What should I do in this situation , Please read below?

[Finchie40]

My ex and my 19 year old son still live with me , and every time my ex argues with my son over the dumbest things , my ex tries to drag me into it. I will immediately try to defuse the confrontation between them , but they both scream and attack each other and say vicious things to each other They both suffer from ADHD and say some crazy shit to each other. I will tell my son to watch what he says to his mom and tell him do not disrespect your Mom that way, but he still defends himself because she keeps saying vicious things to him basically getting in the last punch , to the point I am stuck in the middle , because she starts attacking me for not beating him up over it? I will yell at him and tell him to shut his mouth , but she keeps attacking him and getting him fired up , so I tell her to shut her mouth as well and go in the other room. Why does my ex think I should beat him up when she is clearly wrong as well? I told the both of them if it doesn’t stop then the both of them need to leave the house or I am calling the cops to have them both escorted out of here. . My ex and son both have love and hate towards each other , My ex acts like I am supposed to kick his ass and hit him when clearly she is in the wrong. I refuse to beat up my son because my son does nothing wrong to me , he knows his Mom is psychotic and he understands why I left her ass because the girl is mentally insane and needs serious mental help. Am I wrong for not beating up my son? I was raised by an abusive alcoholic father that beat me and my brothers up , I refuse to be that kind of parent to my kids’ unless they did something completely dumb and stupid , I am not going to beat up my son for defending himself from his psychotic mother that doesn’t know when to stop attacking , now if he laid his fingers on her , then yes I would attack , but words , it’s not worth it? Am I wrong?

[noohair]

Right or wrong you live in a shit storm hurricane and you can't change either of them. I would offer therapy to your son so he learns about himself and can process the attacks. The other issue is yelling. Yelling is not communication and it is pointless. Your son needs to learn that lesson sooner or later. Right or wrong you live in a shit storm hurricane and you can't change either of them. I would offer therapy to your son so he learns about himself and can process the attacks. The other issue is yelling. Yelling is not communication and it is pointless. Your son needs to learn that lesson sooner or later. You might also be learning that the total emotional cost of keeping this freak show together is not worth any financial benefit. Good Luck. Bro.

[Finchie40]

I told the both of them they need anger management classes big time , I told my ex I am going to beat someone up over words , if they lay a finger on me or someone else I will step on but beating someone isn’t going to teach them anything , it will just make things worse , I told the both of them the next time they clash and she tries to drag me in it , I am having the both of them taken away to a mental ward.

[NathanDavis]

time for all of you to move out... to your own place

[Flower7]

The biggest problem I see here is that you are living in the same home as an ex. That seems like a situation that would never be peaceful.

[Finchie40]

Yea I told the both of them they need anger management classes and therapy, their ADHD ‘s are off the chart , I told them the next time they clash I am having them taken away to the mental ward

[chrissykerdock]

tell him to turn his other cheek

[Finchie40]

When they fight they don’t know when to stop , I will try to break it up but they both keep coming at each other and saying stupid things , of course she blames me and acts like I should kick his ass over it and I am like you are fucking insane , I am not hitting anyone over dumb words. I told the both of them they either get anger management classes or the next time they clash I am having them taken away to the psych ward. I told my ex whoever told her to hit someone over words was a fucking moron.

[chrissykerdock]

i can see it but he needs to cakm down

[chrissykerdock]

to be honest he sounds like his father he needs to get blowjobs

[Finchie40]

LOL yes blow jobs would definitely solve a lot of problems 😘

[ThinkerShell]

Mm... Why you live with your ex? And if you like to, why you call her your ex?

[Flower7]

I was wondering the same thing.

[ThinkerShell]

@Flower7 i know some people marry when they have 4 kids but have never heard of living with ex in one house so i asked