When women say they do not need a man in their life?

[Anonymous]

Why do they say this and what do they mean by it? They do not need a man for money, emotional reasons,protection, at all? Also, if a guy said they do not need a women it their life they would be seriously questioned for a lot of different reasons.

Updates

+1 y

Have you ever heard a guy say they do not need a women in there life?

[Anonymous]

Well, I am bi, but I know that's not what you meant. :P And as a feminist, I do personally find the idea of relying on a man, literally needing him, to be a huge turn off. I guess my parents raised me to believe that I could do and be anything that I wanted, and that's how I look at the world. I also started dating later in life (after high school), so I did kind of mature into my own self in a different way than my friends who were dating really early in our childhoods. I'm also an only child. I mean, its been me by myself for a long time lol I'm comfortable with myself.

I don't need a male partner in my life for financial security, money, protection, etc. That doesn't mean it doesn't help, but I like being self sufficient in terms of being single. But not even completely, because I have no problem getting help from family and friends. I personally just do not want to be the type of woman who relies on a man for those things. that's usually how you get relationships that aren't founded purely on the desire to be there. If you literally need someone for money or finances or protection or relief, then your motives for being with them aren't as ideal as they could be. My parents have been like that, and theyre unhappy. I have a friend right now who has no family to turn to and is living with her boyfriend and his family. she is also poorly paid in her job and struggling to find another, while she is trying to go to school. I asked her if she were financially secure or had family to turn to, would she still be with him. she said that she didn't know, that she probably wouldn't be because their relationship isn't really where it should be and they have a sketchy past. I've seen cases like this left and right. the girl needs him for something, that creates a financial vulnerability on her end and sometimes leads to resentment or a nasty attitude on his end.

I'm not the type of girl who literally feels like she has to be in (or needs) relationships. I have always had friends like that. They are the type of girls/women who need constant male attention and affection, something in their psychology makes them feel and believe that its an essential part of their happiness and ability to thrive. they jump from one relationship to the other without much rest in between. they actively look for men, go out to meet people hoping to "meet someone", etc. They can't stand to be alone.There's something fundamentally, psychologically wrong if you can't find happiness within yourself, and you need that to come from a romantic partner. I just don't believe in that. I think you should want relationships as something to add to your life, not something to complete you, to fill the parts of you that were ever meant to be filled by another human being. but some of those girls I've known had father issues. I've never lacked male affection in my life, my dad has been there for me every single day of my life. So I'm not as likely to crave that male attention as some others.

[Opinion Owner]

definitely, I've heard this. I was just talking to a friend about this and he was telling me about how he doesn't want any relationships, I think in part because of how he views people. he said I realized why he didn't like people a long time ago. and he has made it very clear that he's not into relationships at this not at this point in his life, he doesn't need them. I've known a lot of guys like this actually, I'm surprised you think they don't exist. that's weird, theyre everywhere.

[Opinion Owner]

*he realized. sorry, I started it out thinking I would quote him and then changed direction haha

[Asker]

I have never been in a relationship and I'm not really a people person. Thought of this because my mom was watching some show or movie and when I came out to get a drink the female charather said this.

[Opinion Owner]

does "not a people person" = you don't socialize much at all? because that's what it would take not to know this.

also, how can you present the question in this manner "why say this, what if men said this" if you don't socialize much with men to begin with, to know if they say that or not ? that doesn't seem logical, but okay. no biggie.

[kia58]

They actually mean exactly that, they don't need a man. They don't need him to provide, they don't need him to lead, they don't need him to protect, they don't need him to raise children in some cases, heck now they don't even need him to get pregnant, they just don't need him.

Male role of a protector, leader, provider of shelter has become unnecessary with so many emasculated males walking around. Females have their gender role as well. It is that of a nurturer, supporter, adviser, the shelter itself.

But since girls refuse to ever consider that they might not be able to do it ALL successfully, and think they are not valuable unless they compete with the man in the relationship, while guys just gave up on assuming their masculine role since that role has been demonized by modern feminism, yes women don't need men.

Men need to wake up and realize they are the action and girls are the reaction. If you act like a girl, always ask for permission, cater to her needs, whine over little things, obsess over your looks, expect girls to pursue you etc, you will have women responding by acting like men, thus becoming unattractive to you.

PS. For girls reading this: The feminine role does not stop you from having a career, or a job outside your home. It merely redirects your energies at different things, at home.

Same for guys, your masculine role does not by any means hang on you earning money. If the money is your only attractive point, you're not acting like a man in the first place.

Oh I'll so get thumbed down for this. =p

[kia58]

Less and less men are willing to get married. Men don't need women either, since they are not fulfilled by those very women. They need sex.

[Hades]

We don't need sex, just want it. Any guy that needs sex is still an adolescent, p**** dependant fool who is controlled by his hormones and his d***.

Good answer, though.

[kia58]

Well I'm no man to claim to know exactly what you need. It was a mere presumption judging on what male sense of accomplishment and purpose, has come down to. Getting laid.

But if you consider yourself a man, instead of a "guy" maybe you don't fall under the category of males I m talking about. Than again it could merely be your superior understanding of "guys" in the first place.

[Hades]

I understand how some guys can view getting sex as an accomplishment, hence the rise of "pick up artists" *smh*.

