Good guys do NOT exist?

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...or do they? What do you think? Are the good guys always the ones that are not so attractive? I want your opinions!

ThoroughFred · Accepted Answer

All guys CAN be good, or CAN be "bad"

The problem with women is that they THINK they want a good guy, but always chase after the "bad" guys hoping they will be able to change them. That's the facts ma'am.

The problem with "good" guys, is that they are dull. The problem with "bad" guys is that they are assholes.

But, just like there can be "bad" guys are really aren't so bad and can still be nice/sweet, there are also "good" guys who can still be fairly rugged, tough and "dangerous" - all the things that attract women.

The challenge to you ladies out there, is to ignore your "radar" and give everyone reasonable a chance to show you which ones they are. Too many girls find themselves chasing the SAME TYPE over and over, and hating it, yet never changing. I believe Ivan Pavlov would define that as INSANITY (performing the same action repeatedly with the same result yet pursuing it again and expecting a different result). That's right ladies, y'all can be downright CRAZY!

So next time a decent looking guy who doesn't seem to spark your "Chemistry response" walks up, give the poor sucker a chance. At least hear what he's got to say and maybe let him buy you a drink or two before you stuff him into the "friendzone". And like wise, when Johnny Baddassmotorcycledude shows up, don't just throw your panties at him, make him chase you a little, other wise he's just going to use you because you are making it too easy.

It boils down to maturity. If you are stupid enough to spread your legs for every tattooed wanna be thug that shoots you an angry glance, then they will keep right on marching into your tunnel of love, wrecking up the place, and then marching right on out to the next. Frankly I can't see taking a girl who throws herself at me seriously, it's too easy not to. And fellas, just because you got the whole Alpha-Male thing down, doesn't give you license to kill, in fact you have a responsibility to use that power for the forces of good, otherwise your just a punk ass villain, and give respectable bad-asses like myself a terrible name. That's right fool's I'm CALLING YOU OUT.

BUT, I do know this: Nice guys might finish last in high school and college, but later in life when all you thug baby daddies are still earning minimum wage, and are getting locked up and bankrupt from your drug habits, us "nice guys" are keeping your now wiser ladies beds warm at night. Once the cougar awakens, they realize stability and maturity looks more like a sport coat and BMer, and less like a bandanna and riced out Neon with plastic spinners.

drummerdude25 · Accepted Answer

There ARE good guys out there... Trouble is, you girls just let us slip right under the radar, because we're not "fun", meaning: loud, obnoxious, arrogant, cocky, or cause a bunch of unnecessary drama...

Us good guys, may be a little quieter, shyer, maybe sometimes a little awkward. But I'll tell you one thing we have that the cocky jerk doesn't have... A heart. It's us good guys that are in relationships for the right reasons, that let ourselves be vulnerable like anyone in love should. It's too bad that most girls are so used to being with "Mr. Tough Guy" (or some guy that can't even respect himself, let alone his girl) that they don't see the value in our shyness or awkwardness or us making ourselves vulnerable if we DO actually work up the courage to make a move on her...

Instead, it's a lot of good guys getting labeled as creeps or "weird" because of our good nature and putting ourselves out there... Any REAL man will show his emotions, especially to the one he loves. It's not about being "Mr. Macho" or looking for someone to "fix" because they have a million issues. It's about finding someone that is ALREADY good enough for you and that you can be vulnerable around each other and trust each other and be emotional together. To me that would be the greatest relationship.

The sad thing is, a lot of people don't know what it means to LOVE... all the world seems to know anymore is LUST. It's in our popular music, our entertainment... LUST is, sadly, glorified in our society and it has an effect on most. LOVE is something different.

Do good guys exist? Most certainly... You just need to open your heart to new and different things/people/etc. It's a shame a lot of us good guys have to wait around a while for love, girls are most definitely missing out. But I guess there's a time and a place for everything.

crrazaylove · Accepted Answer

Ther e are a very low amount of guys that actually are good guys..think about it, guys have d***s! they gonna use it regardless if they have been dating a girl for 4 years. They like to experiment with different girls see what the varities are. And to me in my opinoion all the guys that are the nice ones are the least attractive. it's always worked like that. But the guys your really attracted to are the ass holes and the ones who cheat. And they cheat and we get mad and there all like I don't know why your so mad it was just a kiss..HAHAHA! well lets turn it around and the guy gets cheated on, well they think we're the biggest whores ever! and go all psycho saying how f***ed up it is. But for them its not bad because they are the MAN! wrong completely wrong personally I think its f***ed up how the world is today.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No they don't exist. They are mythical creatures, much like unicorns and leprechauns. You hear stories about them but they are not real.

lmao I'm just kidding they exist. I don't know any but I'm sure they're out there. They're just few and far between. Like if you take 100 random guys, maybe 15 of them will be good guys.

