It bothers me so much how hated I am and it always has. Cis women are so lucky they get to be beautiful and feminine and loved. They never have to feel like they’re monsters. I transitioned at age 14 in 2008 in East Tennessee and back then I got on the internet to escape transphobia. But now I don’t even really experience transphobia anymore irl but I see it everywhere online. There was a period in the late 2010’s where I was amazed. It felt like we were finally accepted and normalized and I felt so happy. I was honestly surprised it happened so soon. But beginning in 2020 people developed an obsession with us. It hurts. It hurts so bad. I don’t understand why people want to target and bully such a small population of people. Us trans people are a small minority I rarely meet other girls like me but people hate us as if we are everywhere and convincing every child to be trans. We are the most acceptable group to hate yet people act like they’re courageous for hating us. As if making a person who suffers with a horrible life suffer even more is some courageous act. It’s so weird and I fully expect my existence to be illegal by 2030. I’m so sad. I’m now an alcoholic and I don’t even care. I work at Walmart and I love my job!! My coworkers are always nice to me and my customers are always nice to me. But I get online and I see people being so mean. How am I supposed to not let this bother me? How am I supposed to feel happy in a world that hates me so much? I’m so scared. I matter. My humanity matters. Me going for a walk today
As a trans woman, how do I cope with feeling so hated and dehumanized?
Somebody's got a warped groove! The same question 4 times in a row? On one hand, people are tired of it being shoved down their throats. If trans people would've just got their operations and went about their lives without making a big stink about them BEING trans, hardly any fuss would've been made about them being that way except for mostly homophobes that think that, if they fall for a trans woman, it makes THEM look like they're gay so, they feel you're tricking them by being trans and "MAKING THEM" fall in love with you! Like it's YOUR fault THEY acquire feelings for you? But, it's BECAUSE of the way they were brought up: believing that trans IS wrong, gay and a mental illness, that causes them to be that way towards you! They also tend to think that you doing this is just an excuse for you to be able to get into a girls locker room or bathroom so you can look at other naked women, take pictures of their privates or try to rape them!! WITH WHAT? YOUR CUNT? According to democrats, you don't even NEED to get an operation, anymore to waltz right into a girls room!!! You just CLAIM you're a woman and you're free to enter!! So why would YOU need to go through the GREAT expense and physical pain of an operation JUST to get a POSSIBLE peak at someone else's tits or twat? Absobuttfuckinglutely RIDICULOUS!!! I'm SURE there's LOTS of trans people, now, slapping their forehead and going, "You mean, I could've KEPT my dick and just SAID I'm a woman to get into the bathroom to see naked women?" NOT!!! They also, OBVIOUSLY, just don't understand your mindset or what it's like to BE someone like you. They've got some bizarre idea that trans is a mental illness or that you're just doing this on a whim of fancy!! The ONLY way it could be construed as a mental illness is because the sperm that you once were had too much of one hormone and not enough of the other so, your brain got wired as if you were going to be a girl but, your body went the other direction!! All YOU'RE doing, by getting a sex change, is trying to correct nature's mistake. HERE'S an example of a mental illness!! I once saw a guy on t. v. who CLAIMED he was a woman: he wore a long flowery dress, had a full beard, used the male voice he was born with, and rode around in a wheelchair because he decided to saw off his own legs just below the knees just because he didn't want the lower half of his legs!! where was the global outrage over that? Why is it no one raises a fuss over someone being born with a facial disfigurement who gets that fixed later in life? Why is it no one says a fucking word about people getting pierces, tattoos and body modifications? I saw a picture 30 years ago of a guy's dick which he CHOSE to have split down the middle several inches and have those stupid little barbells piercing each half of the head of his dick!! Where was the outrage over that? If someone was born a hermaphrodite and they decide to have their body "changed" to favour the one gender more than the other, no one says a word about that! If someone born with extra fingers or toes and decides to have them removed, no one says a word!
You mentioned the problem several time “ONLINE”. Social media is a cesspool. If anyone wants to feel hate go online. It doesn’t matter who you are there will be people online just waiting to hate you. I suggest you stay offline.
Now for my take on it as a normal straight male…. When they started pushing trans on children that was a bridge too far. Telling children who aren’t even thinking about it that you can be anything you want…. a girl, a boy, a furry maybe you want to be a dolphin? That’s just wrong and it made people very made at the people doing this. Then they introduced trans story hour in schools where these guys dressed in revealing clothing dressed like a woman would read stories to children. The fear was and still is that these are not trans…. These are pedophiles who found a loophole to get close to children with their nutsack hanging out the bottom of their G-string. So for those like you who are actual trans, you catch the hate for all the crap that’s happening. Is that fair? NO. What has to happen is like in any community you need to Police your own. If real trans people would call out the BS then the trans community would get more respect. Does this make sense?
Hey look, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you and this hate you see going on is nothing more than MAGA trying to create an issue where one doesn't exist to rile up their uneducated cultists. Unfortunately there will always be those who hate trans people simply because their primal instinct fears what is different from them and again I chalk that up to a lack of education.
Don't let their stupidity drag you down with them. Live as who you are. Fuck the rest who can't leave you alone about it.
