I have a small growing following on social media, and naturally, that comes with the occasional hate comment. I know I'm setting myself up for it by posting my content online, but what's a good way to deal with rude comments?How do you deal with hate/negative comments online?
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This question got a lot more popular than I expected and while I can't reply to all the comments, thank you so much to everybody who replied. I'm feeling a lot better about the hate comments I've received now after reading all the advice. :)
How do you deal with hate/negative comments online?
The best way I know of is to ignore the rude comments. Rudeness is more a reflection of who they are than it is an indication of who you are. Actually, getting the occasional hate and rude comment means you have something to say, and you've said it. Not everyone agrees. That is normal. If the hate and rudeness is too much, log off here, take a walk or do something away from this madness caused by electronic media and devices, and recognize you have a mind, and are not afraid to use and express it. Then again, if I'm off base and out of line, ignore what I've said. I don't have my ego attached.
You ignore them by not looking at them in general or at least attempting to, focus on positive comments, and just have confidence in yourself and your self worth. Plus, understand the people saying them and the comments will be taken less seriously.
Same. As a blogger, budding couple vlogger, and somewhat active on here I'm subject to tons of nay sayers! Honestly ignore the petty stuff but always defend your truth. If accusations are made that are untruthful it's ok to politely defend yourself but just don't get too deeply involved in the banter. You know yourself and what you put out speaks for you and defends you. Some people are just unhappy with themselves and the easiest fix for those that don't want to fix themselves is to tear others down to their level. Live your best and most honest life and your reputation will care of itself! 😀
Also, understand that haters and critics come with the territory of being a content creator. No person of influence isn’t hated by at least one group of people. Just make sure you are connecting well with your target audience. Expect the opposing viewpoints to be the ones to position themselves as enemies. Use them to your advantage to gain more recognition but don’t focus on them more than you are on your positive fans and your content.
I look at it like this; qualify who you (emotionally) allow to critique you, and always remember there are *way more* "wannabe" opinions than "qualified" opinions, and everyone's opinion always *assumes* it's a qualified opinion.
Now, what's a "qualified opinion"? * People who know YOU best (parents, BFFs, etc) * People who know the industry you're in * People who regulate/study the topics you interact with.
Just like you wouldn't go to a 1st Grade class to canvas interviews for a final paper for Journalism; if you work with a public medium (communications, the internet, etc), it's like doing exactly that.
Not everyone who "wants to be heard" should be; there are *plenty* of crackheads out here who will try to snag *anyone's* soapbox for their own agenda... DON'T LET THEM: focus on your group's interests/area, and keep providing quality content.
Some comsumers/customers come and go; don't let the arrivals and departures effect how you feel. I know of some professionals who have "little rituals" to get into their professional mindset (newscasters & reporters come to mind).
Think of how a street reporter has to act when the camera's rolling. Once the camera's rolling, there's nothing to stop an adolescent or crackhead from sticking their face in the frame.
Study the various ways those professionals "improv"/play off of the deviations from the script. TRUE professionals not only know how to deflect, but can actually interweave their script *around* the event, making their intrusion into "a delightful suprise" (and subsequently "local flavor" is simply "one of those things that adds" - not takes away from - the performance) 😉
With my jobs and playing hockey when I was younger, you learn really fast how to trash talk stupid people. In today's environment, I see that you have four choices, you just have to make the one that's right for you.
1. Ignore them. Idiots talk, it doesn't mean you have to listen.
2. Kill them with kindness. You can thank them, tell them you appreciate their interaction as it will help you grow on the platform. And brush off the negative comments they put out because of their own insecurities.
3. Trash talk back and have fun with it. You laugh it off, and make fun of them, without taking them seriously. This is an option that you have to want to enjoy doing as it is something that takes practice to not get upset with and just learn to laugh at them as you send them a response. It sounds easy, but there are reasons why guys get in fights all the way up to their 20s and this has a bit to do with it. If you look up "hockey chirps" you can get an idea of how to respond.
4. Stop doing what you're doing and shut down social media. Whether this is temporary, or permanent is up to you. You always have to keep this as an option. Your personal health and safety is more important than anything on the internet. The goal is to lead a beautiful life, the internet doesn't necessarily have to be a part of that. I took a three year break from social media for various reasons and it genuinely helped me to recenter myself and understand my priorities.
This is just an opinion, I'm truly sorry that people are jerks. You can take my opinion and toss it, or use whatever you need from it. The one idea I want you to keep in mind is this: YOU are special, important, and loved. Take care of yourself no matter what because your loved ones need you.
Ignore the comments Find inner peace and balance with your true self.
