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Can I support feminism while rejecting broad “I hate men” generalizations?

I'm a man, and I support women's rights without conditions — I'm pro-choice, and I believe women are fully capable and should never be held back in their lives or careers by a society that too often underestimates them. I understand the dangers women face in a way I try never to dismiss: the harassment, the abuse, the calculation they have to run in situations I can walk through without thinking twice. Today at work, a man was going up to cars in our parking lot harassing customers, and those women were obviously and correctly upset — I told them to carry pepper spray, because their safety matters to me and I want them to have a way to protect themselves.

I also understand why, after experiences like that, women say things like "I hate men." I know it comes from real fear and real harm, and I know most violence and harassment does come from men — I won't pretend otherwise. But I'd be lying if I said those statements never sit wrong with me. When a woman today explained the situation to another customer by saying "we're just talking about how men are," it stung, because the generalization itself is the problem. If a statement like that were aimed at a religion, a race, or any other group, it wouldn't be acceptable — and I don't think the answer to being judged unfairly is to judge another whole group unfairly. The men I know would make the right choice: they'd step in, they'd defend a woman, they'd never be the man in that parking lot. The problem was never the male sex as a whole — the problem is the specific men who choose to harass, abuse, and intimidate, and they should be named and dealt with as exactly that. I can stand for women's safety and rights, take the dangers they face seriously, and still believe people should be judged by their own actions — because those two things were never in conflict.

Can I support feminism while rejecting broad “I hate men” generalizations?
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