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A Date That Will Make You Ask 'Am I on PUNK'D?'
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I recently came out of a complicated relationship and I'm back on the dating field again. Two weeks ago a friend of mine met a guy that she considered to be an "excellent match", so she agreed to give him my e-mail, so that we could set up a blind date.
She told me that this guy was exactly what I like in guy:
Mature
Older than me
Successful at his job (entrepreneur, who owned 2 businesses)
Respectful
Gentleman
Attractive
Contrary to what many people might deduce from my description, I like to think that I'm not shallow, allow me to explain. I was SOOOO attracted to this guy who isn't exactly Brad Pitt and isn't exactly what most of us would call "decent" however, I liked his personality and I liked his manliness, I liked that he was 1 year away from graduating in his career and that he was a complete gentleman. I figured that if I feel comfortable and happy entering a room in company of a guy, I wouldn't mind dating him.
Going back to the story, we set up a date and I had in mind what this guy might look like, think like and sound like. I mean I knew that I didn't had any real, sounds facts, but at the same time it wasn't like I didn't know ANYTHING, so my "date" went like this.
We agreed to meet at a popular coffee place. I didn't know what he looked like and neither did I, so I stopped by looked around asked people and nobody ever came close to my table. I waited for 1 hour and decided to leave, then when I got home i received a message from him saying that he was going to be there and gave me his #. I lost my phone so I used my home phone to call him, he said that he was there and after describing what I was wearing he said "oh yeah!, I saw you, why don't you come back? I'm still here". Initially I thought "what??? are you serious? he saw me there and didn't do anything?, now he's asking me to head back????" and after much debating, I headed back to the place.
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When I saw him I recognized him as a guy that got there about 30 minutes after I did and not at all what I had expected, I could tell right away that he was not my type at all, but either way I decided to stay and give it a try. He was hanging out with some girls sand a guy who were not welcoming my presence, I tried to make conversation with them but many people mistake me for high maintenance and put on a wall between me and them, so after an awkward silence my date decided to sit by me and actually talk to me. After a brief conversation "we" decided to head out because we were going to get food. I got my wallet stolen earlier and I had spent $20 in a pita and an italian soda that I had ordered earlier when I was there.
I told him that and he said that we could go to his house and that he'd get money and we'd get something to eat, so we headed out.
We were walking to "his" car, when I started noticing that there were no more cars around and he said "Where's you car?", so I looked at him puzzled and said " Back there, where's your car?' "I didn't drive"
"Hmmmm" I thought to myself.... "it's ok, whatever, you never know"
so by the time we got his house I realized that I was not interested in him at all, because if he made me drive all the way back there to get a ride to his house, nope, I don't feel comfortable with that, but still I decided to give it another try.
After hanging out at his house for 30 minutes and after finding out that the 2 businesses he owns are "tarot reading" in the basement where he lives and that his e-bay account is the second business, I knew that I don't agree with that way of living but decided to treat him like a friend and just try to get over with it in a nice way, but I guess that I was still hoping that there would be some type of spark.
So we headed to a burrito stand (I don't like burritos but decided to just go with it) and then I was informed that we were going to split a burrito. By then I was starting to get a bit frustrated, I've never been put through all these unusual circumstances in just one day, but "whatever" this will be it, it'll be over in 30 minutes, well after getting a burrito, "we" agreed to walk to a coffee place.
When we got there and the barista asked what we wanted he said "we are going to have to split, I spent all my money in the burrito". I thought "WHAT!!!!!?????????, this is it!, he could not be my boyfriend!!! the first date is the first impression and the impression I got I do not like", so after splitting a small green tea, we talked and somehow I managed to be attentive, polite and laughed at his jokes because I was soo infuriated that I knew the moment I started being bitchy about the smallest thing it would be like a chain reaction and I would end up broke, mad and most likely would've been insulted by him.
Finally I decided to finish the date and while I was driving back to his house we had a very interesting conversation about my goals for the future and his approach towards people who do drugs, to my surprise we think the same but still I had gone through a lot for me to just overlook my feelings about the date.
When we finally got to his house we talked for a bit and unfortunately I started seeing flashbacks of my first dates with my ex and this particular date, so I told him that I had to go, but while I was leaning in for a kiss on the cheek, he kissed me and with the swirl of anger, nostalgia and frustration that I was experiencing I let myself go into what turned out into a make out session that he attempted to turn into more but I stopped him and left.
On the way back to my house I just kept thinking "What in the world was "Jeanni" thinking?????. I decided to put it all to rest and forget about it
The following day I found a missed call in my home phone from his phone and the following day I get an e-mail from him, so I finally decided to e-mail him back saying that the later events shouldn't have happened and that I appreciated the conversation we had because it had been a long time since I had had a serious conversation with a FRIEND... Sent!
Got an e-mail back replying: "We are humans, we make mistakes,but being two people that like each other... escalation tends to happen"....
Hmmm, the e-mail I sent back said F.R.I.E.N.D as in friendship, guess I turned F.R.I.E.N.D into friends with benefits.
Completely opposite to what my actions were and might've depicted, I am completely over my ex but I guess that I still long to find someone that treats me the way he did. I plead guilty because I might hurt a guy because while attempting to keep the date as polite as possible I managed to led him on into thinking that I was attracted to him and now it is up to me to undo my wrongdoing.
After all these events and the developments, I turned around and though to myself, AM I ON PUNK'D?...
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