Disagreements and hate comments are natural. Everyone deals with them. There are always people who find something wrong about you and they enjoy shoving it to your face and some people are trolls who love to try hurting others.
How to be immune? ignore the hate. Focus on those who support and appreciate you and remember, if people get you angry or upset too easily, it means you're off balance. It means you need to work on your confidence and inner peace and reach a level where you can accept that you can not control people's perspective but you can take control of your own perspective.
Just don’t take what they say to heart. Don’t let it get to you. Remember that they really are probably only saying it because they are jealous of you or feel bad enough about themselves where they feel that saying hurtful comments makes them feel better. Either way just try your best to enjoy life, do what makes you happy and remember that their comments really mean nothing. After all, all famous celebrities have received a TON of hate throughout their life, every single one of them have both lovers and haters but they never let the hate bring them down because they loved their success and all the lovers kept them. They put the hate at the back of their mind and you should try to do the same too.
Distance yourself from your work and let it live it's life online.
Don't take it personally. Only you can form an opinion about yourself. Not even closest friends can tell you what is going on in your life and thoughts. They only judge based on their own falts.
I usually think that whatever they say, I can say much worse about myself, since I'm my own harshest critic.
I keep my thoughts and criticism to myself. Because normally people don't have that harsh of an opinion toward me. And the one's that do criticize, obviously don't have that ability.
Finally, I have a concrete stance on the subject I write about and I just keep writing about my point of view. Rational criticism can help me polish my view points, but trolling only reveals the trolls stupidity.
Second, start seeing it for what it is... are they just trolling for a laugh? Are they hitting you with ad hominems (attacking your character), because (usually) they don't have a coherent counter argument? Are they a NPC that is offended, because their programming dictates that such and such must offend them? Are they themselves actually just butt hurt, and just trying to butt hurt you back?
3rd, if the truth isn't apparent, consider that there might be some validity to what they are saying, even if they said it in a way that rubs you the wrong way.
Lastly, take it with a grain of salt... it's just the fucking internet.
Recognize that hate comments only come when you are getting exposure. If you were invisible, there would not be such so it's a good sign. Just ignore it because that person does not really care, they just unleashed some hatred online and went on with their day not thinking about it twice so why would you have to be so hung up on it. Actually posting controversial pics knowing that there will be haters is a common tactic even, because maybe that person has some friends and some of those friends might see your content and actually like it and follow you. That's a chain reaction.
One Youtube guru said something I thought was pretty interesting. He said that haters are just using hate comments to vent their negative emotions. So he was like cmon give it to me. I can take it. I thought that was really interesting because he’s approaching hate comments as though he’s a therapist and he’s helping these emotionally troubled viewers by letting them vent at his image. Of course hate comments have no basis in reality and actually have nothing to do with the target. It’s just people with issues venting them out in an unhealthy way. I personally would filter out hate words in the comment settings and block and delete ones you find. Just realize those comments have literally nothing to do with you and sad pathetic trolls just go around leaving them randomly like it’s their job.
I usually only dealt with negative comments online from dating sites that men are just trying to smash and I reject them I think of what kind of person I think they are and roar them and they do the blocking lol or they’re trying to boost their ego by asking questions like “am I attractive” like I’m not here to be boosting no ones ego so if I even did find you attractive those type of question are a turn off to me so they go from attractive to okay. And when they don’t hear the answer the answer they want to hear they block me.
I know how you feel!! Here's what I do: I know it's rude to ignore, but that's exactly what I do to the rude people. I think they're trying to make themselves feel smart, and above-everything-else by being truly unkind... So I pay no attention to them. Besides, 99% of the time, it's all untrue!!
Thank you. I'm alright though, I'm just ignoring any negative comments right now and focusing on the positive ones. Though this has me rethinking if I want to continue to grow my following or stop things here now, I'm not sure if I'm really cut out for this. It's weird being watched by thousands...
I agree... I've left this site before, and One big reason was the hatred... Buy Hey, one bright side to look at is the possibility of JEALOUSY! Perhaps you're getting hatred from people who have NO FRIENDS, while looking at you blessed with MANY! I was the same way. (Honestly, I just re-started my account here TODAY, and already, I have over 7 friends, who found ME!) Plus, we can't accept the good things without accepting the bad... Bad will always follow good... But as for here, bad normally isn't true...
Here I usually just make fun of them back. I take pleasure in doing so actually. On another platform I would probably use a different atittued to make sure I didn't scare some of my followers away. You can still make fun of them, but if there are too many of them or no way to deal with them in a non agressive way just ignore. Focus on the good ones. Just don't ignore constructive criticism.