Maybe that's not fair to say. I'm a good girl so if I heard a guy say "good girls don't exist, all women are jerks/whores" I would be like wtf...so taking that into consideration, there must be good guys out there that do exist. But there just aren't that many. Lets be honest. most guys 18-25 just want to have sex with as many girls as possible. that's how they're made so the number of good guys of course is gonna be really low but that doesn't mean you can't find one

toulouse · Accepted Answer

if their are good daughters then good guys exist - you had a father who helped you become who you were..

& as we can not have women without daughters & no daughters without fathers, my guess is you have not met anyone you like & are generalizing to pathological, proportions :)

but I think you probably are just emphasizing the problem with the fact their are so many jerks-which their are- rather then actually MEANING there are no god guys- of course there are...my friends & brothers are awesome ^ ^

maybe anything you want , seems cruel to some extent. because it has control of you to the point that you want it...

you'll figure it put when you meet someone that you just clock with - not because you are LOOKIG but because they showed up, & you found them :)

:)

mike5150 · Answer

Well I'm what you would consider a good guy. I don't go out and party, I never do drugs, and I treat people with respect. Now I think the reason guys like myself get looked over is because we come off as vanilla. We ain't the type of guys that would come up to you at a party and say wanna go do something somewhere quiet. Because that would make us players. But as I have been reminded women want to be chased and they want to be the ones asked out they are overall more likely to chose one of the thousands of guys that do go after women all the time. Hope this helped some way.

buffballr12 · Answer

haha. I'm actually laughing because I am a good guy and attractive. (Not cocky, just being real). It's funny because the good guys are asking where all the good, attractive girls are. The only thing there is to do is wait. I know it's annoying.

Besides, girls make it extremely difficult for a good guy to approach them. Most of the good guys don't just approach girls for no reason. We need definite signs that a girl is into us. So...if you see a guy, try making eye contact with him and smiling. Maybe even start a conversation! I know...it's a crazy thought, because guys are supposed to do all the work. And I'm not even sure where girls get this from. But anyways, if you are really looking for a good guy, you're gonna have to make the move and take matters into your own hands.

Musclecarman · Answer

Of course they do, but their are two different types: The pushover/pleaser (self explanatory) and the 'nice guy' as in he won't hit you,make you feel worthless mentally,and use you as his personal sex toy. Simply put, he treats you and others around him well, but do feel sorry for the guy who slaps his lady friend's ass in a bar,or seriously disrespects or endangers himself or his friends and family in some way. This 'nice guy' knows the right course of action in any situation. This is the 'nice/good guy' that you want. At least I hope so.

blueyaa · Answer

There are good guys. I am one of them.

I have ever had sex, never looked for sex in a relationship.

The thing is, women seem to look for that dangerous guy, the one with all the thrills, and that is not the good guy. It doesn't mean we aren't attractive, it just means we don't quite draw the attention that the bad guy does.

Usually for me, it takes a lot longer to get into a relationship because I have to be friends with the girl first, and then talk to her about us in order to get that thought process through to her.

brunohusker · Answer

I think they do exist, its just girls don't look for them. Also women seem to want only good, good looking guys. Take me for example, I am a good guy, I'd never cheat on a girl, I'd do anything for them they wanted, but also tell them when they are wrong, and overall I'd be the best man I could be, but because I am not terribly attractive (5 ft 8 220 lbs, short brown hair) girls overlook me, or at least the girls I like (trust me, the only girl in college that ever had the hots for me was not attractive, she picked her nose and would snort when she laughed, and also never looked that good, I mean not just big, but didn't take care of herself, and sadly more of these types of girls like me ). So good guys do exist, you just have to look for them. Trust me I used to think that there were no girls out there for me, but I know there are some somewhere

Serotriptomine · Answer

"There ARE good guys out there... Trouble is, you girls just let us slip right under the radar, because we're not "fun", meaning: loud, obnoxious, arrogant, cocky, or cause a bunch of unnecessary drama..."

I love this person for saying how it is.

I meet more caring and loveable women, personally online. Because they're different, and they don't want to screw random guys and want to be tricked into going to some party for whatever reason.

It's just that way with guys, you find them, but you ignore them.

And anyone who does that, I say should learn the hard way about WASTING your life on the assholes that infest this world.

