So, I have this really close friend, Damien; I've always been strongly attracted to him, but he had a girlfriend -- long distance, but a girlfriend none the less. Well, about a month ago he found out she had been secretly dating someone else for a few months and left her.
We then began getting closer, sharing our lives with each other completely. Also, we messed around once. it was perfect & sensual, passionate & loving. It was very obvious to both of us that our connection was very deep & that we wanted to be together. just not quite yet. He wasn't ready, I wasn't ready & our friendship was on the line. But in the process we got close to the point that we texted constantly & talked for at least an hour everynight & usually fell asleep together on the phone. We couldn't stand to be apart in any way, shape, or form.
Well, about 3 days ago he started talking to said ex-girlfriend & apparently she's saying that her & this guy aren't together anymore. and now my friend is all caught up in believing they can work things out.
Idk what to do to show him I'm the better choice & I feel like I'm being cheated out of something I deserve. I know 5 months of passionate friendship isn't exactly the same as a 2 year relationship; but she's a lying, cheating, whore.
He said he didn't want anything to change but that he had to see things through with her, no matter the outcome & being a good, understanding friend I said I'd be ok with that as long as he was happy.
But I'm not ok; he doesn't text anymore, & when I make the approach I have to pry conversations out of him; he doesn't call.
Should I stop trying to contact him & see if he misses me, or will that just push him closer to her?
Should I tell him how I feel & risk chasing him away?
Or should I just wait it out in misery & hope he comes back in the end?
This is one of those situations where you really need to take charge. If you want to hold on to what you have, you're going to have to be a bit more assertive. Guys like a girl that's aggressive in her pursuit.
I think that if you really want to be with him, at this point, the ball is in your court. But you must be willing to go out on a limb and risk making a fool out of yourself.
If you can speak to him the way you just spoke to HALF THE WORLD, you've got a shot, love.
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