I believe it’s safe to say, that a many of us have encountered one or more players in our past. If you haven’t had the “pleasure” of meeting one yet or think you’re talking to one. Here are a few signs to keep you aware that he’s probably playing you and other girls. This could save you from a broken heart and several nights of crying yourself to sleep.
1. He’s calling or texting after 11 and 12 pmThere are 24 hours in a day, if he really liked you he could have chosen a better time just to say hi. After 11pm are the usual “booty call” hours, which means he just wants to sleep with you. You might think it’s cute, he was thinking about me, how sweet of him. Well not really, because you probably aren’t the only one he’s texting or calling at that time.
2. He has way too many girls that are friendsIf he has more girls that are friends then guys we have a problem. Typical players like getting around, talking to more than one female at a time. If a lot of girls know who he is, chances are that he’s received the title of being a player by now. Which is a huge red flag, stay away from him!
"He’s a smooth talker, knows what to say when you’re mad, upset, or down."
In other words he’s a smooth talker, knows what to say when you’re mad, upset, or down. He’ll make you feel special that you’ll believe his words and you will trust he’s a “nice guy”. By this time he basically has you wrapped around his finger, and will control your emotions.
4. Talks too much about physical things with youIf he doesn’t talk about it directly, he will take it along those lines. Wishing you were with him in his room or yours etc.
5. They act like the sweetest person in the worldWhen you two talk you feel like he’s the greatest person in the world. He’s everything you’ve been looking for in a guy. That’s just an act don’t believe it, it’s not worth the pain later on. This leads me into numero seis(#6)…
6. Acts different around his friendsHe either forgets who you are in front of his guy friends or acts like the biggest d***. This is usually when the real him comes out, he doesn’t give a crap and will not speak to you.
If neither of these is the case, he gives you a hug in front of his boys. This is a sign of him showing them, “hey guys, this is the next victim”.
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I’m going to sound like stereotype but I’ll take it, majority of player do come from an athletic background. Whether they play football, basketball, baseball, soccer etc. Guys like these are knows as jocks, most are cocky as it is and know they can get the girl they want. But players over do it, they know they can get with as many girls as they want.
8. He’s not interested in your lifeSure he ask how your day was and stuff like that, but does he really care?. I think not. They make it seem like they do, when in reality they could care less. They just want to get to the point and see if you’re willing to sleep with him or not.
9. You have to be the one contacting himSo, he use to text you 24/7 right? But then it stopped do you wanna know why that is..Best guess is he found another female that’s going to keep him company. If you’ve already slept with him chances are he’s not coming back since you gave him what he wanted. If he does come back he’s just coming back for more. But who’s going to give into texting first you or him? If you have not had sex with him, he’s realized you’re not going to and has forgotten about you. Which means by now that you have developed some kind of feeling for him, and you’re going to try to get his attention back.
10. Finds an excuse to avoid hanging outThey aren’t looking for a commitment, so they will come up with anything to stop being seen in public with you. Unless he’s really that good at his game that he knows by the end of the night he’s getting some.
***********These are just some signs to know in case you find yourself talking to one. Please don’t think you’ll be the one that changes him, I got news for you.
You’re not going to change him; chances are he’s going to break you before you do that. If you still wanna go ahead and think you will, go ahead but good luck.
Article Comments
My boyfriend doesn't text me or call me anymore except when he is coming over. I am afraid he may be a player or abuser.
Anyways, before calling guys players before dumping them, get to know their story first. They might surprise you. I consider myself a really nice guy, pardon my comment earlier, but I don't call girls sluts if they have a lot of guy friends. I know A LOT of girls who would rather have guy friends instead of girl friends because girls cause a lot of drama. You know I'm right and I know I'm right.
Lastly, I challenge you to get to know...
And Kuato star, do the world a favor and learn how to spell.
Generally, this article is true for players. She didn't say THE ENTIRE MALE POPULATION.
It actually is most of the signs of a player. Sooo yeah.
Which is a good guy they lead us on and in the end break our hearts.Good Article!
Although, a guy who matches to 1 or 2 of these doesn't necessarily make him a player.
Like the athletic thing--guys always try to look athletic-_-
But otherwise, great article
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The ONLY TRUTH about a player, is that you'll only know after he's done playing with you.
sorry but thts the way it is!
i don't think this article is any helpful
1. Yes you are horribly stereotyping, most players that I know are p*ss poor at sports, even golf if you count that as a sport. Most true athletes are actually very shy guys, they dedicate a lot of their time to sport because they don't go out as often as a player will.
