You and your Ex have just broken up here, dear, so the Last thing you need right now is to jump from the fat to the fire so Fast By------Finding a girlfriend. You need to focus on you right now, do some serious soul searching and begin your beguine by licking your war wounds and try and deal with the pain and anguish of what she and your bestie Did to you.
Don't try and bring some other girl into This mess right now. She will only end up the monkey in the middle and a rebound Rebecca to boot. Take your time, see where this fling thing is going with Her and if you are making serious plans to unload her, which you should do, then concentrate on getting your own life together and later... be birds of a feather with someone who is more deserving but make sure you are ready... even then, take your time and learn by these little lessons in life and love.
It sounds like you have a long road ahead of you and even if this cheetah would come crawling back tomorrow, reconsider letting her back in the door. You could never trust her again and just like the bestie who you found was a back stabber, he should now be Forever this Fair weather friend with a cheating chick he has by his side now and together... they deserve one another.
Good luck and blessings for 2015. xx
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First matter, the kids.
Get full custody. That's hard as fuck so when you get them, tell them why you divorced. Because mommy left them for another man (the fact that she would even put her selfish needs before her kids is horrible) Treat them wonderfully. Convince the courts that you do not trifle around like she does! Courts don't like trifling parents. I don't think she does drugs or has any prior convictions so we can't use those.
Get a new house or change the locks. Kick her out if she isn't out already. Sell some stuff, get new stuff. Take care of the kids first! Then you can start having your friends hook you up but kids come first!!
I would not worry about dating right now since you are in a fragile state.
Like someone else just said, hire a good divorce attorney. I find that courts just usually award full custody to whoever has more assets, but if you can show the judge that you're wife is being manipulative/brainwashing the kids, these things can bode in your favor. Again, a good divorce lawyer will help you devise a plan.
I don't know where you are in California, but if you contact the local bar association where you live they can give you some general advice and help you find a reputable divorce lawyer in your area.
Everyday i understand more than last day , marriage is not reliable nowadays and im sad because of that , although i dont wanna but skepticism wins.. I know i dont say about your case but I've wanted to add these , i hope you will overcome this bad case be strong
Man... look for corey wayne on youtube, buy his product, hire him as your couch, read his book, it will help you fellow brother.
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Wow. I'm so sorry. What a frigging sleaze she is. I don't think it's going to be "easy" to move on from her, because you've been with her for most of your life, so are you sure you want to get back out on the dating scene?
If so, I think you should take it one step at a time. So simply go onto dating sites or single meets to meet women. It seems you're in a fragile state so you can be easily manipulated. If this is true, I would wait.You should move to Costa Rica and find a nice woman there to start a family with.
www.crguytrip.com/.../costa-rican-women-main.jpgHey so sorry to hear that... but was your relationship OK with your ex wife?
or were there any problems.. between you two? what caused her to cheat?first thing file for divorce. Second thing just get your life together. concentrate on work and your friends - that one and things will turn around for you
You look like a cool guy. it's not over, get out there and make a comeback
What hobbies do you have?
Just have no contact with her
Never invite dudes at your home... !!
Problems start when they begin to talk with your wives n family members...thats so fucked up. my condolenses
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