the mentality behind this sort of vile behavior is the metastasized cancerous rot responsible for the current decline and inevitable collapse of our society.
its the same kind of premeditated selfishness as any COE who stole his companies retirement fund, or shady car salesmen who intentionally lies to sell sh*t cars for a fast buck, or politician who makes back room deals for personal gain at the expense of those who elected them.
lol it is not comparable to that stuff at all! I'm not breaking these dudes hearts (or their wallets) out here. I go out and guys offer to buy me stuff I accept. if there cool we'll hangout again if there not it was nice to meeting you. big deal.
it is the same from a moral stand point! those guys are buying you drinks because they want a chance to spend some time with you at the club you KNOW this and take the drinks anyway even tho you have a Boyfriend and/or have no intention of talking to them. It is incredibly deceptive and even more selfish.
well I said that it was complicated with him because it is. we're not necessarily "dating" its just like he goes out and I go out but we hangout like all the time. I don't know I guess I just don't see as such a huge thing considering they're offering, they shouldn't offer something to someone if they don't want me to take it.
you KNOW they are offering because they want to spend some time with you and your taking advantage of them because you can get something for free and its fun, your not giving any thought to the other person on taking any personal accountability for your actions.
how would you feel if you saw a really cute guy at a bar and decided to buy him a drink in hopes that he would give you a chance only to have him smile, happily take the drink and walk away, or lead you on to get you to buy more?
Well if you can't empathise with that then you have bigger problems then simply acting greasy. There is nothing wrong with turning them down or walking away, its when you do that and accept a drink from them that's slimy.
that's dumb. your telling me its slimy to accept something from someone for free. because. . . I don't tell them there gonna get anything out of this conversation unless I'm serious. where am I taking advantage. they're a grown up too and they know exactly what there doing when they offer to get me a drink. don't offer something if you don't want someone to take it.
Im not looking to argue with you over this sorry if it fells like its going in that direction.
I think you know what your doing is wrong or you wouldn't be asking, it alsmost seems like you might be seeking some sort of validation of your behavior.
the men are also responsible for their behavior and they risk being taken advantage of, that doesn't make it right for you to take advantage. It really is poor behavior.
well I disagree. I feel like if I am at a bar and a guy offers me a drink and we talk then he ask me if I wanna go get something to eat or w/e then that makes me a person who accepting the offer in front of her. I am not gonna pay money if I don't have too.
you can justify your actions all you want it still doesn't make it right. If I were you tho I would be much more concerned about your lack of ability to empathise that is some pretty serious sh*t.
your justifying your actions to your self not to us. Your being told its really sh*tty behavior not that's its unfair. It has nothing to do with fair and everything to do with sleezy.
everyone likes free stuff that's not in question. The issue is how you go about getting it, intentionally taking advantage at another's expense for your own personal gain is sleezy.
Yes, you are using these guys and I would lose respect for you knowing you are doing this. It's one thing if the guy does it on his own, but if you guys are constantly out using guys for there money that is completely wrong.
Are they just randomly walking up to and offering drinks, or are you flirting with them first? My guess is its the later. At least the majority of the time because 99% of guys today, don't just buy girls drinks whom they've barely even said hi to.
Frankly, its really quite sad that you even have to ask this question and seem to feel no remorse for what you are doing. You might honestly be a sociopath. I mean, everyone in this thread has all condemned what you've done, yet you still seem to think its OK. I still cannot comprehend how there are people like you who literally no sense of logical reasoning.
well I don't think this is that big of deal. its like maybe 15-30$ here and there I don't think these guys wallets are breaking. and I mean if I like them we'll hangout again. I'm not sitting here giving em false hope. if I talk to a guy he has a chance.
Does girls get mad when guys talk about getting easy lays from other girls?
Some do, some don't. Personally, I see it as one of the perks of being whichever sex we were assigned, so there's no reason to get all annoyed and mad about it.
Know this though - what you are doing is considered at best a mild form of gold digging by most guys, so ... don't start hating on guys when they start treating you like a gold digger one day.
