We dated for over 2 years and things were going as a dream. I treated her like a queen and would do anything to make her happy. A couple of weeks ago, I got the: "We need to talk" message. She told me things weren't the same anymore and she didn't feel the same way for me. I was obviously in shock and could never see it coming. It has absolutely broken me, and I really struggle to move on. I've had a couple of "talks" with her since the break up, but it seems like she doesn't really care about me and my feelings. (Keep in mind that I love this girl to death and would do anything to get her back) Can anyone please help a broken boy..
Most Helpful Girl
Well she might have gotten bored. I honestly don't know but trust me there are plenty of girls wanting an amazing boyfriend like yourself. So if she doesn't appreciate this she will regret it. I say move on before you get more hurt she will realize sooner or later what she missed out on. I'm sorry break ups aren't easy. Find someone who will appreciate you and won't take you for granted. You never know she might reach out you or in the future you will get back together. You're only 20. You'll want to focus on your goals and what you want to do as well and then someone will come along and sweep you off like she did hang in there. For now move on and keep dating other girls0
Most Helpful Guy
I've been through what you have. And even worse, I know a friend who was like you got cheated on about two months before his wedding. Her reason? ", was not enough' for her.", "She wanted an equal".
Girls don't like a guy who is extremely lovey dovey! Sorry, they like the initial phase of it, but not everyday for years. That's the truth.
The ideal guy would be someone who is supporting and loving, but who would also EXPECT something off her too (without doing which he would be disappointed). That chase to meet an expectation, keeps her with him. Of course, if she's trying to meet unrealistic expectation and he's always disappointed, she may leave for other reasons.
I have seen it in more than 3 relationships, guys who expect some work out of their girls and don't fall on them everyday are the ones who keep them. The psych of it is that anything that is easily available is taken for granted. There is no thrill in knowing that thing, no ability for her to grow as a person, she doesn't feel like her abilities have any VALUE. We would even love a little baby for nothing, right?
Girl's like to be treated like princesses, yes, but she also wants to be with an EQUAL (or even a SUPERIOR). Ever hear of the common story where the dorky guy does all the hot girl's homework and gets nothing but a kiss on the cheek? Or not even that? Ever hear the story where a guy says he does "everything to keep her happy", but she leaves him? That's because she doesn't see you as an EQUAL. Girls irrespective of what they say, like to be an equal or an inferior to her man. It gives her the assurance that she has chosen a man worthy of her.
Lastly, SEX. If the sex was really good, she won't leave you. Despite girls behaving like sex doesn't matter, they have just the same base urges as guys. They are more careful about it because the consequences of such dangerous behavior can affect them more. A girl would leave a guy who can't satisfy her, just as how a guy would do the same! If she had an emotional attachment to him, or found that life with him was nice in terms of the future, or family goals she would put a greater effort in making the sex better. But there is a point after which she would either cheat, or end it.
Reflect on ALL these points. Which ones match your story? Only you know! Good luck. You can develop feelings for many girls. Bottom line : Be the most awesome person YOU CAN, everything else comes to you0