Would it bother you if your girlfriends boss had a crush on her....

[Anonymous]

And they worked together alone, a lot. Not that you think she'll cheat but just that he likes her and they spend so much time together. This is my situation. My boss bakes special cakes for me and gives me cute names, amongst other things. I do really like him - just not romantically. He is also 30 odd years older than me. Anyway, my boyfriend always asks about him. For example, he doesn't ask how actual work went, but instead how my boss is... I have a feeling my boss having a crush on me is bothering my boyfriend. What do you think? Would it bother you?

[Prof_Don]

It's not a good feeling when a guy that is consistently around your girlfriend is hitting on him.

Remember this is more of a male territorial thing, than it is a lack of trust in you thing.

As a male, he wants to protect his mate against all other males to make sure they know that you are HIS woman...and him knowing you are around this guy that is definitely showing interest, but isn't there to "express his sole claim on you", is simply making his primal side come out.

As long as he trusts you, he'll be able to tame down this jealousy territorial primal rage within him. The most you can do, is to make sure you don't give him ANY reason to think that you are untrustworthy. :)

[kairon156]

it would bother me but depending on how long we were togther I would try to let it go and trust her.

I would ask if I could pick her up at work so her boss could see me in person. I know if I have a crush and find out a she has a Boyfriend I would still fancy her in a friendly way but I would also keep in mind that she's taken.

[leslie1980]

I know this was posted a while ago but I can see where you are coming from...us pretty girls have it tougher when it comes to bosses wanting us, than ugly girls do. I was in a similar situation, you don't want to be mean to the boss cause you need the job and want the pay-raise...nothing wrong with that! I just would NOT tell my boyfriend about it. I would toss the cake at the end of the day. Or leave it at work for my co-workers. One thing that helps is if you never mention that boss at home..that is what is inappropriate. You are making your boyfriend feel uncomfortable, besides, why even tell him? If you are not trying to make him jealous, then don't tell him.

[Anonymous]

I agree that you're leading your boss on because you feed off of the attention. That's messed up

[Serotriptomine]

Hell yeah it'd bother me! *reads the rest*

Yep. It'd bother me, I don't know, as long as I could trust my significant other to not put herself into a situation that would lead to her cheating on me, it would ultimately be inconsequential.

[Anonymous]

So you're leading a guy on because you're not getting the right attention from your boyfriend. Heh and they say older women are more mature!

[Asker]

Im not really sure I don't understand your comment... I'm not leading anyone on. I'm not going to be rude to my boss (I'd like to keep my job!:) but I by no means lead him on. I'm also not old... But I'm I'm guessing you must be rather young...? :)

[Opinion Owner]

Actually I'm fairly old, and yes, you are leading him on. If he continues to give you things and you take them, without telling him you have a boyfriend etc..you are not a very mature lady

[Asker]

He knows I have a boyfriend :) . He is my boss, and I'm not about to call in a complaint against him :). Apart from not being I'm not in a financial position to even risk losing my job... It's not like he is slapping me on the bum or anything. He just has a crush on me...

[Opinion Owner]

I call a gold digger! Also, I don't think you would be taking gifts and leading him on if he were 20 years younger. You need an attitude adjustment