How do I tell my ex I can't sleep with him anymore?
My boyfriend and I are in college and we broke up a few days ago. We still had really strong feelings for each other but we mutually broke up because he had too much on his plate and as a result, he wasn't treating me very well. For the past two days he hasn't tried to sleep with me, but the two days before that, we had sex. I love him and I love sleeping with him, but because I know I shouldn't be with him, it's making it really hard to get over him. It's so hard to say goodbye to it, but I like someone else (we haven't even kissed, right now we're just friends) and I won't be able to open up to him and feel ready for another relationship if I'm still sleeping with my ex. How do I say it without being mean?
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This is a perfect example of why it's usually bad to be friends after a breakup. It's too easy to get caught up in the old emotions, too easy to get tangled in his life again. You both need time to recover and heal. I suggest you tell him that you need to not see him for a while. No conversations, no phone, no email, nothing. No contact. It's impossible to get over someone when you're still talking to them (let alone sleeping with them), it's like picking at a scab. At least for several months, have nothing to do with this guy. No contact at all. Don't worry about sounding mean; you can say it nicely. Put your needs first. Tell him you'll still care for him and your time together, but that you need to not see him at all so that you can recover from the breakup.
What Guys Said 1
do you have feelings for ur ex or not?cuz ur slping with him and you say you love him but now you have another guy that u're starting to like.its weird.right now you better judge if you want that other guy or ur ex.only then you make a move.u're making ur ex feel dirty if he knows you like someone else and yet ur slping with him
What Girls Said 2
He may get mad, he may not talk to you anymore. I do not know how your ex will reaction when you tell him. But just be honest-say look we broke up, even though I have feelings for you in order for me to move on then we need to stop having sex. Because to me with us being like we are not friends, having sex, etc etc if feels like we are still together when we aren't actually so.I think we need to stop having sex.having sex is a privilage youget when your with someone. And we are not together.I"m sorry.blab blab blab
just say you want more than just this, (ie an actual dating/relationship) or that you don't know anymore and just leave it at that, I don't think it has to be elaborate, hell get it either way