G-Daz · Answer

Its hard to say I'm a nice guy, I can't really judge myself. but I am quite sure I am. yes just like anyone else. if I get pushed or p*ssed off then I ain't gonna react nicely and may bring it into a fight. but that's just like anyone really. I love to make people feel good, there's no point in being an asshole without no reason, I don't see a point myself. I'm very open and honest with people but the problem with allowing yourself to be nice is sometimes it can be a disadvantage. people may feel, that is there chance to take advantage so a lot of guys tend not to show it unless they really trust the person. keep looking though there are plenty of good guys out their but a lot of them will have it hidden

Good Luck, God Bless :)

Anonymous · Answer

See that's the problem with todays "standards".. There are good guys, but they're very hard to find. Hot guys are usually jerks because they know they're hot and can get any girls they want. Granted there are some good hot guys too, but its rare. Now everyone seems to care these days about appearance and the good guys get looked past because everyone wants to date someone "hot". In my own personal experience.. I dated a girl who was cute, but had an amazing personality. Over the several years we were together she got very physically attractive and ultimately felt she was too good for me. Broke me into pieces. I am a great guy, basically treated her like a queen, and I'm not bad looking at all. I'm "cute" not hot, and I'm perfectly fine with that.. So when all you ladies get screwed over by the hot guys, us "cute" good guys will be here. Looks aren't everything.

Tw1nm3t3or · Answer

They do exist. You just choose to think we are boring or too easy or whatever nonsense you can think up. Its a choice to be with a good guy but you choose lust over love. Bad boy steroid pushing gangster wanna be is Lust, good men with a heart and emotion is Love, and sadly most girls (not women, girls. Women are mature and know what they want, girls make excuses and label good guys poorly) pick lust over love. My advice is to go find it. Chances are you already know a good guy you just use him and toss him aside once you get what you want. Go talk to that guy and give him a proper chance. You may find something about him you didn't know before that will make you think twice about prematurely judging him.

shygirl21 · Answer

The definitely do exist. One of my best friends is one of them. However, they tend to be the quieter guys, I know he is. Its not that they are unattractive, but they usually either don't catch your attention or you end up thinking of them as a friend and nothing more. Girls tend to say that they want the good guy and then when they meet him they over look him. if you start paying better attention to the guys around you you will surely find a good guy.

SilverFox135 · Answer

Actually I guess I'm an example of a good guy I could never imagine myself trying to do any of those things that hurt girls I take everything gentle with them I could never hurt them I would care for them love them and tell them what they need to hear and drummerdude is right we slipt right under your radar because usually were the quiet ones and not the ones being stupid and getting your attention next time you see someone quiet that's shy and seems friendly talk to him you might have found one

Rahim517 · Answer

Stop falling for the 'game' spewed by sleezewads and try to start seeing guys for who they really are.  Just because a guy doesn't wow you with some hilarious monologue or flirtatious pablum doesn't mean he isn't the person for you.  Do not fall for scumbags who screw you over and then take out your anger on the decent guys who have to come in later and pull you out of the wreckage.

jarod26 · Answer

Good guys do exist, and there are attractive ones out there. I have been told that I am both one of those "good" guys, and I'm attractive, and I tend to think so. I respect women, and want to beat the crap out of all those jerks out there who don't. It really p*sses me off when I find out about a girl being mistreated by guys. It seems like every girl out there has either been hit, or raped by a guy at some point in their life. Good luck finding you're Mr Right, he's out there. He may be difficult to find, but he'll be worth all the effort.

EnviE · Answer

lol, or course we "good" guys exist.  If you're in college, and you're an attractive male and athletic, then the only thing on our minds is to to hang out with our buddies, and tag as much ass as we possibly can.  Also, being a fraternity boy, the only girls we ever consider dating at the one's that don't put out.  If you want a respectable guy you need to act the part as well.

NewYorkCity · Answer

I'm very handsome guy and I'm so nice that nice people call me nice. This is B.S. hot guys are nice too. Everyone is different and never say all or always it is a complitely wrong statement. It is the same as saying are all Good Looking girls looking only for a Good Looking guys and not less? no that's not true.

MusicFan · Answer

Good guys do exist. There are lots of them, but they aren't noticed as much as the "bad boys".

My friends, my girl friend and my female friends agree that I am possible one of the world's worst bad boys, but I don't care. I have a great life, and a great girlfriend, because of the fact that I am me. And I'd consider myself a good guy, and the beforementioned persons would too.

And no, being a good guy does not mean you're unattractive.

sblair000 · Answer

They're out there. Trust me. I've found one before:)

hes my best friend and the person that inspirers me, holds me, and listens to me.

But the trick is you'll only find one when you stop looking haha

its ahnoying how it works that way but that's just the way it goes

BlackSuperman · Answer

I love questions like this- so simple... yes they do exist... guys wonder that about women. Guys love bitches and women love assholes. It's that simple. I say go live a life- then the guy you want/wish/ray/dream about will be there- love always happens wenya least expect it...

chiefnavarro · Answer

im a good guy.

im good looking

very intelligent

talented

i just don't like women who slept with men I can't respect.

being a good nice guy I know my worry on the open market and there are a lot of qualities in a women that will disqualify them from my life.

