Why is there a stereotype that a fathers love is somehow less than a mothers love?

[worldscolide]

As in less important, less valuable.

I would move that a fathers love is just as important as a mothers love. A child needs both. I think that those that say a fathers love is less important are the ones who are fine with children growing up without fathers.. They are the same as the single mothers who fight against 50/50 custody because he "Wants to pay less child support"

What do you think GAG?

A fathers love is less important

A fathers love is just as important

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To that dumbshit that commented hateful things, hijacked multiple threads and then blocked me.. Your comments are gone.. And I have blocked you.. Since your own arguments can't stand debate, how bout you take your medicine.

[etsylo]

they're both equally important. there's a reason why people get daddy or mommy issues growing up and it's all because of the lack of a father/mother figure.

I'm sure the kid will do fine growing up, but there will be some parts in their life that may require one or both parents.
A father's love is not like a mother's love, and a mother's love is not like a father's love. In a way they're different, yet so similar. It's amazing what loving, healthy, and stable parents can do to a child.

[worldscolide]

Best answer so far, thank you!

[AutumnSerenity]

They’re equally important. I do understand where you’re coming from though. I have seen the slander regarding the significance of a father’s role. I think it stems from a lot of women having to raise or do most of the work to raise the child (ren) alone. There are good fathers out there that are involved in their children’s lives but it seems to be a bit disproportionate, unfortunately.

[AaronKrieger]

They're both very important, but a mother's love is more important. Does that mean a mother should automatically win custody battles? No.

I am saying a shitty mother can negatively impact a child's psyche more than a shitty father. However, both can equally do as much damage and it doesn't mean a father's role isn't significant.

[exitseven]

I love my kids as much as my wife does. I just don't show it. I showed up for them every day, made the sacrifices and protected them as much as my wife did.

[worldscolide]

"I showed up for them every day, made the sacrifices and protected them as much as my wife did." You my friend did indeed show it. It may not have been in mushy stuff, But you did what mattered, enough said, and good on you for being a good dad!

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[IslaTheWitch]

It's very damaging for kids. Both boys and girls need fathers in their lives as much as they need mothers.

Some role models that will be used in the future, i. e., to assess possible partners, are formed at an early age by observing both parents and their interactions. Missing parent leaves an emotional void which kids as young adults try somehow to fill. Not having the role model created in their childhood negatively impacts their relationships.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

this stereotype exist and it has become strong with time because and thanks to feminism, gynocentrism and so many having the golden uterus syndrome nowadays

[nastyb]

because truth is.. plenty of men abandon their kids for single moms to raise

[worldscolide]

@nastyb They aren't the majority. Family courts are to blame here by the way. its closer to 10% men, 10% women, and 80% family court. Family courts are financially incentivized to destroy families and stick one parent with majority custody. Why? Read Title IV-D of the Social Security Act. Every state receives 50 cents of federal money per every dollar of alimony, Spousal support, and child support collected. Meaning the government has a lot of incentive to break up families, and its almost never in the best interests of the child. Some states have Enacted default 50/50, which statistically is best for children.. But most have not, they stick with 80/20, 80% to mother, 20% to father custody split.

So yes SOME men abandon their children. MOST do not. Spend 5 minutes on TFRM and you will see men who are desperate to be fathers to their children, and either vindictive ex's or the court system keeps good, able and willing fathers away. You can disagree with this, but the stats do not back that.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

@nastyb because the bigger truth is... plenty of women force these men to abandon their kids via divorce, fake restraining order, etc as women nowadays have that "I'm a grown women I and dont need a man"

and the ignorance that asker pointed out here in this post pretty much favors women at making these decision.

[emeraldsaphire]

I'm not familiar with this stereotype. Obviously a fathers love is just as important. The stereotype I hear is that fathers don't love there children as much.

[Anonymous]

Both mothers and father's love is important.

But it is worse for a child to grow up without a mother than without a father.

why?

because mothers have a unique nurturing, caring side to them that fathers simply do not have. Mothers also have a special bond to their children that fathers do not have.

[worldscolide]

I would strongly disagree with that, because statistically, single father homes do better than single mother homes. Male, Male Gay homes do better raising children than single mother or lesbian homes.. But none do as well as a mother and father home.

Source.. I grew up without a good mother. She chose drugs and prostitution over being a mother to me. I was raised by my grandfather alone.

medium.com/.../single-father-households-do-vastly-better-than-single-mother-heres-the-real-reason-why-8a7fd7c5611d

Additionally Single mothers are responsible for 75% of all child death, child abuse, and child neglect. Even when controlled for single fathers, where the percentages are 3%, 3%, and 4%... single mothers are utterly catastrophic to children.

lifeisbeautiful.org/.../

So this special bond nonsense is just that. Nonsense. Thank you for playing.

[Thestupidusername]

I accidently voted A i meant to vote B. Ofcourse both are needed.

[Anonymous]

oh trust it's very important , especially for the daughter

[Djaay]

Whu just the daughter?

[Djaay]

I mean I've got 7 daughters that I've also raised plus 1 daughter not of my own.

[worldscolide]

@Djaay Daughters who grow up without fathers are 100% more likely to be teen mothers.. and do things like sex work.

lifeisbeautiful.org/.../

[Anonymous]

From what I understand, it is because people take a look at the divorce rate and think that it is the men abandoning the family.

The truth is we really don't know that because we have no fault divorce so we will never truly know why the marriage ended. Even when an accusation is made, the courts actively mock our right to due process so who knows how many of those accusations are even real?

[gorydetails]

This is feminist propaganda.

[worldscolide]

agreed.

[gorydetails]

I really think women just love to be victims.

[worldscolide]

Yes agreed. They participate most heavily in the oppression olympics too.

[gorydetails]

My favorite is the social media posts circulating this time of year that talk about women slaving away to make the magic of Christmas happen then have empty stockings Christmas morning.

[worldscolide]

Right? When its the father that goes out and works 60 to 80 hours per week to make sure it can happen

[gorydetails]

I work full time, cook all the meals, buy almost all the gifts, set the traditions and expectations and spend consistently twice on my wife than she spends on me.

[katiesmuff]

Both are quite important

[AngryCarl]

Well a man who had a bad relationship with his mother will never have good relationships with women. But the reverse is also true for girls.

[nastyb]

thats definitely not true. i don't have a good relationship with my mother or father. i've had plenty of great relationships.

[worldscolide]

Absolutely incorrect. I had a very poor relationship with my mom. I have not seen her since i was 16.. She chose drugs and essentially being a prostitute over being a mother to me. And i am in a happy decade long marriage.