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That's It! When to Call it Quits

 
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I love women; curvy ones, slender ones, blonde, brunette, and red heads. Women are wonderful creatures and I cannot imagine life without them. However, when you are serious about settling down and finding the right one, things can get a little hairy. Let me explain. At one point, not too long ago, I thought I might have found her, the one, numero uno. We had been dating for a little over a year and everything was perfect, well, as perfect as it can get. Let's face it; men and women are cut from a different cloth. What a woman may believe is crucial, a man will probably take with a grain of salt.

For instance, I have yet to see the importance of stopping for directions when I have taken a slight detour. We will get there, eventually. I clip my toenails and a stray one finds itself on the bathroom floor. Will it really offend a woman's feminine sensibilities to dispose of it? Never mind that I had not clipped my toenails in several months and the thing was as big as a Frisbee. The concept of men and women together forever, as man and wife, well, I'm going to have to ask the Big Man in the Sky about this one.

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As I stated previously, I finally thought my search was over and I was possibly on my way to wedded matrimonial bliss. I was soon to discover that the Wedding March was not a tune I could name in one note in this relationship. The downfall of our loving union happened in the twinkle of an eye. One minute all was well, the next minute the chapter on our relationship was closed forever.

I was graduating from medical school and my parents came in town for my graduation. A celebratory dinner was planned for the four of us after the ceremony. At the last conceivable minute, my girlfriend decides that she must help her brother move. Can you believe it? I sure couldn't, nor would I accept it. After all, how many times would I graduate from medical school? I did not want to hear that he had no one to help or that he had already rented the U-Haul for the day. It was my graduation. The gauntlet was tossed; it was either me or the brother with the one day rental on a U-Haul. What, they couldn't have planned this for another day? It's not important that I could now put "Doctor" in front of my name? Well, as you may have already determined, her brother won the match and it didn't equal love in our courtship.

There comes a time in every man's life when he must determine what is important. When searching for that special someone, to settle down with, the relationship must be viewed from every possible angle. If the woman of your dreams cannot put your needs first on a momentous occasion such as graduation from medical school, then maybe parting ways is for the best. Before you slip that ring on her finger, you'd best know exactly where her priorities lie.

I came in second place to a U-Haul. I got out of there fast! The best predictor of the future is the past. I didn't want to spend the rest of my life playing second fiddle to a brother, a friend, or a pet fish.


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marisa Wow, I didn't realize you could throw away "The One" over "one day". I didn't go to my younger brother's graduation or my cousin's - I'm surprised they still speak to me. - More than a year ago
The-Pixel-Ninja What she did was bad, but what you did was a little harsh, don't you think? - More than a year ago
badgrl Your tone is bitter & angry. I am assuming you two had a fight and not a discussion? No one wins in a fight, no one. Only the two of you know why you made such final decisions. Both of you sound like you are trying to control the relationship. - More than a year ago
thelittlemouse Family comes first to a lot of people. They have been there for you for a lot longer than a year, and will be there for you, for the rest of your life, no matter what. That's what is special about family. I would've helped him too. - More than a year ago
Marie099 Lol niceee - More than a year ago
Brokenheart WOW...OK did you offer to pay for movers so that she can attend your graduation? She can't leave her brother stranded to watch you walk...which is nothing trust me I have graduated 5 times already whats the big deal, don't you have a video camera? - More than a year ago
when-the-rain-fall She must have not been very important to you, if you can just break off the relationship just because she didn't come to your gruduation.. I'm sorry, medical school graduation. You had determination and dedication to graduate from years of medical school. How is that you gave up from only a year long relationship? Woman of your dreams need to pur your needs first? What about her needs?Her priorities?What about yours?Yours lie on your stupid degrees. As long as you love someone never had enough. - More than a year ago
annek This was kind of funny. I mean I am sorry you lost out to the loser brother but isn't it better to now instead of after you are Mr. MD and she is sleeping with the pool boy while her no good brother is sleeping on your couch. But I guess I need to agree that you could have acted too rash but what the hell...your a doctor now making six figures. I bet you have no problems finding the girl of your dreams. - More than a year ago
chksurfer WoW... I feel the most saintified, forgiving person after reading this article. This is EXTREMELY childish. If she had done this repeatedly to you, then okay. But wow. It isn't some stranger, it's her family. It's just a graduation. How many girls and guys don't have their parents show up to an important event and just because of that don't "hate them for the rest of their life." If you will do that over something so small, can't image if it was something truly serious. She's better off. - More than a year ago
Arfoo Wow you people surely are naive...he did the right thing. Sometimes you need to think for yourself. In some cases, thinking for yourself helps others as well. She probably learned a valuable lesson from this: who and what her priorities were. If this would have never happened, she probably would still be screwed up in the head.

However, I don't agree with him allowing his wife to take him to help her brother move...I approve however, if SHE threatened to leave him if he didn't help her. - 11 months ago
dead-mellotron I just don't get why when one thing goes wrong, the guy has to leave. it was an inconsiderate move on her part, but did you really have to dump her?

i'm sorry, I may have a very flawed viewpoint here, just really have a problem understanding why guys can't ever resolve anything like this without ending the relationship. - 7 months ago
lost-angel Bad planning on her part. Or terrible time management.
She could've celebrated with you and your family first, then go over and help her brother.
If her brother knew he would need help, he should've asked in advance, so they could both plan accordingly.
In the end it was just bad planning. Nothing to break up over.
I wouldn't expect anyone to choose me over their family. - 6 months ago
icepop I question whether you truly had a loving union to begin with her. If her brothers circumstances were extraordinary, you may have cut her some slack. On the other hand, she may have been very torn by a tough decision. You sound inflexible and not very loving. - 6 months ago
Standingpretty That was a very sad and elighting story! thank you for putting your knowledge out thier to make everyone smarter. :) - 3 months ago
 
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