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Do I fit into my boyfriend's life?

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blufrenzy93 (Age:Under 18) When: 11 months ago

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I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now, but recently I've been thinking that maybe I don't fit his life style.

He's 2 years older than, has a job, and generally has a lot of things going for him right now. With his job, he works when he has breaks from school, so I don't really see him. He's entering into a few programs that I don't really understand, but it's going to help him a lot with his future [if he gets accepted into one which is likely]. He also said if he does get accepted, then he's going to be busy during the summer. He lives an hour away from me by train, so I hardly see him at all, but we talk every single day. We don't go to the same school either. So a LDR I guess?

Question is: where do I fit into all of this? We care for each other, but I don't know what I would call what I'm feeling right now. I haven't told him any of this [just started thinking about it]. Does this mean I wanna break up?

Also: he canceled once and forgot another time about dates because of his work, parties are a no good [he said couples + parties = disaster--from experience], and he would try to make plans but majority time something would come up.

Update: We talked about my birthday plans [its a week from Friday] and we were supposed to celebrate it the following Saturday. Turns out his mother is hosting a dinner for their family. He said I could still come over and meet them...I'm confused now. 11 months ago


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Littletad When: 11 months ago

It's natural to ask yourself that. Maybe you should spin the question around and ask yourself not "Where do I fit", but "What should I be doing for myself".

He's going to school and seems goal oriented. He doesn't seem to have included you vehemently in his plans. Has he ever said, "I'm doing this for us". If he's never said anything close, then I think he's either just going along with the flow on your relationship or he's really just doing his own thing. I think you should tell him how you feel, that way the prospect of breakup can finally enter his mind and you'll see by his reaction just how much he really cares and wants you in his life. Good luck.

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