Why are men intimidated by women with strong personalities?

First off he is no man. Any male that tells you to be modest is only trying to compensate for his insecurity. I love a woman that speaks her mind. It keeps things fun and interesting. Consider yourself a truly blessed gift among women because you have a strong personality. Lots of women have no substance. And if they are arrogant and vain because they think they are the hottest thing ever.yikes.that makes things worse. I'd rather my life with a woman that's an average looking person with a strong personality than a super hot chick that's either a total asshole, or a clueless idiot. I'm a highly educated man and I need that outlet in a relationship. I love talking to the girl I'm with. intellectual connectivity with a female is a big turn on to me!. and most women I've dated like the fact that I'm open to converse about all kinds of stuff. a little debate and disagreement is healthy and nice as well! Never ever change who you are because of one jerk. This world is packed wall-to-wall with clueless, mindless, apathetic idiots. Live your life the way you want. And never stop using your mouthpiece!, don't be modest girl! . unless your a crazy feminist chick, that has a mullet hair cut and wants to cut off men's johnson's in wal mart parking lots with a few of her tobacco chewing oil working roustabout chick pals, then you might want to be a little more modest for legal reasons. good luck- make good choices- j

yes! me with my ex and I dumped her
but she's little different from u, she has a slight case of memory problem
in the end she always right, I was always have to make myself believe I'm wrong when I know the fact I'm right, all the time
now I only date girls who look dump but science geeks

Ignore it. He was simply a guy who is stuck in a bygone era when men thought a good woman should be seen and not heard. A LOT of guys can appreciate a girl like you and are attracted to intelligence. And please don't assume that all or even most men are like that because it's not true, although men who grow up in certain areas tend to be more like that.

yes, he needs to grow some nuts. cuse right now he looks sackless. there is nothing more satisfying than a woman with an opinion and that wants to be herd. no guy wants an airhead that agrees on every thing or just sit there. in the future just let him/them kmnow that you have strong views and ur not sure if they wana hear it. but when they ask for it, then its not ur fault.

You might be arrogant and not know it, but that would turn off everyone, not just guys.

Your friend might have some bad intentions, like jealous of your good looks so doesn't want competition around guys and lied to you about the reason. Kind of far fetched though, I don't think that stuff happens often.

Maybe you don't mind arguing about things people don't want to talk too much about, like politics, religion, etc. People don't want a friend who's going to try to convert everyone they meet to christianity or environmentalism or talk down to people who have different opinions on serious issues. We've all had those friends who get drunk and shoot their mouth off about how their life is so horrible no one likes them. Some guy friends we can't take around girls because they'll just start arguing with them or say something vulgar or steer everything around getting drinks or throwing a party and the girls are just tryin to chill and hang out, etc.

If you don't have some serious problem tho, I never have thought a girl who spoke her mind was much different than any other. Didn't really consider it until your question, so I'm assuming its as unimportant to other guys.

Guys with weak minds prefer females with even weaker minds.

Guys who are smart seek out girls who are smart in order to share a meaningful life together.

It's just a masculan thing.physically weak guys don't like physically strong women, and mentally weak guys don't like mentally strong women.

Don't be modest, don't censor your opinion for the sake of a guys affection.

Don't sell yourself short, this will only lead to the affection of a guy who doesn't want to respect the opinion and your mind.

I like strong witted girls, I automatically get turned off by a dumb girl no matter how physically attractive she might be.

A lot of guys aren't used to women with opinions.or at least women who voice them. Don
t worry, they'll catch on in time. Actulaly it's better they know what we are thinking!

I agree with jbone79 ! This guy sounds just like a guy I work with. He thinks any woman that speaks her mind or doesn't put up with BS too "aggressive" . He's totally timid and has insecurity issues.

Any guy that can't handle a real woman isn't a man at all, they are still little boys that need to grow up. Keep being you!

The only way it's a turnoff is if the girl is really emasculating and unfeminine. You can be opinionated and still keep your ladyness =) But the mere fact that this guy insinuiated that you weren't "modest" and actually used that word choice, leads me to believe that he is a d-bag.