I recently met a guy from my evening cinema class who I had my eyes on, and he seemed very keen to keep in touch after the end of the term (normally we wouldn't see each other again).
He said he noticed me from day one and feels like he's over familiar with me because I look like an old girlfriend of his, that he'd help me in any projects if I needed him to, gave me his number and repeatedly insisted I should text him, tried to fit as much chatting as possible in the time available, and rubbed my shoulders on some occasions, not to mention the way he looked at me. Generally he seemed pretty excited. I like him a lot, so I texted him the next day to say that indeed we should go on the cinema excursion we were talking about, and he said that we should all meet (the people from our class) and he'd be there.
I decided to be a bit more direct so half a week later I asked him to join me to the cinema. He said he'd love to come but he'll be full-on busy on a project for about 2 weeks and that we should meet after that.
Should I buy this, or does it sound like an excuse? He tends to text or respond to any messages around 12am although I only ever contact him in the day. Not sure what to make of that. If he doesn't call in 2-3 weeks (I asked him to give me a shout when he's done) should I consider this dead and gone, or is it worth inviting him again? I think it would be a shame if we don't see each other again but I'm not keen on putting pressure on anyone. He was the one that seemed eager, how did the tables turn like that?
Update: 3 days past his deadline now and haven't heard from him. Seems to me that if he really was interested he'd keep in touch. In the meantime I met someone else (and maybe he has too!) so I'll only pursue this as a friendship, if I have any time to spare.
5 months ago
I would give him one more ring and invite him to hang out sometime. After that you will know your answer. Put the ball in his court and walk away. You have to tell yourself that he calls and hangs out with you that would be great, but don't be disappointed if he doesn't get back to you.
If he's like me, when he starts a project, he wants to focus his full attention on that. He seems work- or career-oriented. All of the signs show that he likes you, but he may be so busy that he'd only be stressed out if you were to meet during that time. The fact that he gave you a somewhat specific amount of time is evidence that he has a real project deadline that he must meet. Take his word for it now and see what happens after 2-3 weeks.
Sounds like he is being genuine. Maybe he wants you to be his main focus so he doesn't want to start anything with you and then be distracted by any major projects that would take time away. Text and email him during this time. If he responds, then he's definitely interested in you.
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