Girlfriend cheated on me with 2 guys while I was away. Should I still be with her? How would you feel?

[Anonymous]

So I recently found out that my Girlfriend hooked up with not one, but two guys while I was out of the country for 3 weeks. The first one she saw as a "scientific experiment" to test her own feelings she had towards me. The 2nd was with a guy she met at a club that walked her home. We've been together for for about 5 months now and this all happened about 2 months ago. I confronted her about it and she is very devastated about it and felt that it would be best for the both of us that she not tell me. I am a roller coaster of emotions and am very confused about this whole matter. Right now I am not speaking with her. However she still wants us to be together and has been going out of her way to make contact me and make things right. She even drove to my place (30min away) in the middle of the night to bring me candy flowers and card/letter.

I know she did not mean to cheat on me like that, she was just a bit confused herself at the time, but I know now she wants nothing more but to be with me. Still, I can't seem to let go of the fact that she did cheat on me while I was away. I still have feelings for her but I can't look at her the same way again.

I know this may lead to further trust issues and things may not be the same between us again, but I still care for her and want to be with her.

what do you guys think? Are these emotionally meaningless kisses not a big deal in the grand scheme of our relationship? or is it something I should really take seriously?

Right now I am contemplating whether or not to continue a relationship with her or to break it off completely because of this. am I over reacting?

How would you feel if you were in my position?

I'm so confused, I don't even know what to think anymore. :(

Updates

+1 y

to avoid further confusion. she did not have sex with these guys... just kissing/ making out with the 2 guys while I was away. not as bad but still I don't respect that at all. I ask you guys to put yourself in my position and tell me how you would feel

[shadowcat517]

I call BS. Testing her feelings for you, indeed... If she wanted to test her feelings, there are so many better ways to do that. The fact that she did it a second time in three weeks should tell you something. Finally, if she really felt bad about it, she would have come clean about it and asked for forgiveness, instead of confessing after you knew about it and being sorry after the matter.

If you can't trust her, you can't have a good relationship. So, break it off, especially if she can't be alone for three freaking weeks.

[Cougargrl]

Dude - listen to yourself! A scientific experiment - what a crock! If your buddy's girl told him this, what would you tell him to do? She didn't 'mean to cheat' - what the hell? If she kissed a guy, laid down and spread her legs, she had at least something to do with it! Oh sorry - she was confused! Unless she kissed a girl and is questioning her sexuality - she ain't confused - she's a cheater! Sorry man - once a cheater, always a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Poor Thang:

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You gotta let it go:

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Plus:

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[TheManHimself]

I would say this is a good time for a threesome and maybe a foursome, tell her that you want her to see you having sex with another two girls in front of her, if she says yes do it and then you can call it even. If she doesn't want you to have sex with other girls just cut it off and do it anyway. I don't see other solution.

[TheManHimself]

By the way, this is a joke, seriously this is just your decision to make and a very hard one I must say, it really sucks man.

[soxfan94]

Tell her that you need to do a "scientific experiment" to see if you prefer being single rather than being in a relationship with a girl who hooked up with 2 guys while you were dating her (and can we please clarify if you meant just kissing or actually hooking up as in sex?).

[Asker]

Oh no not sex. just kissing... she made out with these guys while I was gone. does that change anything?

[dorian840]

no bro she is still a slut. The sooner you dump her the sooner you will find somebody better.

[jazzlussh]

HELL NO you shouldn't be with her. my boyfriend just recently got back in town from being away for a little over month and I didn't think about other guys. and this is coming from a girl who's use to having sex at least 5 times a week. when your in love it doesn't even feel right being with other people. I think you can do better. don't you think there's a girl out there that WONT cheat on you

[hmm_ok]

I think you should definitely break it off. If she's cheating on you regardless the excuses its because she obviously doesn't care enough for you to be monotonous.

In your position I would be really betrayed and, I would break things off; like the old sayin ggoes; "Once a cheater always a cheater"

[Professor_Zoom]

Hold on now, you said emotionally meaningless kisses. So she didn't have sex with neither of these two guys?

[Asker]

No sex.... just kissing/maling out. what do you think?

[Ironpanther12]

Break it off bro if she can't handle being away for a while I'd classify her as a ho. Get rid of her you're better than that.

[KBob93]

Your turn to test your feelings this way... leave her.

[Littletad]

I'd dump her like radioactive waste.

[ILoveElectroHouse]

let me think no