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Is It Possible To Change Who You Are To Get More Girls?
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This was a question I asked myself last year. Not that I’ve never had a girlfriend but I do tend to get the girls that I “kind of” like, rather than the ones I find gorgeous, intelligent, and super fun to be with. I always manage to find people who are 1 or 2 out of three. For this reason I decided I need to sort this out.
Now the article title was difficult to choose, because I wanted it to grab attention, but not to sound sleazy or dishonest and put people off the great “deceptor”. But something that people tend to be worried about is that if they put on a “show” to get the girl they want, how will they be able to keep up the charade? Well I think that it’s unnecessary. People say the usual, “be true to yourself,” or, “Just be yourself, if she doesn’t like that then she isn’t ‘the one for you’.” Both philosophies I do NOT agree with.
When you go to a job interview, are you yourself? No.
When you meet the parents of the woman you want to marry, are you yourself? No again.
You’re your best self, you’re you with the best bits magnified and the bad suppressed. I think you should apply the same mindset when you go for the girl you want.
When I left secondary school in 2004, or 11th grade I think it is in the US (16yrs basically), I wasn’t the most talkative, or the most socially confident person in the college. On the other hand, I was a Navy cadet and was relatively confident there. This really does change you at the core, but the image I had already built for myself in school meant I couldn’t all of a sudden act in this new way. Other people’s image of me didn’t match this change in me.
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So the new start at 6th form/high school. Meant I could externalize this change to school life too. The question I asked myself was, “am I being fake?” The conclusion I reached was no. I’m still me, just a different me, and if this me was going to be more successful with people, and in particular with girls. That was fine. Also I found that the more I put that side of me forwards, the more natural it became to me, and the more it became the default me. And this default me has many more friends, is more sociable and communicates with people better. I’m now more likable and know when the put forward, or to hold back my geek side.
I’m studying Computer Science, but am also president of the gymnastics club. Not because I’m the best at the sport, because people wanted to vote for me. For a change I actually have girls to choose from. Not implying that I’m a super popular womanizing machine, but it’s a change from the one that would come along every few months.
I have changed; I’d like to think for the better. I’m sure you’ve all heard, ‘You can change how people see you but not who you are...’ Do you believe that? Because if people couldn’t change, why do you stop liking the power rangers? Why do you like different things as you get older? Why do they let criminals out of jail? Because people can change at the core. And it’s not dishonest, or fake to do so, it's human. That’s what makes humans survive. The ability to adapt. The ability to change.
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