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Thanks for the advice. I'm open to constructive comments and usually thank the people who leave them, it's just the ones like "lmao this sucks" or insulting my appearance that I never have a decent reply for.
Fight! Fight! Fight! Uh, yeah, I'm an arguer, if someone's giving me hate because of something I've done or said then, no, I will not be the bigger person, I'll argue with them maybe even strike up a debate... but yeah. So, uh, really and truly, I shouldn't have social media at all... the lack of filters and anonymity really get to me. So yeah, don't follow with how I do things, I mean, irl, uh, I'm usually quiet and avoid people... and I try not to express my opinion, similarly, I don't really argue with people about stuff (hardly surprising, they tend to share similar/the same views or else avoid controversial topics entirely... that also includes talking about a person's appearance).
I suggest reading them with a close friend. Have a laugh together, it's really fun to do.
My sister had some internet bullies, I sat down and read them with her, making them look like idiots to her. This helped her mood a lot, and she has no problem with them anymore.
Don't respond to them though. That'll attract trolls.
You have to take this stuff with a grain of salt, and laugh at the idea of people taking time out of their day to emotionally being you down!
Even on GaG, I’ve dealt with some vicious and savage bullying in multiple occasions, even had a Bonnie&Clyde couple ty simultaneously to bully me off of this site with insults and by spreading vicious rumors! The users that were on GaG around 2012-2014 can remember that really well! It was a fiasco.
If I can withstand all of THAT and still be a user on GaG... u can handle some people on IG or YouTube saying some one-liner toxic comments. 👌🏾
What do they matter? That person has no content or relevance so.
I post my art and music - anyone with anything non constructive to say, gets met with a
"Oh I'm glad you were so talented enough to post and get 756 likes on your music. But you have nothing to show. Isn't that stupid to have nothing, but speak on someone else's material?"
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Very simple, i exposed myself to these environments so long that it doesn't bother me. I understand how the internet works, i understand that ultimately these terms hold little ground and i am proud of who i am and a strong individual. Strength you find internally, not in the shadow of your true potential.
I don't know. Always felt like some random person saying mean shot to me doesn’t matter.
Every time I get someone harassing me I always remember that my bank account remains unchanged and I I’ll go home to my family so some random online turd is about as meaningful as an actual turd
Know your worth and ignore them. I'll even go as far to say block them and I am not the blocking type of person. However, if someone is hurting you... at least intentionally (physically, mentally, and emotionally) they should be cut off... permanently. Good people never deserve this treatment.
Well as it currently stands anytime I see a hate comment or remark made about myself I go and confront them. I guess I wouldn't hesitate to get into a fight with them. at the end of the day though, just remember that no one understands you the way you do, and ask yourself - is what they are saying the truth? Dont let other people's remarks affect your own view on yourself.
It is something you should expect because you can't please everybody. Sometimes there is a few who will just hate you for no reason and will go out of their way to make sure you know that.
My advice, ignore. If its not a constructive criticism there is no point in allowing it to ruin your day and your self esteem.
Remove those comments or block them if necessary. Don't attempt to argue or reason with them. The more you try, the more likely you are going to get negatively influenced by it.
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Typically it's a troll that wants to get a rise out of you. They feed off of that negative energy they are putting out so I typically turn the conversation around and turn it back towards them. Like if they said "you're a stupid whatever," I might go in with "I'm sorry you feel that way. You may feel more comfortable talking to someone who doesn't make you feel so angry inside." They want you to feel that way, but then you've turned it back on them and made it into them being angry as opposed to you actually getting angry which is not what they want. They may hurl a few more insults but if you're bored, just keep responding the same way like "You have a lot of time and energy it seems to spend on someone you don't like. I like to spend my time on my hobbies like travel, cooking, and watching movies. Do you have any other hobbies aside from writing internet comments?" LOL, I just have fun with it because it gives them no power that you're not playing along the way they want you to.
I had a large following on insta before it was hacked twice so i just decided to do away with it. The negative comments id just say something nice back to, nothing pisses them off more;)❤️
I also have a following on this site, go figure;) I just find it cute and comical, typical obsessive people. Dont let it bother you and just laugh at the losers who take the time
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If it's a problem with incorrect information, I supply them with the correct information. If it's a subjective opinion, that's their problem. It it's an objective opinion, there might be some room to discuss the issue. If they keep asking "why" and demanding that you "explain this/explain that", I ignore them after "two laps". My answers are clear enough that a reasonable mind can figure out the meaning. Or, maybe they are just trolls killing time.