Yeah, you're a user if you do that. What else would you call it if you are "using" the guy for your needs. And so what if you got rent and school stuff to pay for? Do none of those guys have to pay for their sh*t like you do?
well the same could be said about the freeloaders on wellfare...they government offers that money and they accept. still a lower way to live life if you ask me
lol that's an entirely different issue. I am not asking for them to do this for me. a person on welfare ask the gov. for it. getting free drinks doesn't make me a 'freeloader' its makes me thrifty and save money for other things.
alright look, I'm obviously not convincing you of anything, but I'm just gunna say that people don't just buy strangers gifts and expect that to be that. really, who the hell does that? furthermore I just feel bad for the guys cause they have all the expenses that you do, so it just seems a bit selfish to me. at our age, girls get paid just about the same as guys so that's not an excuse. ya when we are in teh real world and your making 0.70 to our $1, that's totally fair to expect us to cover more cost
but that's the thing I don't expect them to do anything. they choose to, and I definitely don't think I deserve it just cause I'm a girl. I appreciate a guy who likes taking care of a girl, but he certainly doesn't have too. and if a guy is buying me something and expecting otherwise while I am making it pretty clear that there not gonna get anything else from accept maybe my number if I wanna hangout again then I feel like that's there decision.
Do you think that guys that pay your drinks and food do it just for you to be happy? They do not want nothing from you? It doesn't work that way... If I were your boyfriend I would know,that you flirt with them... ALL of them to get what you want,and trust me it is not cool. And even more,that behavior and attitude of yours just show how you don't have respect,and how you use people... That is NOT attractive trait to have in your girlfriend... Need more?
yeah I mean I don't want him to get jealous cause I'm talking to some bar dude. that's just some bar dude. I like him way more. he use to act like he was cool with it but he recently started being all weird about it now.
Still wrong QA. You are still missing the point...YOU ARE USING PEOPLE FOR MONEY. I don't care what your circumstances are or who is benefiting from your manipulation. It's wrong wrong wrong.
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the mentality behind this sort of vile behavior is the metastasized cancerous rot responsible for the current decline and inevitable collapse of our society.
lol 'vile behavior'? really?
yep, its abhorrent!
its the same kind of premeditated selfishness as any COE who stole his companies retirement fund, or shady car salesmen who intentionally lies to sell sh*t cars for a fast buck, or politician who makes back room deals for personal gain at the expense of those who elected them.
lol it is not comparable to that stuff at all! I'm not breaking these dudes hearts (or their wallets) out here. I go out and guys offer to buy me stuff I accept. if there cool we'll hangout again if there not it was nice to meeting you. big deal.
it is the same from a moral stand point! those guys are buying you drinks because they want a chance to spend some time with you at the club you KNOW this and take the drinks anyway even tho you have a Boyfriend and/or have no intention of talking to them. It is incredibly deceptive and even more selfish.
well I said that it was complicated with him because it is. we're not necessarily "dating" its just like he goes out and I go out but we hangout like all the time. I don't know I guess I just don't see as such a huge thing considering they're offering, they shouldn't offer something to someone if they don't want me to take it.
you KNOW they are offering because they want to spend some time with you and your taking advantage of them because you can get something for free and its fun, your not giving any thought to the other person on taking any personal accountability for your actions.
how would you feel if you saw a really cute guy at a bar and decided to buy him a drink in hopes that he would give you a chance only to have him smile, happily take the drink and walk away, or lead you on to get you to buy more?
i wouldn't do that. so I don't know how that would feel.
i'm not saying they don't have a chance but if its obvious that we're not clicking then I'll leave.
Well if you can't empathise with that then you have bigger problems then simply acting greasy. There is nothing wrong with turning them down or walking away, its when you do that and accept a drink from them that's slimy.
that's dumb. your telling me its slimy to accept something from someone for free. because. . . I don't tell them there gonna get anything out of this conversation unless I'm serious. where am I taking advantage. they're a grown up too and they know exactly what there doing when they offer to get me a drink. don't offer something if you don't want someone to take it.
Im not looking to argue with you over this sorry if it fells like its going in that direction.
I think you know what your doing is wrong or you wouldn't be asking, it alsmost seems like you might be seeking some sort of validation of your behavior.
the men are also responsible for their behavior and they risk being taken advantage of, that doesn't make it right for you to take advantage. It really is poor behavior.
well I disagree. I feel like if I am at a bar and a guy offers me a drink and we talk then he ask me if I wanna go get something to eat or w/e then that makes me a person who accepting the offer in front of her. I am not gonna pay money if I don't have too.
you can justify your actions all you want it still doesn't make it right. If I were you tho I would be much more concerned about your lack of ability to empathise that is some pretty serious sh*t.
lol I don't really have to justify this accept to you guys on here that are finding it so unfair.
your justifying your actions to your self not to us. Your being told its really sh*tty behavior not that's its unfair. It has nothing to do with fair and everything to do with sleezy.
uh huh. getting free stuff to you is sleezy. that's fine.
everyone likes free stuff that's not in question. The issue is how you go about getting it, intentionally taking advantage at another's expense for your own personal gain is sleezy.
they offer! god I don't understand. I am not taking advantage they ask me what I want. they shouldn't ask if they don't want an answer.
that's exactly part of the problem, you can't even understand.
