I went out with one of my best guy friends for about a year; we've known each other since freshman year of high school and we had all those years to tell one another that we liked each other but it was when I decided to move overseas, that we finally got together; so it was a long distance relationship. We had some good memories, some great moments he even asked me to marry him, claiming I was what he was looking for his entire life; anywho I said yes and I thought I was gonna live my perfect happy ending. But in June he decided to break up with me with no explanations. so we cut contact for about 3 months ( worst 3 months of my life) and since he was my friend to begin with, I decided to get back into contact with him and everything seemed to pick up where we were when we were friends. And within that same month, we got on the subject of regrets and he said that he did regret his decision; since I was still very much in love with him; I rushed into it head first and agreed to get back together; granted I have been having some issues at that time (financial, health related and what nots) so I kept on pushing my flight back home back for good reasons of course. But mister couldn't handle it and broke up again with me again for the second time; claiming that I was a liar and that I was making up stories to keep him interested in me. So things got heated and I cut off contact for good; told him we couldn't even be friends since he was doubting my integrity (RIGHT?) and we left it at that: now I'm going back home for the first time since all of this madness happened and I'm sure to bump into him since he lives close to my best friend's place and I still very much love him as much as everything he did to me so what should I do ? Is third time the charm or is he just not worth it?
Personally I wouldn't take him back ( as your man ) but you obviously still care deeply for him. I think he cares for you and at first rushed to commit to you before you went overseas. Then he got frustrated, he loved you but couldn't be with you physically. You said you "rushed" to get back together but had more important issues than him in your life ( it happens). People are often selfish and he was expecting you to fly into his arms with the quickness. I honestly don't know if he didn't care about what you were going through or didn't know. He knows you well enough to know what hurts you and that may be the reason he said those things. The key word in boyfriend is friend! Now to the present.. I believe he will break his neck to see you and my advice is let him suffer for a while. He hurt you by being a d*** and he should realize you had health/financial issues and he should have been supportive . If anything if he is open to being friends again cool, if he's an ass KICK HIS ASS!
You guys have been through a LOT. Although, there seems to be some underlying issues here. Why would he call you a liar and it seems that he is the person that knows you best? I think he's having committment issues, or he's feeling nervous or intimidated by you coming back. It sounds like he's scared of taking the relationship to the next level..he can commit to you over the phone, but you coming home turns the situation into reality. The third time may be the charm, but that is up to the two of you. Since you are sure you will bump into him when you go home, do not contact him. When you do see him, act casual. I say take no initiative to try and 'pick things back up again'. Let HIM work to get YOU back if he is serious about it this time. Also, tell him you are finished playing games. Tell him there will not be a fourth chance! You don't deserve getting your heart broken that many times in one year.
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