Anonymous · Answer

I've passed up the chance to hookup in the past because I thought it was the decent thing to do... but be decent long enough as a guy and you come to realize that its just a good way to be alone, and that the world doesn't work that way

so by mid 20s most good guys are either married (with some girl who is willing to appreciate them) or they just embrace having fun and letting go of idealism :)

Anonymous · Answer

i know exactly where they all are

trampled under the high heels, bleeding from the sharp words of every woman who ever gave him a chance

the ones that manage to pick themselves back up grow some backbone and a pair and get back out there, taking what they want. they realized that that's the only way they're going to get it.

MrAnon · Answer

No, the good guys are usually the ones that lack enough confidence to talk to women openly and comfortably.  They get nervous because they have empathy for girls and are not just thinking about sex.

browneyes9181 · Answer

I think there are good guys out there. I can't think otherwise or I'll never get married. I have seen what a bad guy can do to a family and to a woman and I never want to be in that position. I would rather be alone than with one of those guys.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

yeah I find it hard to find any. I have always been hurt in all my relationships. lately I make mistakes but I learn. now I just filter or focus on myself. like someone said, they exist but there are few.

jtj25m · Answer

If I were hot, I'd still be a good guy. Some people just like to use what they can to their advantage, looks included. But some actually do care about people other than themselves, even the 'hot' ones.

andre251 · Answer

good guys are out there and MANY are very attractive.  You just blow them all off because you find attraction in bad guys.  That is all it is.  Ladies cause their own misery this way.

Xenophobia · Answer

Good guys exist, you just have to bypass your emotional responses and use some common sense. Then you'll see all the guys you passed on... for that bad boy.

HAPPYnLOVELY · Answer

wow... drummerdude25  is truly not just a good guy he is a real amazing man.. us girls do sometimes get with someone for the physicall reason of his social status with other people... I was like that, but I gave a guy that wasn't mr. popular and he is truly the most amazing guy ever!.. I suggest girls open their eyes and stop being shallow there is for sure good guys, because I am 100% sure I am one of the luckiest girls to be able to say I have a GOOD guy <3

brettbuck · Answer

im a good guy. I keep getting stept on  because of it. but I don't care  because that's me. they are so use to a-holes they would not know a good guy if it hit them in the face. its there loss.

hesaysim2sexy · Answer

this is not true... there are ALOT OFgood guys out there who are not only GOOD BUT GOODLOOKING! you just have to open your eyes really wide. they are fun!

rocksongwriter · Answer

Good guys = 80% of the male population, so yes...they do exist.  My question is...why do you think they don't?

may0406 · Answer

i believe that they do exist but it not that many so it's really hard to find one.

and when girls do find one they don't realize what they have and throw it down the drain.

then they want to cry and say why can't I find a good guy.

EmmyLouWho22 · Answer

yea, I belive there is a nice looking and nice guy  out there...you just hafta find them...i know its like finding a needle inna haystack but...yes they ARE out there

Andres1984 · Answer

There are just as many good guys as there are bad ones. Looks don't always have anything to do with it.

senio · Answer

no! my boyfriend is fantastic AND very good looking. there are plenty of good guys who aren't unattractive! just keep looking..

Dorby · Answer

I would concider myself as a pretty good guy. Don't really know how attractive I'm lookin, but I'm sure not looking like Shrek.

Swampwater · Answer

all the good guys are your friends whose shoulders you cry on when your 'bad boy' boyfriend mistreats you.

Littletad · Answer

I think so, they do exist, but I think they are a dying breed.

Sbsbdicjf · Answer

Well, ok. Good natured women don't exist either.

nom1394 · Answer

they exist, I have prooof :) he'll find you dw mine did

IHateMeganFox · Answer

they do, my best friend is one- and he's 100% straight.

simran0703 · Answer

Good girls too don't exist. Why to glorify them and villify the guys?

Heideeeeee · Answer

I'm a nice heart good looking guy, so I guess there is one that exists. ^^

NirvanaChic · Answer

Yes good guys exist. You just need to be more selective...that way you will avoid the douchebags.

Anonymous · Answer

they exist...but you're right, they're usually not the ones I'm attracted to. and it's not just a physical thing, but a overall lack of attraction

indifferently · Answer

they do they will have read, or be able to read and understand "Theology of the Body" if they want to be f**king while dating you know they're not good guys

El-Niño · Answer

Would you update your understanding of the word "good" please ? or comment here

Anonymous · Answer

difficult to find but I'm sure there are some out there..

lindafaye · Answer

ther are good guys out ther I found my knight.and I'm not letting him go in order to find the good one you have to trow out the bad ones.so yes there are good guys out there

savacriss · Answer

im a good guy. and I exist. and I think I'm pretty attractive (swimmer). and I LOVE my GF

Anonymous · Answer

there are good guys, you just have to look. I'm a good guy, and I exist lol

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