Get the book Crushing it By Gary V. I'm gonna tell you now part of this book talk about hate online the context may be different. However, people will hate on others to make themselves feel better don't give them any attention because they're just down about their own life, ignore them and keep focusing on you!
Just become a troll like the rest consider it a game, anyone who puts their heart on their shoulder/ego on the internet is bound to reap the most pitiful hateful side of the human soul, without our fake veneer of civility we wear in person online life lets people be the vile entities they really are. Be like a 🦆 and let that hateful water bead off your back.
Well I have been personally attacked on this site numerous times by people who don't know me in the slightest you have got to realize on this site or any site you are on the people doing this are losers and they would not say these things if they weren't trying to make themselves feel better.
It's kind of situational. Most of the time I try to find out what made them mad in the first place. People have yelled at me because I make video game levels that are too hard for them, but they constantly say its bad level design. When you ask them why that is and what they would like to see changed they often never reply again.
So I just ask behind their reasoning, that' enough for them to leave me alone. People can be very strange sometimes.
The only options that matter to me are the people who I know IRL (and even then not everybody). Some things online may sting but it's just some person who does not know me. This app may a be fun distraction from life but in the long run the opinions don't matter.
really have to learn to read and not care so much. It's so easy to mis communicate, for people to be mean, political fights. Social media needs renamed... anti human media. It's terrible. So I just accept it as people have their emotions, they have a right to that, I try to win them over to a better place, sometimes it doesn't work. oh well...
Just ignore them. I am in the same situation, although I don’t even have a small boom of fans. People, when feeling threatened in any way, bite. Jealousy plays a key role in it as well. Instead of focusing on their own miserable lives, they direct their energy in the only thing they apparently are good at: wasting their time away with hate towards others.
Keep doing you and understand that the s*** they put you through is their own bag of s*** and not yours. It reflects only who they are.
I just figure if they really knew me they would have better things to say. I know they are judging me without all the facts. So it doesn't bother me. I know I'm awesome.😎
I dunno, but one time this dude I used to be friends with called my wife a name online and then he coincidentally disappeared when I went over to his house to talk to him about it.
i dont care, the only website i have been criticized on is here. so i see if the comments are true, if they are i decide if its a character trait i need to change, if its not i move on. i take my criticism and turn it into motivation to better myself
If it's a valid criticism, I fix it. If it's mindless talk, I call it out. I only go to war if it includes sexual slander. Because that's real world damaging.
I get quite a few there's not a ton you can do people hate the blessed 😊 just keep going and hope for the best I hope the best for you too and your following 😊😊
Just ignore the hate, but don't confuse it with constructive criticism. They're people on the internet, you think their opinions really matter? Especially online?
Remember you're never as good as they say you are and you're never as bad as they say you are. Helps you disconnect from having a strong emotional reaction to any of it.
Realising that they are just the minority? C'mon, people literally just comment to hate for no other reason than to hate. Simply ignoring it easy enough.
Don't worry, I'll help out with that problem. They're what I like to call haters, just ignore them because i can tell you for a fact, they're lying and just want to hurt you.
Ignore them. People have their own opinion, but why care what they think of you?
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I don't know, I try not to but it bothers me when I'm receiving unconstructive comments that are clearly being sent just to hurt me. I think it bothers me people feel the need to act this way in the first place.
Well, they're just random strangers on the Internet that you don't know and will probably never meet in your entire life, so they shouldn't matter at all. Just ignore them.
Honestly... just ignore them, its more jealousy that will get them to comment like that, brush it off and carry on with your life because in a minute or a hour you won't remember it anyway.
That is why I avoid twitter these days, too much hate. People who spread hate online are cowards. Those are the people who are weak as f in real life and won't be able to even look at you in the eyes. So maybe take a break from it
They are strangers, don't make anyone who is NOT part of your "close social circle" (family+friends+SO) make you feel that way. Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Just u need to understand that's sickening pp and ignore them try to ans or wrote replay can make them die 😂 like i don't care about u thoughts.. who ask u about ur opinion ? .. Now social media full of sickening pp
Ignore them or just report them or you can respond but it’s just a waste of time and energy as these people who write things like these have no life or drive by the way congratulations 🍾🎊 pm me would like to follow on
Playing online games for years with voip, you become immune to insults
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I played video games for years too. It's easy to ignore those comments but when they're directly insulting something you made and put a lot of effort into, maybe it's just me but I feel like it's a bit different.
Don't take notice of em there just jealous legit girls are like that ( especially at your age ) focus on your self and not what others think of you. Be you and no one elce only surround you're self with people who love you for you and i promice you, you will live the best life you possibly can... your under 18 The best years of your life are comming up don't fuck them up buy caring to much about other people think of you
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