Why do I feel like I can't have any fun or do anything for myself without feeling guilty?

[smahala1991]

Im tired of people always needing me when i can't even afford to take care of my own needs or feel like i can't have fun or indulge without feeling guilty. My sister always wants money for her jail books, my mom always wants money for cigarettes. People always needing me to take them places. I mean im one person and I do a lot. If I decide to be lazy after a 8 hour shift I get fussed at. Like im 34, im an adult. Adulting is hard in a neurodivergent society.

[Crimsyjo]

Whats the consequences of saying no? You don't have to say it meanly. But you can. Guilt is a you emotion not something done to you so you need to learn to understand it's your right to say no and your right to spend your time and money on yourself. So quit feeling guilty and stand up for yourself because nobody is suddenly going to show you respect or kindness when they get everything they demand anyways.

[CaptainSmartass]

Because people probably see you as being reliable and dependable. You should start blocking out time in your day as "me time". Surely there are other people who can run errands for your family.

Simples...

[Staximus]

Your mom doesn't need cigarettes and your sister doesn't need money on her jail books. They need to get their shit together.

[msc545]

Stop giving other people money. They're using you.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Tell them "no"