Have you ever pushed a boy away because you were afraid of getting close to him?

I have never been in a relationship so I do push people away. I feel too shy and not good enough for someone. I feel as though they won't really like me and will eventually push me away and break my heart. I regret it everyday that I can't take more chances. :(

thats a fun little game called
'playing hard to get' lol

i have pushed a guy away,
not because I was playing hard to get
but because I had starting liking him a little
and we had conversations every time we saw each other [long or short].
one day, a friend told me he was pursuing a girl.
and this girl sorta liked him [i think]
i felt so upset/hurt,
that I began to push him away by taking my frustration out on him.
its ironic, because about 10 minutes later,
he came by us. lol
i said angry things at him
and walked off. and gave up on him.

Your supposed to do that. It's called playing hard to get. Woman must protect themselves from the men who wield power of them. You don't want to be emotionally vulnerable to a guy who will love you or leave you, or to one who will mistreat you or hurt you. I don't think a guy respects you if you don't demand it from him.

AHHH! The story of my life. The very thought of a guy getting close to me sends me into a panic attack.lol which would explain why all my relationships with men- even just platonic friendships are usually short- lived. Why do I do it? I guess its the vulnerability that scares the hell out of me. questions pop in my head- like: what if he breaks my heart? Why the heck would he want to be with me? Then the endless over analyzing- basically I end sabotaging every relationship I had before it could even develop into one. As a result I am 20 years old now and never had a BF.

I've pretty much ended up pushing away every guy I've ever dated. For me its the fear that if they get to know me too well they'll realize they can do way better than me. I do it by becoming distant and putting up walls when guys start to get too close. Yes I regret it, I've hurt some amazing guys because of my fears of relationships, I'll never forget when this one guy said to me, "what happened to you, you've become such a cold heartless bitch".

Yes, I just pushed a great guy away cause in a few days he is going back to iraq, I really don't want to get close to someone I might lose ect. I have already gotten close and its hard very hard, so I bitched and bitched at him and now he isn't talking to me, do I regret it yes I do very much I do this to a lot of guys its a fear of getting hurt cause I have been there so many times.

I do that a lot, actually. I have a lot of trust issues. It's hard to explain, but my family was always really close, and one of my cousins did something he shouldn't have that made me lose all trust in him, and if I can't trust someone who's supposed to be there for me no matter what, how can I trust anyone else?

So, when a guy is interested in me, I push him away. Especially if it's a guy that I really like. I regret it most of the time, but I find reasons to justify it (although they're never legitimate reasons). It's definitely a defense mechanism.

Yes, I do this a lot and I do regret it afterwards. When we are friends and I notice things are getting serious. I don't know why but I just want the guy away from me! I'm so mean. Sometimes I even look for the dumbest reasons why we would never work as a couple to comfort myself.

There was one guy I met in a club he was really nice but at the time I didn't want him because I met him in a club (I was thinking about virtues) and then he happens to be a male nurse (I didn't like that). But after, when he was completely out of my reach I wanted him back. I mean he was ready to commit, to commit to me for that matter.

Then there was another one who I dismissed because he was a little younger than me. The truth is we got along so well. He is one of those well read people and knows almost something about everything. We would talk for hours until one of us just had to say time to stop. I'm usually shy but with him I was so comfortable and felt free to be me. I miss him.

There are lots of others. I know I'm an idiot. I cannot help it. It’s like a reflex action! We can flirt with each other and be just friends but nothing serious.

I was told that this has to do with the fact that in my life I've moved a lot and goodbyes hurt me too much. It is easier to leave a person that you don't know so well than one that you do. Then there was one guy I did try to open up too and he broke my heart. So it’s a combination of things I guess, me wanting to keep my freedom, protect myself from getting hurt etc.

yeah. but it was more because I didn't want it to ruin anything we had in the process because one thing I'm really good at is losing people. But its one of those things where you'll never know what could come of that relationship and you're stuck wondering what could have been. I don't know about you. but I hate the what if game.

oh ya, it was a horrible mistake though. I really really liked this kid, and he really liked me back, and he always told me he loved me, and like. I really didn't know what to ever say to him, because I wasn't in love with him. because ya. so one night we were watching a movie together, and he kissed me, and it was our first kiss, and for some reason I was just. so mad. I don't even know why. I didn't talk to him for like 3 days, and I just went weird. I felt really bad but it was like I was pushing him away, even though I knew I still liked him a ton, and a week later I broke up with him. who knows why. I just did. I still have feelings for him, but I was just afraid. I know, I'm pathetic haha