Has anyone had "no contact" not work for them and backfire?

[Anonymous]

So I did the whole no contact thing after I was dumped, even though she said she wanted to be friends, have me in her life and loved me very much. I did no contact for 2 months, went out had fun, tried to become a better person and secretly kind of hoped she would call me and contact me first. Now I found out she has a boyfriend who she's been seeing, and wants nothing to do with me.

Has anyone else had no contact not work for them at all and backfire?

[missing-him]

yes .. I thought I would try the "no contact and they will come crawling back" routine and it didn't work! BUT by the time I realized it wasnt working and that he wasnt contacting me I didn't care anymore because I had moved on! trust me the people who say time heals everything are VERY right and having no contact just helps speed up the time it will take to get over that person

[windyone]

No not really but if you wanted her you should of been straight up and told her. Also I misread what you said I thought you broke it off with her but since she originally broke it off with you maybe it was just doomed from the jump. Maybe she just said all those things to you to be nice. If she has moved on then you do the same. I'm sure your a good guy.

[lilmama]

yup and it sux! but at the same time it showed me it wasn't worth my time cause if he did care he would have tried to contact me. kinda makes you wonder how much you really meant to them.

[Anonymous]

"friends" after a break up rarely works anyway.

why do you care?

she has a new guy and she can move on.

i am not contacting my ex because I have no interest in talking to her not because I want to play some game.

[mouseboi]

You have the right idea but the intention was misplaced. Do it not to win her back. Do it to genuinely be a better person and learn from this experience.

[Pinay_ako]

No contact is for YOU to heal to move on...

[Shlei3]

Here's the way I see it, no contact is ideal for people who want to get over their ex and move on. It is not going to work for someone who is hoping to get their ex back.

[Anonymous]

The point of not contacting her isn't to get her back. It's to move on.