I feel violated by most men in my life? What can I do?

[Anonymous]

I wish if I can be normal & just exist but for long i’ve been violated by so many different men, even as a kid. I have memories of men hurting me, especially sexually. Every interaction with a man stresses me & i always think i’ll end up violated. None of these men have ever faced consequence they life and exist normally. It irks me so much. I can’t have a love life & i have so many issues meanwhile they are happy… all my relationships failed because I can’t ever be normal & i am always afraid of being sexual. I can’t tell my boyfriend about my struggles too.

[4ngelic]

go see a psychiatrist and get on meds, and get therapist to do cbt and emdr therapy for ptsd. your trauma is causing a distorted view of men and the world, and you'll never be able to have a loving safe trusting relationship where you can a fullfilling sex life, if you dont get fixed up first. you can heal though, but you need medical help

[Anonymous]

First thing you should do is ask yourself --- "If I could punish ALL of these men in any way I chose, would that help me and change who I am for the better?"

Ask yourself that and be fucking honest. The answer is "No, it wouldn't help you one damn bit if they got what they deserved. You would still be damaged, you would still think, feel and react exactly how you do right now. So the conclusion? You're letting them win again, and again, and again. No matter how it hurts, you have to change the pattern. Forget about them --- what are YOU going to do about you!

[exitseven]

I think that you need more help than you can get on this site. Please get some professional help.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[slatyb]

Find a professional counselor.

[Anonymous]

the common denominator is you not them

[beefcakebradybatson]

Stay away from a**holes, lassie !!!

[Darkest-Knight]

Get professional help.

[seeyounexttuesday]

You feel or you were?

[Anonymous]

Get help and stop living in the past.

[FunkyMonkee]

Become a nun.

[msc545]

Try women.