For the women. My ex girlfriend said she still loves me and cares for me but I need to relax around her?

Fetale might be onto something there...

If you're being over-interested it'll creep out some girls. Some girls just want to expereince a relationship as it happens.

We guys are different because we're analytical - we want timelines, deadlines, structure, and solved puzzles.

It's a mistake to think of your relationship with her in any type of defined way.

What's worse?

Spending time with a beautiful girl, but not knowing where it's going (uneasy.)

Or

Not spending time with a beautiful girl but knowing exactly where it's going (Nowhere.)

If I were you I'd STOP worrying about getting back together, or dating, etc. Instead you should just be happy especially when she's around.

I'll even go so far as to say this: If you desire to kiss her, then do. If you want to hold her hand, then take it. If you want to hang out with her like she's your girlfriend, then just do it.

Stop wasting time asking for permission for these simple things, and stop trying to define everything. Women respond to who you're being, not to labels or definitions.

Best of luck man!

~ Robby

www.FULLofHATEandREADYtoDATE.com ( link )

I think that she doesn't know what she wants. It seems as though she likes you, but not in the way that she wants you. She loves you as if you were family. I've been in the situation before. I wouldn't get your hopes up, but then again, maybe you should talk to her about it. Ask her if she would ever want to be together again.

It sounds like she just needs time to sort her emotions. Try not to act like her guy when you are together. I know it will be difficult because you love her, but just try.

She says she loves you, that gives you hope, so just be paient, I'm sure all will be ok.

Good Luck

y did you break up in the first place?

She feels that you're a great guy, but perhaps you're probably way too INTENSE. I think you entered the relationship, over-analyzing every aspect of it, marriage, children, and etc. This can be a bit overwhelming for some women...because now we are faced with all these high expectations we may not be able to live up to. You reall y DO need to relax. Spend some time living in the moment instead, just be her boyfriend, and keep it simple. You're between the ages of 18-24, you're way too young to be this uptight! If you want her back. Loosen up a little. Give her some space. Let her come to you. And when she does, just enjoy being young and have some fun with her...Life is too short!


I hope this helps. Good Luck!