For example, racial minorities having higher crime rates not because they have a stereotype but because their socioeconomic situation drives them towards it. In the end, good or bad, stereotypes will change people but probably not in the way you expected it.