How come women never approach men and initiate conversation, and don't ask men out, is this a reason why?

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Even in the new Millennium, the second Millennium, and now that it is the 21'st Century, it is still mostly up to the man to initiate the pursuit, make the first move, chase and pursue the woman, and ask her out on a date. Women very rarely pursue and chase Men, and ask them out, so rare that it seems like never. Anyway, I was wondering if I have a valid point here as to why it is still up to the man to take the lead and initiate things. "It is traditional, and since our culture and society has made that the status quo, and why would women risk rejection when they can let all the men come to them? They can get away with doing nothing, so of course they are going to get away with it". Is this a reason why women don't take the initiative that often?

Mike413 · Accepted Answer

It used to bother me a bit that women rarely make the first move, flirt first, initiate conversation, ask a man out etc. However, I eventually realized that there are reasons for this that have to do with the way women are wired as females and to some extent the things they learn from society. First of all, women by nature are nurturers and care givers and are less agressive than men. It stands to reason that the more agressive and dominant sex will usually be the one doing the pursuing. Men on the hand are hunters and it's in their nature going back thousands of years to pursue and catch things. Also, women are looking for signs of the alpha male and dominance. They judge a man by the way he approaches and if he approaches at all. Approaching a woman shows courage and confidence which are both traits that women find attractive. That won't guarantee he'll get the girl but if he does it puts him ahead of all the guys who wait to be fixed up ,rely on the internet or wait for a woman to make the first move. If the woman likes the way the man approaches her and likes his game then she may decide to act interested. I used to think this way of thinking is old fashioned or outdated but the reality is it's human nature. Men have the physical power and women have the sexual power. This is why women can much more easily make money off of their looks and bodies than men can. This has been the case for centuries and it's not about to change. Guys who prefer to wine and complain need to be a man and just go for it. Who cares if she says no. You're the prize so she just lost the prize.

Derick · Accepted Answer

They don't take the initiative either because it's easier and/or they like men who have the courage and confidence to make an approach. Those two traits, especially confidence are irresistible to women.

However, I also find it disturbing how women do NOT initiate or rarely do. Since we're living in a post-industrial, 'democratic' society in which social liberal ideals like feminism came about, we should see a greater variety of actions come out from women and not just in regards to job opportunities. If they want to measure up to a true level of equality then they should take more initiative in social situations more often. I'm disgusted with double-standards that are often overlooked in this 'society' and are never given they attention they deserve.

Also, if you really want women to approach you, maybe you should look at yourself. Be more presentable and I'm not just talking about your appearance and how you dress, but your body language. Make yourself look more receptive and I'm sure that the girls will read it and may take the initiative.

Nijababe99 · Accepted Answer

well I will starta convo with a boy I like once in a while which makes it rare =) nD I knwo 4 me that I would never ask a boy out because in some ways that makes a girl needy 2 ask a boy out and 4 me the way I c it is if a boy does not ask me out after I known him for a quite a while there will never b any flair with us

Julia_Dorst · Accepted Answer

yeah a lot of girls do! it´s weird in my opinion, that so many girls don´t see the little sweet things a guy does, from opening the door for you, to the way he looks when you just woke up ;)

Julia_Dorst · Accepted Answer

Uhm...I almost always am the one that makes the first move and asks someone out... that's how I got my current bf^^

armyant · Answer

It's evolution really.  It's entirely possible that there was a rivaling human society that relied on girls having the balls to ask guys out and they just went extinct.

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