Trump even tried to drag that poor DoorDash grandma into his ridiculous "men in women sports" nonsense. Probably only outdone by him lecturing small children on "Joe Biden's autopen". :-/
Well personally I think you must have a screw loose, but I also believe you have the right to do this and if your not bothering me or harming anyone else then so be it. The unfortunate thing is many do not think as I do and they believe they should attack anything that differs from their thinking which is a shame, but a fact!
I truly do appreciate you talking to me like a human being! I appreciate that even though you don’t understand you think I should be allowed to live my life. But I also don’t understand why women don’t understand why a man would want to be a woman! y'all know how being feminine feels and how feeling beautiful and enjoying beautiful clothes and other things feel I don't know why y'all think it’s crazy when a man wants to feel beautiful and feminine.
I think it’s good to express and voice your lived experience… it’s very valid and tough to be a part of a population that, sometimes, the world do not always understand and there are some hate. Some people such as on here do not understand the struggle of being a minority and having privilege where they do not need to worry about their safety/acceptance. Unfortunately I don’t think this is a platform that’s 100% lgbtq+ friendly and expression. I do recommend trying the “Her” app that has much more lgtbq+ support and expression :) As a Bi female, I think it sucks that the world thinks they can control how we feel and who we are. But nah they can not take away your identity and autonomy. Do your best to keep yourself safe in the community in-person and online. Try your best to not converse with transphobic because it will only impact your emotional well-being and mental health. Focus on the positive that’s going well in your life and the people who cares & accepts you. I encourage you to also work on recovery for sobriety and find different ways to cope. Part of developing healthy coping is finding your safe community (which you do have as you mentioned), things you enjoy, positive self-talk, or listening to music always does healing wonders. Find a local lgtbq support group to connect with others on what you’re going through. Consider thinking about individual AOD counseling, AA groups, or individual and group therapy for further supoort.
you put a shit ton of work into making this about being trans... Stop hiding behind that identity. Change the question to "how do I cope with feeing so hated and dehumanized?"
I just removed the trans shit and just like that I made your question something a teen boy or girl would ask. You're not special... everyone feels that. Male... female... the other 32 genders...
You're not special... when you get over that hurdle... that's when I'll tell you to hit the weights. You want me to focous on you being trans? how about I don't give a shit and you should stop focus on that to move on.
It appears to me that the problem is with other women and not with men. Women have always strived to ban both trans-women and and cis-men from their gender related activities and facilities. Men have been more accepting. Women have forced men to allow them into men's private clubs, sports activities, restrooms, locker rooms as reporters, and all other activities; and men have been accepting. However, women have gone to extremes to ban men from all of those areas.
I have been in men's public restroom on several occasions when a woman has entered, used the toilet, and washed her hands without a problem. I can't even enter the women's public restroom to wash my hands when the men's restroom is out of soap or paper towels. I certainly would be banned from a woman's locker room even as a sports reporter.
Why can't we just have gender inclusive restrooms, locker rooms, exercise facilities, sports activities, and other areas when physical size is equal or does not matter?
A few things. If you have healthcare please go speak to someone about your alcoholism. Two get off the Internet. It's a cesspool and you don't need other people to validate you. In real life you experience more positive interactions and that's great to hear. That's what really counts. Your in real life presence is the only thing that matters. Online presence is bull shit and not necessary to be happy.
If you continue to post online you will always be suceptible unfortunately. So I say take a break from online stuff like this and get some therapy about how to navigate your life through this and get yourself sober.
You get to choose if you're happy and mentally healthy or not.
I don’t know at what age you transitioned but what you’re describing sounds like the average male experience.
Life hits hard, and it doesn’t discriminate too much.
The fact that you’re a trans woman changes nothing. You still need to have thick skin and sharp elbows Stop caring so much about what others think or say to you Just own who you are
No I mean being bullied period Bullied for being feminine Bullied for being masculine Bullied if you’re smart, dumb, athletic, out of shape, gay, straight, whatever
No matter what you make of yourself there will always be people who don’t like it and will bully you for it
As an adult you can surround yourself with likeminded individuals to avoid constant confrontation
And even when confrontation does come, you take it on, head on
Unfortunately there is no magic pill to solve that
If we want to stop racism, we should just stop talking about it and making race somehow special.
When you emphasize that you are a trans woman, you give people who don't like that to disparage you. If you stop mentioning trans, or acting trans, people will treat you differently.
The transphobia here is insane. Don't let it bother you. I have a trans guy as friend, and he is one of the coolest and most genuine and open minded person I know. Always enjoyed my time with him. It is basic human decency to be tolerant of existence of anyone who isn't hurting anyone in anyway. You being trans does not hurt anyone, obviously it is not your fault then. Ignore these dumbass people who are extremely hypocrite. You go girl!
Stop playing pretend works wonders. The world doesn't have to acquiesce to you. Turns out, free thought and free expression are contradictory belief systems.
"Give me your tired, your poor, / Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free"
Even the Mohammeds who want to kill those people over there?
And now i'm the bad guy.
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Stop making it an issue, which the issue is less that you are trans and more that you feel the need to go around and tell everyone, "hey look I'm a trans woman", it gives off the vibe you think being trans makes you more special then non trans people.
Please stop with this self victimization. You are trans, you chose this life, and knew full well what you were signing up for. Everyone has a hard life, whether they are male, female, or whatever it is that you are. You are not an exception to the difficulties of life.
Who hates you? Most people don't give it much thought and while most don't agree with it they don't hate. I'd say a small percentage hates. Everybody is hated by some group I think.
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