2. Overconfidence? Just my personal view but you can never be too sure of yourself.
3. As for smooth talker, it's good to avoid verbal fighting, not a negative.
in regards to your comments.
1.)Apperantly you don't know how players play in general..and your apperantly missing the point,They pretend to be something they are not!.
2.)Once again they pretend they are something their not!
3.)Or sometimes a Guy really DOESN'T care,
4.)He should man up and grow a pair and tell you straight up he doesn't like u.
2) I have a lot of female friends. Has nothing to do with being a player. They wouldn't want to be my friend if I was one...
5) Not true. If I like a girl I will be sweet, as long as she is sweet to me. If he agrees with EVERYTHING you say however, and never disagrees with you ever, he's probably a player...
8) Sometimes a guy does care.
10) He doesn't like you, but he doesn't want to hurt you by telling you so. Move on.
You're a little too paranoid.
but my last 3 relationships were 17 months, 14 months and 8 months?
how is that being a player?
i disagree
N# 4, 8, 9 and 10 can be signs that he is a player, but the rest... nah.
I basically have no experience, and I can assure you that I had opportunities that I preferred not to use... (or, "exploit", in my opinion).
Yet, # 1, 2, 3, 5, 6 and 10 are exactly who I am. I could've been 7 too if I wasn't a really shy guy. That leaves 4, 8 and 9 as really "player" characteristics. (I decided that 10 is not really the case either.
1: You find him sleeping with someone else
2: You hear him talking on the phone and he says "baby, honey, yeah I'll come over with the condoms"
3: He says "I've been sleeping with your sister"
4: 3 different people in the same day come up to you and say "He's a player, I was with him last week"
5: He gets genital warts, and it's not from you.
1: He works as a nurse and his shift just finished @11pm.
2: Again, he's a nurse, and a larger percentage of his friends are females because he works with them.
3: Maybe he's been trained at university in verbal communication, say, during a nursing degree.
4: -Skipped-
5: Maybe he's just nice
6: Who the hell acts the same around everyone? We ALL act differently around different ppl.
7: So confidence = inferdelity.
8: -Skipped-
9: Could have ran out of credit?
10: Legit reasons?
Sounds like you have had a couple bad run ins and had similar instances with both. But I do agree with some of the points but 97% I dont.
i have seen nice guys doing the rest ...so don't agree..
Everything else seems to be right on.
"hey this guy has you interested.. well guess what he's a d*** so get rid of him"
next thing you know this bloke whos worked hard to get the girl he wants on his side tries to call her to invite her on a date but she won't answer the phone becouse she's scared of getting hurt all becouse she decided to read this..
its such man bashing rubbish
8) doesn't seem to make much sense lol. You're saying even if he doesn't care about your life he'll ask how your day was?
hmmm how about this? Don't f*ck a guy until you've been together for a while! if you do it anyway, he's not a douche, you're just stupid. I could shoot down at least half of these with enough character space
I'm far from a player I want a serious relationship with somebody who I would love.
I JUST HAD THE SAME EXACT SITUATION WITH A GUY AND THIS FITS HIM TO A PERFECT T.
9.Same as number 8.
10. Agreed for the most part.
2.He might not get along with guys. Some people are like that. If a girl has to many guy friends she's not automatically a whore/slut.
3. Completely agree with this one.
4. For the most part I agree with this also.
5. Ever heard of a nice guy? Well that's how they act.
6. This is true. A guy isn't going to be exactly the same around his friends but he shouldn't be extremely different.
7. Agreed 100%
9. If a guy contacts you 24/7 then stops, ever thought that maybe he's tired of being the one who does the contacting, and wants to see if you truly care about him. If you don't ever text him first, then why should he believe you care for him?
10.I think a player would do the exact opposite, try to hang out as much as
6.Thats not a sign of a player, that's just a sign of a jackass.
7.As long as you don't stereotype all athletes under that category I'm fine with your reasoning.
8.How are you going to know if a guy truly is interested in a girls life
1. He could get off work late, and can't text at work. Wants to know how his girls day is. Or wishes her goodnight.
2.A guy can have more female friends than male friends and not be a player. It all depends on who he gets along better with, males or females.
3. Its not hard for a genuine guy to know what to say, the guys who don't know what to say are usually the shy type.
4.This goes one way. player.
A guy is a player if he wins your affections. If he plays the game of getting chicks well.
A player does NOT equal a d***.
Typical girl making male hating article...nothing new..