The Valentine’s Day is all about the female.
So, here's the deal with Valentine's Day: it's traditionally all about showering love and affection, often with a bit of a lean towards romantic gestures for women from their partners. But who says men don't deserve a day filled with love, surprises, and maybe a bit of pampering too, right?
Actually, there is something kinda like a "male version" of Valentine's Day in some parts of the world. It's called White Day and is celebrated on March 14th, exactly one month after Valentine's Day. Originating from Japan, the idea is that if women give men gifts on Valentine's Day, men return the favor by giving gifts back to the women on White Day.
But let's think broader. Should there be a more globally recognized "Male Valentine's Day"? It could be a day for romantic gestures, sure, but also for recognizing all the roles men play in our lives—fathers, brothers, friends, mentors, and so on.
Imagine a day filled with simple acts of kindness, thoughtful gifts, or even just spending quality time together doing something they love. It doesn't have to be grandiose; sometimes, it's the little things that count the most. Like making them their favorite meal, planning a movie night with all their favorite flicks, or even just a heartfelt note about what they mean to you.
Of course, the spirit of Valentine's Day should ideally be gender-neutral, with love and affection flowing freely regardless of the day or the recipient's gender. But in the spirit of fun and celebration, having a day specifically to spoil the men could add an extra layer of joy and appreciation to our relationships.
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The fact that the vast majority of women said 'No' whereas men said 'Yes' is quite telling.
And why do the ladies don't think there should be a male version? Because you truly think that V-day is meant for BOTH? Oh please, when was the last time you heard a guy say "I hope I receive flowers or that my woman will get me something for V-day!". That's what WOMEN do. So let's not pretend that Valentine's day is not mainly marketed to please women, shall we?
Valentine's day is for women. Plain and simple. Because it is WOMEN who are mostly obsessed with it. Whereas for the men, they see it like another day of the year that they feel obligated to do or get something for their woman. Also, according to one study, 50% of women within the study reported that they are ready to dump their significant other if he doesn't get them something. I dare anyone to show me a study where a MAN is willing to do the same.
So why do women disagree?
Simple: Double standards. Whether they want to admit it or not, V-day is catering to THEM. And a day for a man means that THEY will feel obligated to the responsibility they put on a man. Which is getting them gifts or doing something for them. If they truly were for 'equality' then they would have voted 'Yes'.
Because heaven's forbid that men have a special day where they are getting spoiled by their women just as women have that special day for themselves every year other than their birthday.
Voted "No." Not because I have any strenuous objection to the idea but because it seems pointless. Valentine's Day is for both sexes.
My s/o and I celebrate the day - actually we take a long weekend away together - and give each other gifts and just spend time enjoying each other's company. I love her with all my heart and she loves me and we just see the day as kind of a fun - and admittedly sort of cheesy - way to celebrate that love.
It would never have occurred to either of us to see it as a day for the other except in the sense that we care about each other and see it as a chance to show that affection. She means everything to me and I don't worry that I am doing more or less for me that I am for her.
It is about us, not about me.
As far as when we were dating, I took the initiative because that is what the guy does. Men are less known for showing their feelings and so, for me, it was a chance to do something special and out of the ordinary. Not because I was a man, per se, but because it is a day to do something special.
So, again, while I have no objection to the idea - we do, by the way, have Mother's Day and Father's Day - I don't see the need. It is a misreading of Valentine's Day to call it a "female holiday."
First, it's not a women's holiday. It's a couples' holiday. Two men in a relationship may celebrate it. And I've done and given things to my boyfriend on Valentine's Day. It's not about giving gifts but celebrating love together. It's become traditional for guys to give something to female partners, but it's not a "women's" holiday.
The bigger question is, if some guys feel that it's a female holiday (and you're entitled to your opinion) then why should it be a contest to try to even the playing field? Nothing's being taken away from guys here. In a relationship each person should want to treat each other well, not just with gifts but with actions and emotions.
Would you consider a wedding between a man and a woman to also be a female event since the bride usually wears an expensive gown, holds the bouquet, and gets the majority of the attention? No, because it's not about that. It's about the marriage and love between two people. On a much smaller scale, Valentine's Day is a celebration of love in which it's become a cultural norm for a man to give a woman flowers or candy or a gift. But if the man is invested in the relationship he should be happy to do it, and not try to find a way to get what he perceives as his fair share.
Since when is it a day for woman? its a day for copules and romanticans it has no sex
I mean sure its market more to woman, or man to do for woman, but that is what the market show works, becouse honestly man are easy to please, and still think woman needs cash for romance that is just not that
But if you belive and full for the marketing...
The best romantic action I ever had was a guy that just made stuff from paper, they learn it, and made flowers and stuff from it, that was fantastic more then any grand exspincive stuff (paper as old newspaper and stuff that made it so much more intresting)
Only thing that makes it woman is the marketing not the day it self, and not what anyone should see
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We already do - Steak & BJ Day.
