Why are people so discourterous nowadays?

[Anonymous]

I interviewed for a job. The recruiter ended up ghosting me after I told her that I was going to accept the job. Later, I went on the internet to look for road trip buddies on reddit. I spoke to someone who ended up just blocking me after I told him that I didn't like hiking.

I'm quite in shock at how some people can be so rude. Is ghosting really the "nicer" thing to do instead of just telling people the truth? Its NOT. I honestly don't understand why people in this generation are like this nowadays. Its so sad. Everyone are assholes pretending to be nice nowadays.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that is super rude of that recruiter and that reddit dude you were talking to! Ghosting people is so not cool.

I think sometimes people just don't wanna deal with any potential confrontation, you know? It's easier to just not reply than to say something the other person might not want to hear. But that's lame because it leaves the other person hanging and confused.

With jobs especially, they at least owe you a proper rejection or explanation since you're taking time out of your day interviewing and stuff. I bet that recruiter just found someone else and didn't feel like telling you. Still super unprofessional though.

As for the reddit hiking guy, he probably wasn't looking for an actual road trip buddy, just someone to chat with about hiking or something dumb like that. Once you said you didn't like it, no use for you anymore so he dipped. Some people on the internet just want what they want I guess.

It is really messed up how common ghosting is now though. Takes two seconds to be honest with someone so they're not left hanging, you know? No one likes that feeling of being left in the dark. I don't get why direct communication is so hard for so many people. Hopefully you have better luck finding open people to deal with going forward!

[Asker]

yea... thats why I find it impossible to trust people nowadays. how hard is it to just tell someone that this isn't gonna work out because we don't share hiking as a hobby? Is blocking someone really necessary for that?

[Oliverlogan263]

You're totally right, trust is so hard to come by these days. Like why can't people just be straight up from the jump? It takes two seconds to send a text saying "Sorry hiking is a must for me, don't think we'd vibe." Boom, no harm no foul. Instead mfers out here blocking over something so minor?

Like you were tryna find a road trip buddy, not a marriage partner. Hiking not being your top priority shouldn't warrant a straight up blocking, that's just being sensitive AF. These dudes out here need to grow a pair and use their words like adults. Ain't nobody got time for middle school games.

I feel you though, after experiences like that I'd be wary of putting faith in people too. Gotta be real selective with who you give your time and energy to. Keep your circle small with the real ones who won't pull no flakey stuff. Don't let those lameos live rent free in your head sis!