Ofcourse I can't speak for all guys, but in my opinion, masculinity is neither validated nor defined by femininity. These pick up artists and other guys that put so much effort into chasing and sleeping with women are on a fool's errand.

[Anonymous]

When I say it, I don't mean it in any kind of defensive way nor does it have anything to do with being hurt in the past. For me personally it has to do with outgrowing unhealthy ways many girls are raised in. While growing up, they are told countless stories in which the main character was a woman who was dead/asleep/miserable until The Man showed up and she came back to life and was happy and fulfilled. They are conditioned to believe that no matter what a girl has going for her, no matter how talented or successful or wonderful she is, she is a failure if she doesn't have a guy in her life. Like that is supposed to be the main goal, like a girl's life and sense of accomplishment should revolve around that. That kind of thinking is the reason single women were considered old maids in the past, but no one judged men in the same fashion. Men often measure their achievements based on their success, girls measure it on their relationships and often feel worthless without one. So for me when I say it, it doesn't mean I resent men in any way, shape or form, it doesn't mean that I don't want love, it's more about acknowledging that life is okay, that I am okay even without that, that I can enjoy life and appreciate myself even if I don't have a guy in my life right now.

[papercut2]

I didn't read the girls comments

But honestly I'm guessing there's some ''We're independant strong women'' stuff in there

That has nothing to do with it. Every woman wants a man, not every woman can get one or hold on to one though. Same goes for men

Freedom is fun, but never as fun as being in a relationship

[Anonymous]

cuz girls don't want anyone, and guys don't say that junk because we guys always want a girl

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I want a man, but I don't need one. I used to say this all the time as kind of a defense reaction to let people (guys) know that I don't need him around so if he's gonna start acting negatively to me (lying, cheating, manipulating) then I can drop him easily since I don't need him. What I really meant was that, look I am not dependant on you for my survival so if you start acting up and treating me bad I can leave you because I am not needy and not the type to put up with anything just to say she has a man, no matter how bad he is. I don't need him like I need air, water and shelter, he is replaceable. I don't really say things like that now because I realized that it doesn't come off good. If a guy said he didn't need a woman (i've heard guys say this, often in more vulgar terms) it comes across like he is bitter or hurt or negative. so I thought well maybe I came off that way when I said I didn't need a man.

[mklinsao]

Bullsh*t. They want a man, and they know it. They say that because they want to be independent and not a damsel in distress. They mean that they don't RELY on a man; that doesn't mean they don't want one.

[Asker]

Good point. There is a difference between the two. And just because a guy makes more does not mean the girl is just with him for reliance on money.

[mklinsao]

Yeah, I think that's more the idea of "don't need no man," haha. I think it's a woman liberation thing more than anything else.

[cottoncandylvr]

Usually in most cases when a woman says "I don't need a man in my life" they were usually hurt by one and want to make themselves feel better and more independent by saying it or they simply do not want the stress or drama because they can do bad all by themselves.

[LJHam]

There is a big difference between 'need' and 'want'.

Need, by definition, means that you cannot survive without it. As in, you need oxygen, food, etc.

Want is something that you can get by without.

I'm 41 and have never been married, never lived with anyone, haven't had a SO in over a decade. If I 'NEEDED' a man then I would be dead by now.

Sure it would be more pleasant if I had someone to share my life with. Someone to share the burdens of life, the joys of life but... I don't and I'm still here. So therefore, I don't need someone.

I'm lucky my parents raised me to be self reliant. I know how to change a tire when it goes flat. Heck, I've fixed a ton of mechanical problems in my life that a man would typically fix. But without a man, I had to do it myself. I see nothing wrong with that.

Honestly, I don't understand a man's attraction to damsels in distress. Perhaps guys need gals to be weak so that they can see themselves as strong.

[gummybear888]

Um, I personally don't need a guy in my life but I have my fiance which is emotionally comforting I suppose. But at times, I feel like it sucks because I'm going through a tough time and you kind of expect them to support you or help you out.

[Asker]

Your fiance would be your guy.

[MrzSushiiBunnii]

Most of the time women say that for the same reasons men do. They have probably been troubled by their experiences with men and feel that "They Can Do Bad All By Themselves". lol

[cottoncandylvr]

I like how we both thought "I can do bad all by myself" haha

[Anonymous]

In this time women don't physically need a guy to survive on her own. Lot's of women are either a single parent, or living independently and they are fine on their own. That is what it means technically. There is no difference between men and women, they both get crap for saying thing like that. Women are just more appreciated for it considering the historical events that didn't allow us to be able to "not need a man."

[Anonymous]

some of us just enjoy our single life. its nice to be able to do what ever it is you want and not have to answer to anyone. I like not having any strings or ties to anyone. relationships take a lot of work and some of us simply do not want the work.

[NerdGrl]

I guess.women who say that mean generally that they can make it on their own through life..I don't think Its really an.emotional thing.

[Anonymous]

it's a way of feeling better about being single. I don't say taht because it's not true. I am single right now but I don't want to be.

[Anonymous]

yes. I have heard form both sexes. men who said they don't need women. women who said they don't need men. they have their own reasons. too many to mention one by one.

me... I don't need a woman to be my wife but I need a woman to be my fwb.

[Anonymous]

might mean all the guys they ever screwed bombed in bed

might mean she love her vibrator

[Anonymous]

Its a personal choice