And the reason that day exists is because Valentine's Day is DEFINITELY for the benefit of women rather than men - it's impossible to argue otherwise. Now, to be fair, us guys don't mind that it's about the women - we don't mind having a reason to do something nice for our girl. But to deny that it's expressly designed to benefit women is dishonest.
I've easily spent over $10,000 on Valentines presents and trips over the years, compared to perhaps $500 spent on me. That's not a complaint - I am not looking for gifts or for her to spend a bunch of money on me - and it's not just the money - it's lots of planning, it's sacrificing work days (including a couple of entire projects), and it's going places and doing things that I would never choose myself, because it's what she likes. Again, no regrets, but it's never happened the other way around, and I've never heard of a guy I knew, in any age group, to have had their girl do something special for him.
Again, I don't think any guy here is complaining about the way it is, but when women pretend that it's not in women's favor, that really rubs me the wrong way.Valentine's Day is derived from the Catholic feast day for Saint Valentine, going all the way back to the 8th century (Valentine himself lived in the 3rd century), though since 1955, feast days for Catholic saints have been reduced to simply commemorative celebrations.
I'm all for just making it a feast day again.
No. Valentine's Day is a woman's holiday or by/for/about women. Is it a weird, messed up holiday? Yes. But we don't need genderized versions of it -- we need to get rid of it. If we think we should be buying cards and teddy bears and chocolates and roses and lingerie for our lovers, then we ought to do that year round.
Men buy gifts just to shut their girlfriend up. So how is the day not about satisfying themselves by keeping the ole hag quiet? 🤣 They buy sexy lingerie for us to wear FOR THEM. They buy us chocolates then they eat half of them. I think its their holiday too dude
Even though "Steak & BJ Day" is satire, it should be turned into a real holiday. Just change the "BJ" part to something more youth-friendly by name.
Sometimes it depends on where you live. I think maybe we should have a "Brotine's day" much like how there's a Galentine's day for women & her lady friends.
Yes, there should be a day when the guy gets a steak and a blowjob.
Yes, lets have a national "Penis" day, kinda like Japan. What could go wrong?
come to think of it... no...
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Why do you let society decide what Valentine's Day is for you? If you want to be appreciated by your woman on VD, let her know!
Valentines Day is non-sexual. Both men and women can be valentines... lovers.
The male version is Valentines avoidance day.
There already is a day & it’s on the 14th of March & it’s called Steak & A Blowjob Day.
Sounds good! Should we cook him dinner and buy him a bouquet of beer? 😋
"Women expect to be treated to about $154 worth of V-Day treats, but only end up spending around $64 for their SO. A stat from another Valentine's Day spending survey from WalletHub really drives this home: Women are 33 percent more likely than men to spend nothing, while men are twice as likely to spend over $100. And in 2018, men spent almost twice as much as women did on a significant other ($196 versus $100)"
https://www.theknot.com/content/valentines-day-spending-study
I always get a chuckle when women claim Valentine's Day is for both men and women. I mean a few women actually walk that walk, but most don't. A better name for it would be Female Entitlement Day.
What Valentine's Day really is, is a way for men to see how unfair, thoughtless, uncaring, and greedy their significant other really is.
It is pretty simple. If she gets angry for the man not doing something for her or giving her something that she also did NOT do for the man, then she is a selfish hypocrite and it is best to end the relationship right then.
Valentine's Day can actually do men a big favor if they pay attention to all of their partner's actions and words. It will show how the relationship would be if you stayed together long term.
A good partner wouldn't expect any more from you than they are willing to do themselves.
Of course, but it will never happen. “Romance” is strictly about what men are doing to please women. Never the other way around. Men who are pleased are pigs, misogynists, selfish, controlling, abusive, etc. Women who invest any amount of time pleasing men are similarly disparaged in a wide variety of ways; pick-me, slut, internalized misogynist, naive. There’s never a nice word for a good woman or a happy man, at least not from other women and feminists. That doesn’t seem like equality to me.
On the Catholic calendar, Saint Valentine's day celebrates the patron saint of love, romance and (!) Beekeepers.
Its a say for females and males. Roses for her, and...
Make up and celebrate whatever holidays you want. If you don't like Valentine's day, the simple solution is to not celebrate it. Do you also celebrate the Hajj and Rosh Hashanah just because they exist, or are you like nah I don't believe in or care about that and just move on with life like it's any other day.
If you think Valentine’s day is all about pleasing your female partner, you have a really warped idea of what romance is.
No. I don’t need one day out of the year to be shown that my girl loves me. She does it everyday. To whoever say Valentine’s Day is a couples day, that’s a crock of shit. It’s geared toward women by corporations who play on their feelings to guilt men into getting their women things. Because I’d you don’t you’re an asshole. Everything is directed toward women. These companies play on their feelings.
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