Should you ever actually tell a girl she broke your heart?

[Anonymous]

I've heard back and forth...upfront honesty if the situation arises, or just playing it off and am not sure which really is better. You wouldn't just randomly say "you broke my heart" of course, it would be more like if you found yourselves talking alone or maybe she noticed you act quiet/reserved around her, much different than before.

Feel free to apply it to both girls and guys

[december1990]

Heres the thing... Girls can be b words lol and guys can be douches... lol that's just the facts of life it goes BOTH ways... the thing is if you tell a girl she broke your heart she may be nice and say sorry but that's all she's gonna do, she's gonna apologize for breaking your heart.. but at the same time she wants to follow her heart and meet the love of her life so all she's gonna say is "im sorry I hurt you, I don't think I deserve somebody like you.. you can do better.. I just wanna be friends" or something like that... if she's heartless... which hopefully she's not... she may say something out of line or try to get back with you WHO KNOWS the outcome

Honestly but the cool guy way is ... act like you don't care... lol keep being yourself... Hang out with your dudes... Honestly for the next girl who meets you, she'd probably appreciate you open up and say your feelings... but if you don't wanna seem to your ex like your still not over her, the only thing you can do is play it off

I'd say... it's NEVER easy to be broken up with... Hell I liked this guy SO much... I was so excited, I thought he was gonna be in my life, I thought he was sweet, on the second date.. He ditched me... after that... he tried ignoring my calls... I didn't get over him for TWO YEARS and the sad thing is I barely knew him.. but since he ditched me he never gave me closure, he never gave me a true chance to get to like or not like him and I just asked "what if..." led me to a path of lonliness, desperation.. and yeah... so dude you may feel pretty crappy... for awhile

I'd say don't focus on her whatever you do, don't focus on the things you both did.. don't think you can't live without her... because after a couple of years, you'll come to yourself and be like "i can't live this way aka sad anymore."

what helped me was finding myself... for a year I was missing and wishing I could of been with that guy.. I thought "what ifs" and before I knew it. I lost all sense of who I was.. I lost my goals and passions in life and my main focus was not being lonely anymore

don't get to that point! I'd say dude save yourself from the troubles I had... hang out with your dudes.. don't chase after any new chicks for now.. FIND YOURSELF AGAIN first.. develop your own goals and passions. and when your confident and happy on your own.. THAN if a new chick comes along than go after her.. but NOT now when your in your desperate state, let yourself heal, and FIND YOURSELF AGAIN

for me.. I wrote down reccently where I wanted my life to go: career wise and vision wise. I wrote down all the cool things I wanna do and accomplish now. it gives me something to work towards. hang out with your buddies. pray. focus on you, find yourself and become happy as you are!

Good luck, and DO NOT let yourself feel sad and lonely

[december1990]

Also.. you CAN tell her your feelings if it makes you feel better... Honestly I'd say tell her your feelings... Honestly all that I said below cross it off.. Tell her how you feel, that way you get closure.

It may be the ONLY way you get closure. When your on the phone with her, I warn you, you may miss her and wish things were different.. BUT... this is your closure, this will help you move on. Tell her how you feel, how she broke your heart... THAN when you get your closure ... and after a little time of healing and you find yourself again

THAN you can move on and meet a new girl possibly (when the time is right don't jump in too soon- unless a really nice girl comes to you)...

Good luck

[Anonymous]

I don't think so caz they can useit against you and pull on your strings like a puppet..and play with you're mind

[coolbeans01]

I would say it or something along the lines of it but I would only do it at the right moments, kind of like one of those "movie moments"

Me and her talking one on one, both of us being completely honest, then there's one of those pauses where both people realize exactly what has or will happen and then slide the line in there and see where it goes from there.

But if she's being a bitch or cold when we talk then I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of knowing she broke my heart.

[Moloch]

No it gives her power over you, just let it be and pretend it doesn't bother you.