Yes, you are using these guys and I would lose respect for you knowing you are doing this. It's one thing if the guy does it on his own, but if you guys are constantly out using guys for there money that is completely wrong.
i don't ask these guys to do this they offer.
Are they just randomly walking up to and offering drinks, or are you flirting with them first? My guess is its the later. At least the majority of the time because 99% of guys today, don't just buy girls drinks whom they've barely even said hi to.
Frankly, its really quite sad that you even have to ask this question and seem to feel no remorse for what you are doing. You might honestly be a sociopath. I mean, everyone in this thread has all condemned what you've done, yet you still seem to think its OK. I still cannot comprehend how there are people like you who literally no sense of logical reasoning.
whoa you are super pissed off about this haha
well I don't think this is that big of deal. its like maybe 15-30$ here and there I don't think these guys wallets are breaking. and I mean if I like them we'll hangout again. I'm not sitting here giving em false hope. if I talk to a guy he has a chance.
Does girls get mad when guys talk about getting easy lays from other girls?
Some do, some don't. Personally, I see it as one of the perks of being whichever sex we were assigned, so there's no reason to get all annoyed and mad about it.
Know this though - what you are doing is considered at best a mild form of gold digging by most guys, so ... don't start hating on guys when they start treating you like a gold digger one day.
Yeah, you're a user if you do that. What else would you call it if you are "using" the guy for your needs. And so what if you got rent and school stuff to pay for? Do none of those guys have to pay for their sh*t like you do?
i don't care why they have to pay for.
"i don't care why they have to pay for."
Obviously not
i mean that is being a user right? like the guys are getting nothing out of it, right?...im pretty sure that's the definition haha
not to me, I'm not telling them their gonna get anything out of buying me something they are just offering it too me. and I accept.
well the same could be said about the freeloaders on wellfare...they government offers that money and they accept. still a lower way to live life if you ask me
lol that's an entirely different issue. I am not asking for them to do this for me. a person on welfare ask the gov. for it. getting free drinks doesn't make me a 'freeloader' its makes me thrifty and save money for other things.
alright look, I'm obviously not convincing you of anything, but I'm just gunna say that people don't just buy strangers gifts and expect that to be that. really, who the hell does that? furthermore I just feel bad for the guys cause they have all the expenses that you do, so it just seems a bit selfish to me. at our age, girls get paid just about the same as guys so that's not an excuse. ya when we are in teh real world and your making 0.70 to our $1, that's totally fair to expect us to cover more cost
but that's the thing I don't expect them to do anything. they choose to, and I definitely don't think I deserve it just cause I'm a girl. I appreciate a guy who likes taking care of a girl, but he certainly doesn't have too. and if a guy is buying me something and expecting otherwise while I am making it pretty clear that there not gonna get anything else from accept maybe my number if I wanna hangout again then I feel like that's there decision.
we all have our own moral compass. you just gotta follow yours...
Wow,so you are NOT an user? Ok,seems legit...
If he is your boyfriend and you do that,he shouldn't make jokes,he should leave, "like" now
Yeah I would leave my Girlfriend if I found out she was doing this.
lol why?
Do you think that guys that pay your drinks and food do it just for you to be happy? They do not want nothing from you? It doesn't work that way... If I were your boyfriend I would know,that you flirt with them... ALL of them to get what you want,and trust me it is not cool. And even more,that behavior and attitude of yours just show how you don't have respect,and how you use people... That is NOT attractive trait to have in your girlfriend... Need more?
ugh well god fine I guess when you put it like that. I should do it less.
Glad you understood the message...
yeah I mean I don't want him to get jealous cause I'm talking to some bar dude. that's just some bar dude. I like him way more. he use to act like he was cool with it but he recently started being all weird about it now.
Well it can be hard for him to know that you like him way more,looking at you flirting with some random dude...
well yeah that makes sense now that I've thought about it. I feel bad:(
but at the same time he has flirted with other girls in front of me, he use to not care frill.
Well,maybe you should both stop with games now,and turn to each other... :)
I'm not a user but I use people to get things
Ok, I got you
I don't get mad for them getting the upperhand but, It does make me think a lot less of her in general to just do that.
Yes it does get to me a bit because it's unfair. unless she got a free meal for me too .
i try to get free drinks for whoever I am with including guys and I usually do.
Still wrong QA. You are still missing the point...YOU ARE USING PEOPLE FOR MONEY. I don't care what your circumstances are or who is benefiting from your manipulation. It's wrong wrong wrong.